The U Problem with Dr. P

In this episode of "The U Problem with Dr. P," Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks to a 62-year-old woman who is frustrated with her dating life. The caller shares that she's often asked for hookups but never for real dates. Dr. P emphasizes that when a man is interested, he'll make a move. She encourages the caller and other women in similar situations to do their due diligence and ask a...

In this powerful and candid episode of The U Problem, Dr. Nicole Perez talks with a caller, a former nurse who is navigating life after incarceration. The caller shares her struggle to reintegrate into society while carrying the weight of a felony record—a result of a past battle with drug addiction. Dr. Perez offers a fresh perspective on rehabilitation and resilience, encouraging the caller to l...

In this episode of "The U Problem with Dr. P," Dr. Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks to Caller #29 whose grief feels like an infectious disease. The caller shares her journey of dealing with the tragic loss of her two daughters in a car accident and how she feels isolated by friends and co-workers who don't know how to act around her. Dr. P offers her compassion, support, and professional a...

In this episode of The U Problem, Dr. Nicole Perez talks with a caller who is a lifelong "overthinker" struggling with the burden of chronic indecision. Their conversation uncovers how a childhood shaped by an alcoholic parent and "transactional" relationships created a mental environment where self-trust is constantly undermined by internal debate.

In this episode of The U Problem with Dr. P, psychologist Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks with a 50-year-old man navigating a communication disconnect with his partner. The caller is a self-described "loud and animated" talker, while his partner comes from a background where talking about feelings isn't the norm. Dr. P challenges the caller to consider how his high-energy communication st...

In this episode of The U Problem, Dr. Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks with a caller who is reeling from the sudden end of an eight-year-old connection that recently turned into a physical affair. After months of intense communication and emotional involvement, her partner in the affair abruptly cut off all contact, leaving her feeling hurt and abandoned. Dr. P provides a reality check, reframing the pa...

In this candid episode of "The U Problem with Dr. P," Dr. Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks with a caller, a straight, heterosexual man who has lived with a secret for decades. He opens up about his lifelong affinity for shiny spandex leggings and cat-suits—a preference he has kept hidden due to societal pressures and the fear of being labeled. Dr. P challenges the "fetish" label, ref...

In this episode of "The U Problem with Dr. P," Dr. Nicole Perez (Dr. P) talks to a 51-year-old woman who has spent the last decade in a series of casual "situationships" after a 22-year marriage. She discusses her pattern of dating men she knows aren't right for her, and Dr. P helps her realize that this might be a way of protecting herself from the vulnerability of a serio...

Are you driving the boat, or is your coping mechanism steering you into a storm? In this episode of The U Problem with Dr. P, our caller opens up about her journey through recovery and the "hyper-sexual" habits she built to protect herself during a season of intense grief. Dr. Nicole Perez delivers a hilarious yet deeply moving wake-up call on the difference between enjoying intimacy and...

Ever feel like your brain has too many tabs open and they’re all playing different music? 🧠🎶Dr. P explains why that intense, saturated way of feeling the world is both a gift and a total wrecking ball. It’s time to stop bouncing off the walls and start building some guardrails."On one hand, you're like, 'This is amazing, I can freeze s***!' And on the other hand, it's like,...

Relationships can take a lot of unexpected turns... for example, you may not expect to wake up married and co-parenting one day with your chatroom "playmate." But alas, on this episode of The U Problem with Dr. P, our caller gets real about the awkward evolution of a marriage that started with "scuba diving" and ended up in the suburbs. Reflecting on the slowed down pace of the...

You can't squeeze orange juice from a lemon. On this episode of The U Problem with Dr. P, a grown-a** woman is tired of the toxic, on-and-off again relationship she has with her mother -- a cycle that recently landed her in the emergency room. Although her caller is desperate to cultivate a healthy relationship with her mother, Dr. P assures her, she's fighting a losing battle. "Somet...

