The Unconscious Flyness Show

Too many men are struggling with dating because they’re approaching relationships without purpose, communication, or emotional maturity. But I’m here to help change that. In this video, I’m breaking down 3 practical tips every man NEEDS to become more intentional in dating, build stronger connections, and stop making the same mistakes that keep ruining opportunities with great women! These resourc...

What If Everything We Were Taught About Being Men Was Wrong? What if some of the biggest lessons we learned about manhood were never true in the first place? For generations, men have been handed a blueprint for masculinity: Be the provider. Don't show emotion. Handle everything yourself. Stay strong no matter what. But what happens when the advice you've been given doesn't actually lead to the li...

What if I told you that true healthy masculinity was rooted in accountability and not misogyny? Welcome to Flyness U, a special 9 episode series hosted by Pat Lee where he shares some helpful teachings and words of affirmation designed to help unite Black men who and Black women to build a united front as a collective. Pat unpacks a difficult but necessary conversation: how misogyny is poisoning m...

Our hot topics of the week is now its own segment! Every week, hosts Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee discuss the trending topics of the week and share our thoughts only as we can! This week, we discuss the questionable credentials of Cheyenne Bryant, Drake's Iceman release, and The Roast of Kevin Hart! It's an informative and comedic episode, so don't miss out!

What if we told you that men are the real gold diggers? We know that women have been given this unfair label for decades, but what stops us from calling men the same? How are they taking advantage of women financially? Learn the reasons plus more on this week's episode of the Unconscious Flyness Show!

Imposter Syndrome hits different when you’re a Black man trying to navigate spaces that were never built with you in mind. In this episode of The Unconscious Flyness Show, Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee get into how imposter syndrome shows up in corporate America, content creation, code-switching, respectability politics, and the constant pressure to shrink yourself just to make other people comfortable...

Women are confusing. And sometimes it feels like we’re speaking a different language. In this episode, we playfully discuss the things women do that confuse us. From expectations to communication, we take you inside the cigar room and right into the conversations we’re having. It’s all love and laughter. So let’s have fun with it. Are women confusing to you? How about the men? Tap in and share you...

In this episode, we unpack the controversial topic of “high value men” and explore whether they are genuinely misunderstood or if the term has become a cover for toxic behavior. With the rise of social media discussions around masculinity, dating standards, and relationship roles, the idea of the high value man has sparked major debate. Some view it as a symbol of discipline, success, and leadersh...

The viral question “What was it like in the 90s?” has everyone talking—but this episode goes beyond surface-level nostalgia to explore the real experiences behind it. We dive into what it truly meant to grow up in the 90s, especially as Black kids navigating culture, community, and identity before the rise of social media (and thank God we didn't have social media back then!) From unforgettable ch...

Pastor Jamal Bryant has stated that the Target Boycott is over. But is it really over or are folks really trying to spend their hard earned dollars at the retail giant again? In this segment, we discuss the Target boycott from our perspective. We share our thoughts on why the boycott won’t end and why this will impact the landscape of corporate spending as we know it. Welcome to “Off the Flyness”....

In this episode, we dive into the growing awards season buzz surrounding Sinners and ask the big question: can this masterpiece actually go all the way at the Oscars? From its viral momentum to the cultural conversation surrounding the film, we break down why Sinners has what it takes to dominate the covered awards ceremony. Plus listen to us analyze, roast, and critique the viral Pretty Ricky vid...

The red pill movement claims to “wake men up.” But what if it’s actually poisoning minds? In this episode of Unconscious Flyness , CookingWithPatLee and Chad DeShawn confront the rise of red pill ideology, manosphere culture, and dominance-driven masculinity narratives that are reshaping how young men think about women, relationships, power, and identity. We break down how red pill content: • Enco...