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In Episode 13, Hayes and AK reflect on how growth, healing, loss, relationships, and life transitions changed the way they think about time. They talk about realizing how quickly life moves, how much time was spent surviving instead of living, and how differently they value their energy, peace, relationships, and experiences now. This episode explores intentional living, slowing down, being presen...

In Episode 12, Hayes and AK talk about the difficult reality of growth changing relationships, expectations, and the way people respond to you. They reflect on what happens when you stop people-pleasing, stop shrinking yourself, and begin living more honestly — and how not everyone grows with you. This episode explores the discomfort of evolving, the guilt that can come with changing boundaries an...

In Episode 11, Hayes and AK have one of their deepest conversations yet as they reflect on what healing has actually required of them emotionally, mentally, and personally. They talk about confronting old wounds, recognizing unhealthy patterns, taking accountability for the ways they responded to pain, and realizing that healing isn’t about putting yourself back together the same way. This episode...

In Episode 10, Hayes and AK reflect on what they’re intentionally building now after years of growth, change, endings, and rebuilding. They talk about authenticity, boundaries, relationships, friendships, and the shift from surviving life to creating one that actually feels aligned. This episode explores what it looks like to stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable, how smaller but mor...

In Episode 9, Hayes and AK reflect on the moments in life where everything seemed to fall apart — relationships ending, identity shifts, emotional exhaustion, and major life changes — and how those experiences ultimately led to rebuilding in a healthier and more intentional way. This episode explores what it feels like to watch your old life unravel, the fear that comes with uncertainty, and the r...

In Episode 8, Hayes and AK reflect on the beliefs they grew up with surrounding marriage, divorce, stability, and commitment — and how those beliefs changed through lived experience. They talk about the assumptions they once had, the judgment surrounding divorce, and the difficult process of realizing that ending something doesn’t always mean failure. This episode explores identity, rebuilding, an...

The Trouble with Life Is… You Have to Unlearn Things Before You Can Live Differently In Episode 7, Hayes and AK shift from understanding what shaped them to talking about what they’re actively unlearning. They explore the habits, reactions, and thought patterns that once made sense—but no longer fit the life they’re building now. This episode focuses on what it looks like to choose differently in...

🎙️ EPISODE 6 SUMMARY The Trouble with Life Is… You Don’t Always Realize What Shaped You In Episode 6, Hayes and AK take a deeper look at how early experiences can shape the way we think, react, and move through relationships—often without us realizing it at the time. They reflect on what felt “normal” growing up, what they now see differently, and how those early patterns carried into adulthood. T...

The Trouble with Life Is… Not Everyone Understands What It Feels Like in Your Mind In Episode 5, Hayes and AK talk about mental health from the inside out. AK shares her experience with ADHD, while both explore how anxiety and depression show up in ways that aren’t always visible. They unpack the gap between how things look on the outside and what they actually feel like internally—overthinking, m...

The Trouble with Life Is… You Don’t Know Your Boundaries Until You Need Them In Episode 4, Hayes and AK take a deeper look at how boundaries are often discovered through experience, not defined ahead of time. They reflect on how they used to move through situations without questioning what felt off, and how being “easygoing” sometimes meant ignoring their own needs. This conversation goes further...

he Trouble with Life Is… You Don’t Always Realize What You’re Carrying Into Things In Episode 3, Hayes and AK take a deeper look at the patterns we bring into situations without realizing it. Building off their conversation about communication, they explore how past experiences, assumptions, and emotional habits can quietly shape how we react in the present. They talk through what this has looked...

he Trouble with Life Is… You Don’t Communicate the Same Way Anymore In Episode 2, Hayes and AK get specific about how their communication has changed over time — especially in relationships. They talk about the shift from avoiding difficult conversations to addressing things earlier, and how letting things build in the past impacted how they showed up. This episode dives into what it looks like to...

  Season 2 opens in the present — not looking back, but sitting in what life looks like now. Hayes and AK talk about what it feels like to be in a completely different phase of life, where the routines, relationships, and ways of thinking don’t look the same as they used to. This episode explores the reality of unlearning old habits, navigating change in real time, and figuring out how to move thr...

Season 2 shifts the conversation — less explaining, more honesty. This season dives into the thoughts we have but don’t say out loud: the decisions we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the moments where we already know what we need to do… but don’t act on it. These aren’t conversations about other people — they’re about us. The choices we make, the stories we tell ourselves, and the truths we don...

You’re not behind your life — you’re in it. Episode 15 closes out the season with a conversation about the pressure to always be improving, fixing, or figuring things out… and what it looks like to stop chasing a moving finish line. Not everything has to be resolved for you to be present in your life right now. Sometimes things are unfinished, unclear, or still in progress — and you’re still allow...

In Episode 14 of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK explore what happens when growth moves from internal awareness to external action. Once you see something clearly — a dynamic, a pattern, a misalignment — you can’t unsee it. And that knowing quietly changes how you show up in your relationships, work, and daily life. This episode dives into the social cost of clarity, the awkwardness of act...

The Trouble with Life Is… Everything Can’t Matter at the Same Time In Episode 13 of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK explore the quiet truth that everything can’t matter at the same time — even when life makes it feel that way. This conversation centers on discernment, energy, and choice: the difference between what’s urgent and what’s important, how guilt shapes priorities, and why “for no...

The Trouble with Life Is… You Carry More Than People See In Episode 12 of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK hold space for the invisible weight so many people carry. This conversation explores what it means to be strong, where our definitions of strength come from, and how carrying responsibility, expectation, and emotional labor quietly shapes us over time. Rather than trying to fix or refr...

The Trouble with Life Is… You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind In Episode 11 of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK talk about the surprisingly hard — and deeply human — act of changing your mind. From sticking with things longer than we should to realizing new information changes what fits, this episode reframes pivots as learning instead of failure. With warmth, humor, and plenty of “same” mom...

The Trouble with Life Is… We’re Still Becoming In the Season 1 finale of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK reflect on what it means to keep becoming without pressure to arrive. This episode weaves together the lessons of the season — letting go of timelines, releasing expectations, and learning to trust steady movement over finish lines — with honesty, warmth, and lighthearted humor. Rather...

The Trouble with Life Is… We’re Still Here (Just Unthawing) In Episode 9 of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK reflect on the quieter work of getting through winter — balancing work, life, responsibilities, and exhaustion while everything feels heavier and slower. Winter doesn’t pause life, and this episode holds space for survival mode, emotional fatigue, and the cautious ways we move when t...

this episode of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK explore what it means to live in the overlap — the space where who you were, who you are, and who you thought you’d be all exist at the same time. Life doesn’t move in neat chapters, and this conversation makes room for the relief, grief, and complIn exity that come with holding more than one version of yourself at once. Rather than rushing t...

In this episode of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK lean into humor, nostalgia, and honesty to talk about expectations versus reality — and all the ways adulthood turned out very differently than we imagined. From childhood dreams and career plans to parenting, money, and keeping up with laundry, this conversation reminds us that growth doesn’t always look like having it all figured out. So...

In this episode of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK explore the difference between being alone and feeling lonely — and how self-worth shapes the way we experience both. They talk honestly about choosing solitude as a form of care, recognizing when disconnection becomes avoidance, and learning how to stay with yourself without disappearing. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on...

In this episode of The Trouble with Life Is…, Hayes and AK reflect on the year that’s passed — not with judgment, but with honesty. Together, they talk about embracing what the year brought, both the good and the hard, and recognizing how much distance you’ve traveled since then. This conversation explores the idea that growth doesn’t always look dramatic, that being “not there anymore” can be bot...