The Things Left Unsaid podcast

This week, Kola sits down with Bayo to tackle a topic many of us can relate to: the burden of one-sided friendships and relationships. They dive into the emotional toll of investing in connections where the effort isn’t mutual, and discuss how to recognize when it's time to let go. Whether it's with friends, partners, or even family, one-sided relationships can be draining. Tune in for the honest...

In this week’s episode, Kola is joined by a special guest, Olamilekan, as they dive into the powerful concept of personal struggles and how they shape us into who we are. Together, they explore the importance of embracing challenges, the lessons they teach, and how they ultimately lead to growth and success. Whether you're dealing with something big or small, this episode will remind you that your...

Happy New Month, everyone! It’s August 1st, and we’re kicking off with a very special episode. We’ve got Femi joining us today, and we’re diving deep into the crucial topic of body shaming and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD). But before we get into that, we’ll have some quick side gists—talking about a viral IG clip on relationship dynamics, the nationwide protests against bad governance in Nigeria...

Hey fam! This week, Kola is breaking it down on why it's time to ditch the forced vibes and embrace connections that flow effortlessly. In this episode, we're getting real about setting boundaries, avoiding energy vampires, and finding those soul-nourishing relationships that make life sweeter. Kola shares his journey of letting go of people-pleasing and recognizing the true value of easeful conne...

In this episode, Kola delivers a powerful reminder about the bare minimum standards everyone deserves in their relationships. From respect and honesty to communication and empathy, Kola emphasizes that these are not negotiable and you shouldn’t have to beg for them. Tune in for a candid discussion on why you deserve these basics and how to demand them in all your interactions. Hosted on Acast. See...

In this episode, Kola dives deep into the concept of finding and maintaining inner peace without relying on others. He shares personal stories and practical tips on how to cultivate a sense of calm and stability that comes from within. From setting boundaries to developing self-care routines, Kola discusses the importance of detaching your peace from external factors and embracing self-reliance. T...

In this solo episode, Kola delves into the profound topic of recognizing and respecting the unique battles each of us face. He explores why comparing our struggles to others can be harmful and how empathy and understanding are crucial in fostering a supportive environment. Kola shares personal experiences and offers practical strategies for validating your own challenges while supporting others in...

In this solo episode, Kola delves into the significance of reciprocating and returning the same energy in all types of relationships—be it friendships, romantic partnerships, or professional interactions. He explains how balanced energy fosters healthy, respectful, and mutually satisfying connections. Kola shares personal insights, discusses signs of imbalanced energy, and offers practical strateg...

This week, Kola takes a deep dive into the complex journey of healing. He discusses the reality that healing isn't a straight path to perfection; it's full of triggers, fears, and moments of emotional closure. Kola explores the importance of acknowledging these challenges while understanding that healing is about making small steps and progress. Through personal anecdotes and deep reflections, he...

In this episode, Kola and his guest, Abdulazeez Arewa, dive into the unique and unconditional love that parents have for their children. They discuss how this love shapes our emotional growth, self-worth, and life lessons. Through personal stories and reflections, they highlight the impact of parental love and the importance of maintaining strong family bonds. Tune in to celebrate and appreciate t...

This week, Kola is back with a special guest, Tomiwa, to dive deep into a topic that hits close to home: the boundaries of goodbyes. Whether it’s breaking up with a partner, drifting from a friend, quitting a job, or even saying bye on social media, we all need to set some boundaries to protect our vibes. Kola and Tomiwa get real about what it means to set boundaries when it’s time to part ways. T...

In this week's episode, Kola and special guest Olatunde dive into the messy world of family dynamics, zeroing in on what disrespect in families really means. They share real-life examples, dish on the causes, and break down the effects of that all-too-familiar tension. From heated arguments to silent treatments, they cover it all. The duo also offers up some solid tips on how to navigate and resol...