How do you move forward when a decade of silence stands between you and your children? 💔After a lengthy separation from her children, an anxious mother is preparing for reconciliation. Dr. P tells her she can't move forward when she's stuck in the past, advising her to let go of the anger she feels toward those who separated them and welcome her kids into her life as a healthy, loving par...

Are you constantly picking partners who don't respect your independence? Watch as Dr. P helps a caller navigate the difficulties of being with an insecure partner who struggles to give her space. Learn how to recognize the signs of insecurity in your relationships and how to set healthy boundaries.

Ever wonder what drives someone to infidelity—and if they can truly change? In this episode of The U Problem, Dr. Nicole Perez talks with a "reformed cheater" who opens up about his journey from pathological infidelity to finding self-respect and commitment." Loyalty is about self-respect." — Dr. Nicole Perez Watch the full conversation to learn more about the psychology behind...

Caller #16 opens up about her journey: finding self-esteem through nude modeling after a divorce and weight gain, and then turning it into an educational business on sexual health. Dr. P’s key takeaway? Your self-image doesn't depend on what you do, but on owning who you are and letting go of what others think. It's about finding what you're passionate about and pursuing it healthily....

Dr. P discusses how true healing is like a company changing management. You clear out what doesn't work so the new, healthy system can thrive. If you've done the healing work, you need to look at your social dynamics—are they yielding the results you want? Listen to the full episode of The U Problem with Dr. P for more insights!

Starting a life of sobriety is a huge accomplishment, but it can feel incredibly lonely when your old social circle disappears. This week's caller (30) is navigating this difficult transition after 16 years of addiction. Dr. P confirms: A major life change like sobriety is like a "windchime"—everything around you moves and sounds different. The people you knew before were only able t...

Are you "on-again, off-again" after a breakup? 💔 This week's caller is feeling bored and uncertain a month after ending her one-year relationship. Dr. P warns: You cannot be "dipping your toes in two ponds". Be truly done with the old relationship before you look for the new one! Watch the full episode for advice on how to get out of the "danger zone" and start y...

Age is just a number... unless you're using it to dodge responsibilities! 🙄 This week's caller (30) is frustrated because her 52-year-old husband is using his age as an excuse for being "helpless" and avoiding housework or going out. Dr. P calls BS! 🗣️ 52 is NOT too old to cook, have sex, or be an active partner. It's a case of feigned helplessness to shift the burden onto his younger wife. If he...

Caught in the middle of holiday family political fights? 🥪 Dr. P has a warning for this week's caller: "You are the ham of the sandwich that gets eaten!" If your family's "humor" is just designed to provoke your partner, the conflict isn't about politics—it's about disrespect. Stop mediating and set a boundary on the behavior , not the topic. Listen to our late...

There is redemption in the truth. 💡 The toughest conversations are the ones that save your relationships. Be direct, honest, and always explain the “why” to give them a chance to understand … If you want to preserve a relationship, you need to be willing to face the anxiety of confrontation.

A woman calls Dr. P, feeling overwhelmed and "paralyzed" by her veteran husband's severe, unregulated PTSD, which involves screaming and emotional abuse, despite him being highly respected in the community. She is confused about whether to stay, especially since her daughter is now recording the abuse. Dr. P emphasizes that the caller's confusion is her "U problem," and...

A caller describes a highly unusual but brilliant arrangement with her boyfriend: a notarized, exclusive "sex contract" detailing their boundaries and desires. The problem is that her boyfriend, who is leading the role-playing, is hesitant to let her take the creative reins. Dr. P advises the caller not to worry about asking for "more," but rather to leverage the contract by as...

A 55-year-old educated woman calls Dr. P, frustrated and feeling "tainted" because she has been unable to find a comparable partner after being divorced for ten years, despite trying dating apps. Dr. P quickly identifies the caller's main problem: she's not putting herself out there as the independent woman she is. Dr. P strongly advises her to focus on being confidently alone in...