The Stories We Tell

In today's episode, I go back to a conversation I had with Thomas Waterman, back in 2022. I had the opportunity to sit down with Thomas and have a beautiful conversation about his story of leadership and, ultimately, his story of finding himself. This was one of my favorite conversations, and the universe brought it back around full circle. Follow Thomas on Social: IG : @thomasishuman Want to...

If you’ve been feeling more anxious, on edge, exhausted, or emotionally flooded lately… you’re not imagining it. Between nonstop headlines, political tension, global uncertainty, and the constant stream of information hitting our nervous systems, many of us are living in a low-grade stress response without even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about what’s really happening in your body when...

Trying to manifest love but stuck in the same relationship patterns? In this episode, I share three neuroscience-based tips to help you manifest love without the woo — including how your Reticular Activating System filters partners, why you should manifest an experience instead of a person, and how aligned action rewires attraction. Want to join us for The Manifest Your Soulmate Mastermind? Learn...

In this episode, I have a real, unfiltered conversation with my friend Ari during an impromptu coaching session that started over chili and turned into a powerful discussion about dating anxiety, subconscious patterns, and relationship triggers. Ari opens up about the fear and uncertainty she’s experiencing in her current dating life, and I walk her through simple, practical mindset tools to help...

This is a short and random one y'all... just some thoughts that came up for me this week that I decided to share. It might sound woo woo to some, but try to hear the deeper meaning of my words. Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

We love to call it chemistry. Passion. A “deep connection.” But sometimes what we’re really feeling is familiar chaos. In this episode, we unpack why emotionally intense, hot-and-cold dynamics can feel so magnetic — and why calm, steady connection can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first. We talk about how the nervous system gets conditioned to equate unpredictability with love, how culture rom...

In this episode, we talk about how to stay calm and grounded when the world feels loud, polarized, and emotionally charged — without numbing out or pretending nothing is happening. I explore why passion often turns into nervous system overload, how outrage is amplified and monetized, and what it actually means to care without burning yourself out. This isn’t about disengaging or staying neutral. I...

This episode reintroduces The Stories We Tell as a space for honest, awake conversation — about personal growth and the world we’re living in today. I explore how the narratives we carry aren’t just things we say out loud later, but quiet frameworks shaping our reactions, relationships, and sense of what’s possible. Feeling uncomfortable on purpose becomes an act of presence: choosing to notice ha...

Tired of starting over? In this episode, I’m breaking down what really keeps people stuck—and how The Momentum Method , my new 8-week coaching program, can help you build habits that actually stick. Learn more + join here → https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessin...

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I talk with Zara Barrie, a published author, writer, and podcaster who has been pouring her heart out on the i...

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I speak with actress Ayesha Harris about her career, life, manifestation, energy, and all the good vibes! Foll...

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I speak with actress Olivia Stambnouliah about coming to terms with sexuality, her first experience in Paris,...

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time. In this episode, I speak with Jillian Abby, author of Perfectly Queer, about all things late in life lesbian. You can find more...

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time. In this episode, I speak with Kirby and Ember from Tiktok about all things late in life lesbian. Follow all things Kirby and Ember : link...

Post-election thoughts. Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina  Club Lilles FB Community Facebook Join us for The 10-Day Confidence Mastermind: https://www.jaimecoaches.com/

In this episode, I talk to Sophia Spallino about the launch of her new dating platform, The Queer Country Club! Join The Queer Country Club:  https://member.queercountryclub.com/invitation?code=D2DC7E Quit wasting time swiping on dating apps that let everyone inside…and join the ONLY platform for Queer Womxn EXCLUSIVELY seeking lifelong monogamous partnership!  Follow Sophia on Social: IG: @sophia...

In this episode, I discuss Manifestation, the Law of Attraction, and how that is tied to our brain! Join the Manifest Mastermind: https://jaimecoaches.com/manifest Follow me on Social:  IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @Jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in Coaching? Let's Chat: https://www.jaimecoaches.com/

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with author Louise Rafkin, who recently wrote an article for The New York Times that references Club Lilles. During our interview, we discuss her coming out story, her journey as a writer, and the evolution of the lesbian community. Learn more about Louise Rafkin: http://www.louiserafkin.com/ Follow me on Social:  IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @Jaimemes...

In the episode, we hear from Tracy A. Wood, one of the hosts of the Rock That Relationship! Podcast on her coming out in the early 90's. We hear how she navigated coming out as a police officer at that time, and what she's up to now! To follow along with Tracy: Instagram: @an_unemployed_lawyer The Rock That Relationship Podcast: https://rockthatrelationship.com/ Follow Me on Social: IG: @j...

Back in February, I was on the SOCIAL EQUITY™ Podcast with Sophia Spallino about building an iconic lesbian community Online, and today, I had the opportunity to share that here with all of you! Check out Sophia and the Social Equity Podcast here: SophiaSpallino.com If you would like to join our upcoming 10-Day Manifest Mastermind go here: https://jaimecoaches.com/groupcoaching Follow Me on Social...

In this episode, I speak with the author of Perfectly Queer , Jillian Abby. From CPA, to licensed massage therapist, to homeschooling mom, to craft beer bar owner, to author, corporate storyteller and LGBTQ+ advocate– Jillian Abby is no stranger to making major life changes in pursuit of the most fulfilling life. Her path took her from Buffalo, to Bolivia, to Boston, and beyond only for her to lea...

In this episode, we talk with LILLES Sophia Spallino. Sophia is your business wing-woman, social media strategist, and personal brand coach (who just happens to be an inter-spiritual lesbian harpist)! She helps purpose-driven female service providers and soul-led coaches around the world build wealth and multiply their revenue with social media strategy. In her early thirties, she bravely left her...

Learn the importance of sharing your story “Unified not uniform”. Hear from three successful lesbian memoirists: Jillian Abby, Jen Berlingo, Melissa Giberson. Hear from three successful lesbian memoirists: Jillian Abby, Jen Berlingo, Melissa Giberson. Panel moderated by Club Lilles founder and podcast host of The Stories We Tell, Jaime Messina.  Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaim...

In this episode, we explore domestication and unlearning things that were projected onto us that do not align with who we are at the core. What can we do to truly live authentically as ourselves and experience more joy? Check out this episode! Join the Know Thyself & Be Thyself Coaching Program: https://jaimecoaches.com/knowthyself Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina C...

Sara Webb is a resilience and lesbian heartbreak coach. Sara empowers women to maximize healing with simple and effective science-backed technologies that build resilience and confidence from the inside out. To follow along with Sara, head over to her website: https://www.sarawebbsays.com/ Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina LILLES After Dark Patreon: https://www.patreon.c...