This week, Kola opens up like never before in the “How Are You” episode. Delving into his deepest emotions, he shares his struggles with feeling unfulfilled and the burning desire for something more. With raw honesty and vulnerability, Kola explores the challenges we all face in our pursuit of happiness and purpose. Join him on this emotional journey as he reflects on life’s turbulence and the con...

This week, Kola takes the mic solo to shine a light on the International Day of the Boy Child. He explores pressing issues like mental health struggles, and societal pressures that boys face today. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, Kola delves into the often-overlooked aspects of mental health, discussing misdiagnosed conditions, the pitfalls of self-diagnosis, and ways we can better supp...

Join Kola and Mobolaji as they dive into a crucial topic for millennials and Gen Z: the decision to settle down with their significant others. They explore the age-old dilemma of whether to prioritize their partner's support or seek their parents' approval. With engaging anecdotes and thoughtful analysis, this episode offers a nuanced discussion on the complexities of modern relationships and fami...

Join Kola and Blaqboydee in a candid discussion about the realities of Nigeria's youth navigating the 9-5 grind and the hustle life. From corporate challenges to entrepreneurial pursuits, they share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the resilience and determination of Nigerian youths. This episode offers a raw and unfiltered look at the hustle and heart behind Nigeria's work culture....

Join host Kola and returning guest Tofunmi as they delve into the complexities of expectations. From personal experiences to societal pressures, they explore the impact of expectations on self, relationships, and personal growth. With candid discussions and thoughtful insights, this episode offers a fresh perspective on managing expectations in a world full of standards. Hosted on Acast. See acast...

This week on "The Things Left Unsaid Podcast," we're getting real about something we've all felt: the eerie void left by unspoken goodbyes. Joined by a special guest, we're sharing stories and vibes about the weirdness that comes with relationships ending without a proper farewell. We're digging deep into those feelings of loss, confusion, and 'what ifs' that linger after someone disappears from y...

In this episode, Kola, Thomas, and guest Chuks explore the nuanced world of secrets, discussing the impact of hidden truths on our lives. They reflect on current social media trends, sharing personal stories and insights. The hosts delve into the complexities of keeping secrets, highlighting the fine balance between sharing and concealing. They discuss the burden of bearing another's secret and th...

In this episode Kola and Thomas delve into the often-overlooked aspects of pretty privilege, shedding light on the hidden challenges and complexities that come with being perceived as conventionally attractive. Joined by guest Tofunmi, they discuss personal experiences and societal expectations, highlighting the impact of pretty privilege on self-esteem, relationships, and opportunities. They shar...

In this episode Kola and Thomas delve into the topic of settling, examining why people often choose comfort over growth in various aspects of life. They share personal stories and insights, highlighting the pitfalls of settling for less than one deserves. They discuss the importance of recognizing when you are settling and offer practical tips for stepping out of your comfort zone to pursue your g...

In this episode Kola and Thomas dive into a thought-provoking discussion on the conflict between societal expectations and personal desires. They explore the challenges individuals face when choosing to follow their own path, rather than conforming to societal norms. They share personal anecdotes and insights, highlighting the importance of authenticity and self-expression. They discuss the impact...

In this episode Kola starts by addressing the current economic challenges in Nigeria, sharing his candid thoughts and frustrations. He then shifts the focus to the main topic: friends with benefits and the often-unspoken repercussions of such relationships. He dives deep into the dynamics of friends with benefits, discussing the emotional complexities, potential misunderstandings, and the need for...

In this episode, we delve into the story of a listener who is facing challenges in proving their worth and being recognised for their efforts. Kola shares valuable insights on the importance of persistence, resilience, and unwavering determination in such situations. He recounts his own experiences and advises the listener to focus on their goals, work diligently, and showcase their capabilities t...

Join hosts Thomas and Kola, along with guest Kitan of Lagos, as they explore the nuanced experience of loneliness within relationships. Despite being in a partnership, many individuals experience feelings of isolation and disconnection. Together, they discuss the root causes of relationship loneliness, its impact on mental health and well-being, and practical strategies for fostering deeper connec...