The Splitting Smart Podcast

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Can my social media be used against me in divorce? Short answer? Yep. Today we’re talking about one of the biggest divorce mistakes people make without even realizing it. Social media. You might think your Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, or other accounts are just a place to share what’s going on in your life. But when you’re going...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. What You Need to Know About Powers of Attorney, Wills & Trusts Most people going through divorce never think about this… What happens if something happens to YOU before the divorce is final?  makes medical decisions for you? Who controls your business? Who can access your bank accounts? Who decides what happens if you’re inca...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Think your divorce is done once you sign the paperwork? Nope. Today I’ve got Sapere Pro estate planning attorney (and my hubby) Greg Bennett back with me, and we’re talking about something most people don’t even realize they need to deal with after divorce. If you had a family trust during your marriage, there’s a really good cha...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Hey friends. Today we’re talking about something that’s happening more and more, and honestly, it surprises a lot of people when they see it. Gray divorce. Yup, that’s the term for divorce after 50, and the numbers have actually doubled since 1990. And in our law practice, Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California, we’ve...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Okay, you spotted the victim habit. Now what?  If you listened to episode 66 and thought, "that is me ,” this is your next step. If you have been in divorce stress, family conflict, or a rough life season, it is so easy to slip into patterns that keep you stuck, right? Not because you’re weak. Because your brain is trying to...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Ever feel stuck in the same loop, even when you know you want things to change? I get it! Today we’re talking about something I see all the time in divorce, conflict, and life transitions. I call them the six victim habits. They’re not about calling yourself a victim.  They’re about spotting the patterns that quietly keep you stu...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. You really can get through your divorce without it turning into an all-out war. I’m breaking down how to keep your peace and your power. Because being the “peacemaker” doesn’t mean being a pushover. It means you’re smart, strategic, and keeping your eyes on the long game instead of getting lost in the drama. We’ll talk about what...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. It sounds simple: just add your kid to the house title and skip the legal stuff. But what feels like a shortcut can turn into a mess… and sometimes, a full-blown legal disaster. In this episode, I’m joined by Sapere Pro and estate planning attorney Greg Bennett to talk about why putting family on your title is almost never a good...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. You can’t control how they’ll react, but you can control how you show up.  This episode is about getting grounded, staying calm, and making those hard conversations a little less painful... and a lot more productive.  When conflict flares up, the way you communicate can either move things forward or make them worse. I’m sharing t...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. What if the best way to win custody… is to wait? This episode flips the script on what most veteran parents expect—and reveals what family court actually wants to see when it comes to veteran divorce and custody. In Part 2 of my conversation with Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.), we move from trauma to the tricky terrain of divorce and p...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. This one’s powerful.  If you or someone you love has worn the uniform, you already know that the battles don’t always stop when deployment ends. And when veterans divorce, there’s usually a whole lot beneath the surface leading up to the split.   In this episode of The Splitting Smart Podcast, I’m sitting down with someone I deep...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. They were supposed to be spending their golden years traveling, relaxing, and maybe spoiling any grandkids. Instead? They spent two years locked in a bitter divorce that racked up over $100K in legal fees—and that’s just one side. In this episode, I’m walking you through the story of my client "Jeremy," a retired man wh...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Feel like something’s “off?" It might not be you—it might be your hormones. I’m back with Dr. Diana Hoppe—OB/GYN, hormone expert, and breast cancer survivor—to get into what most doctors still aren’t telling you about hormone therapy.  We’re talking about foggy thinking, the myths around hormone replacement theory, and what...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Think your marriage is falling apart? It might actually be your hormones.  Kelly sees people walk into her office every day ready to end their marriage—sometimes without realizing that hormones (theirs or their spouse’s) might be the real issue. Dr. Diana sees it too. Together, they break down how perimenopause, menopause, and ho...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Divorce can feel overwhelming—even when faith is a big part of your life. Many people turn to their church for guidance, but what if you don’t feel comfortable talking to your pastor? What if the advice you’re given doesn’t match up with what you know is best for you and your family? What is there is abuse?   In this episode, Kel...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Hey friends, divorce can shake your faith to the core, right? Whether you’re struggling with guilt, a fear of being judged by your faith community, or questioning what your beliefs say about divorce, you’re not alone.  What if the very thing you’re afraid of could actually be a source of healing and strength? In this episode, Kel...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Hey friends, let’s talk about something that keeps so many people up at night: divorce anxiety.  If you’re in the middle of a divorce or a custody battle, you know how easy it is to get stuck in a cycle of worry. The “what ifs” never stop, and before you know it, you’re running on empty—exhausted, stressed, and overwhelmed.  But...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Hey friends, this one’s for all the hardworking parents out there trying to figure out how to juggle a busy career and the emotional rollercoaster of divorce and custody. Let’s be real: divorce is tough enough, but when you’re the breadwinner, it can feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions. You’ve poured a lot into...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. An ending is a new beginning, Hey friends, this is it—the grand finale for On Fire Empire! Next stop? Our big, bold rebrand to The Splitting Smart Podcast! But before we fully dive into this exciting new era, we need to tackle something major: how to keep your career or business thriving during a divorce. Let’s face it—divorce is...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. You talked, we listened. Friends, I’m thrilled to have you back for an episode that marks a big shift in our journey together. Today, I’m giving you a peek behind the scenes as we prepare for an exciting rebrand of the On Fire Empire podcast. After hearing your feedback about what you truly need, we’re evolving to become The Spli...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Are you living and running your business with INTENTION? You may be asking...what actually is Intentional Living and how the heck do you achieve it? As we roll into the holidays and into the new year, I thought this would be a timely topic to discuss. This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast , we talk about intentional living. Liv...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Are you dreading the holidays? I know sometimes we think, "oh I have to see that odd ball family member that has such weird views and if I have to listen to them again..." Let's turn that on its head and get intentional about how we roll into the holidays. This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast, we are getting per...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast, I am discussing Quiet Quitting, a new trend that has been in the news since summer 2022. It all started with a seventeen second video on Tik Tok. (I know right!?) Simply, Quiet Quitting is when someone is not outright quitting their job, but they are quitting the idea of going above and be...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. On this shorty-episode, Kelly takes a call from Christy. Christy and her husband have a rocky marriage, and he won't go to counseling. Christy's thinking that maybe a trial separation is in order - but hubby is super prickly and she doesn't know how to broach the subject. With her lawyer hat squarely in place, Kell...

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you. Are you stuck with bad hiring decisions because you’ve been in desperate need of employees? In the age of the “hiring desert” - not enough qualified job candidates to go around - this happens quite frequently. But there are steps you can take today to start turning your hiring practices around. In this episode, Kelly shares three...