The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

The holidays can be a trying time for a lot of folks. I know this because so many reach out to me asking for advice on how to deal with a difficult ex, challenging family situations, or being alone. In this solo episode I give a three point plan on how to not only survive the holidays but how to thrive during them. Give it a listen and feel free to DM me on Instagram @traverboehm with any thoughts...

Our military and first responders receive so much training in preparation for their careers in service, but so little training in preparation to send them back out into the civilian world.  In this Veteran's Day bonus episode I sit wit Dave Boyd, a former firefighter, police officer, SWAT, active military and current president of Man UNcivilized, to discuss what veterans and first responders...

We seek to solve problems like toxic masculinity in men when our focus should be given to boys to avoid these types of struggles in their adulthood. Our childhood and how we are educated greatly influence our mentality and way of thinking. That is why giving the necessary education to children is essential for their development. In this new episode, we will have Richard Reeves, the author of Of Bo...

So many men are frozen. So many men are riddled with anxiety. So many men want yet have convinced themselves they cannot have. Why? Their fear of the unknown. And the fear they have with the unknown stems from not cultivating a relationship with themselves AND the unknown parts of their lives. In this solo episode I break down some concrete ways to liberate yourself from the stories in your head a...

Today we are joined by Stefanos Sifandos and will be talking about fatherhood, childhood traumas, confidence, and money,  things most men deal with. Stefanos is a trained educator and relationship expert with a background in behavioral science. To be successful, you have to start working internally. If you haven't you started this is a great time to dive in. ABOUT STEFANOS SIFANDOS He is pass...

Folks, In this episode I give you three of my favorite tools to take you from civilized to UNcivilized. I’m not going to tell you what they are here, you’re just going to have to listen to the episode! I’ve also got an announcement for you at the end so please listen all the way through and share this with one man in your life for me. Yours UNcivilized, Traver If you look at the civilized world an...

Did you know that the lack of connection can lead us to depression, addiction, infidelity, and even a midlife crisis? A society that celebrates function has forced hundreds of men to think logically, suppressing their emotions and sweeping them under the rug. What we do not know is that this is an error that later in life, it will be difficult for us to solve. In this episode, we will be joined by...

In this solo episode I dive head first into uncharted relationship waters, first talking about why there’s so much shame thrown on men who are single by choice. I then tackle what I think is the REAL relationship issue — the standard relationship paradigm doesn’t work with the male nervous system. This episode is bound to upset a lot of people, be warned. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized...

As children, our lives and decisions were driven by the wishes and dreams that our caregivers placed upon us. However, everything changes when we grow up and start to make decisions on our own. We become the drivers of our future, so at some point, it is important to ask ourselves: what do I want to do with my life? In this episode, we will be joined by Alex Weber, a man with an interesting biogra...

In this solo episode, I take a listener’s challenge he’s having in his relationship and dive into it. He had found that he and his wife were in a pattern of ending the day sitting on the coach, watching tv night after night. They weren’t talking, they weren’t connecting and they weren’t having sex. This is an episode for anyone in a relationship or anyone who plans to be in a relationship! Enjoy,...

This former gang member sentenced to 24 years in prison is the perfect example of how transformation exists if we feel supported and heard. Today's guest is Eldra Jackson. At just 14 years old, Eldra was convicted of a series of gang violence crimes. Locked up in prison, he had to live alone with his mind due to the environment around him until the Inside Circle community gave him the opportunity...

This solo episode is inspired by another Instagram question I got about how to navigate the loss of marriage when your spouse suddenly ups and leaves and dives right into a brand new relationship. While I hope this never happens to you, if it does, here are some ways to cope with the loss and move powerfully forward. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then...

There is a belief that the first responders are broken after their service. Although it is not entirely untrue—since some suffer from PTSD—there is always room to heal. Today's guest is Tom Gaines, a man passionate about serving and helping others. This led him to serve as a military and special force for several years. In this episode, Tom will be talking about service and the importance of align...

This episode is inspired by an Instagram message I got asking how I built a powerful network of amazing male friends. It’s not lost on me that many men suffer from a lack of friendship, or are dissatisfied with the depth they have with their friend group. I count myself as extremely fortunate to have the circle I do. In this episode I dive into ways that men can build and maintain deep friendships...

Men and relationship are often considered to be like oil and water, but why is that? When I asked my audience what questions they have as men, and for men, about relationship challenges — my inbox was flooded. For this special episode of the podcast, we recorded a live call with over 100 people in attendance and took questions from the audience about how men can be more successful in relationship...

Loving his partner and desiring another woman; the duality of men. According to Sigmund Freud's theory named The Madonna-whore Complex, there can be no love in man's desire and vice versa. To discuss and dive better into this psychological complex, the sex and relationship coach, Jamie Elizabeth Thompson, will join us in this episode. You will learn how to communicate your desires as a cou...

 This is a major block for so many men — and it shouldn’t be. Doing personal work, growth work, and/or healing work is the furthest thing from selfish. In fact, it’s the opposite. The stronger and healthier you make yourself, the more you can provide and guide those around you. In this quick and dirty solo episode, I dive into all of this. If it lands, please share it with one man in your lif...

In this extraordinary episode, The UNcivilized Nation Elder Council, Duey Freeman and Mark Sylvester chime in live from the Uncivilized Men’s Initiation where they share their journey as fathers, grandfathers, healers, businessmen, and elders. They also field questions directly from the men at the event. This is one of the most profound conversations I’ve ever heard in my life and is a must listen...

Imagine growing up with the talent of teaching and advising your parents from a very young age; this is the story of today's guest, Jayaji. An unusual story and life. It all started when his mother's psychic friend predicted his future at first sight. After many years, that vision became a reality because today, Jayaji is a yoga teacher and spiritual guide. From Australia to Guatemala, he still ha...

In this episode Duey Freeman, Michael Gay and I sit down and break down what we learned after four intense days with 30 men in a workshop. We dive into the power of loneliness and the intense ways it affects men. We chat about the necessity of having a relationship with the land under your feet and how so many men truly do want to be better partners and fathers. And how all of this gets shifted, u...

In this solo episode I break down why every man needs to have a physical training regimen. From running to lifting weights to Jiu Jitsu, it matters little. What matters most is that each man understands it is his RESPONSIBILITY to be in shape, strong and capable. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss...

The brain and a computer are light years apart from being the same. It is true that both store data, process information, and perform tasks. However, although technology tries to simulate the human intelligence processes, the human brain has proven to be better adapted than any computer could. To dive into this topic, today we will be joined by the Story Science Professor, Angus Fletcher. Angus is...

There’s a single line in Robert Bly’s Iron John that grabbed me. “The activity men were once loved for is no longer required.” In this solo episode I look at both sides of the argument for this notion, ending on how Covid and the recent shifts in the world have made men even more needed and our activities even more worthy of celebration. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think,...

From college poet to best-selling author. Today's guest is Sylvester McNutt, surely you have heard of him, and if not, in today's episode, you will meet the renowned author of 9 books who is soon to release his tenth. Sylvester's story shows us how taking leaps of faith can change our lives. Today we will hear how our guest went from being a college poet and working at corporate America to becomin...

In my work with Nice Guys, many of them express a deep desire to be taken more seriously as a man. While this may seem like an elusive goal, completely dependent on the whims of the outside world, it is not. In this solo episode I dive into the ways you can immediately begin to shift how the world sees you, by shifting how you see yourself. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and thin...