The Soft Science

Have you struggled to understand healthy sexuality and how it fits into Christianity?  In this episode Erika dives into this tough topic with De-Andrea Blalock-Johnson who is a Christian sexuality and relationship therapis.  They tackle the shame and harm that is often done by the Christian church to people around sexuality including the harm done to the LGBTQ+ community. Full show notes here . Jo...

Ever struggled with getting excited to have sex? Ever had thoughts that you and your partner just don’t have the same sex drive?  This episode is for you, Erika and Dr. Lauren Fogel tackle all things desire, desire discrepancies, low desire, you name it! Full show notes here . Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.com  

Have you ever wondered what a sex therapist does? Today you get the answers!  Erika talks about what a typical day in her practice is like and what the typical problems clients come to her with.  Sex therapy is a wonderful outlet to bring out of the darkness into the light some of the issues you may have around sex. Also it can be really effective, check out this episode to find out more. Full sho...

Dr. Sarah Shavitz psychologist specialist in online couples and individual therapy in the area of love and relationships. If you want to know more about how the different types of love play out during the course of a relationship this episode is for you!  Erika and Dr. Shavitz talk about how betrayal and sex sometimes impact relationships in unexpected ways, tune in for more!! Full show notes here...

Stacy Greeter, MD gives some wonderful information about how to ask questions about the medications your doctor is suggesting.  Erika and Dr. Greeter also talk about how to advocate for yourself and the power you have in creating health. If you are in the SW Florida area you can become a patient of Dr. Greeter. Full show notes here . Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy P...

Erika talks with David Ley, PhD author of The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. David goes into depth about how our beliefs and shame around sex have dictated our views about sex and addiction.  Erika and David also explore how gaining insight around our sexual values can impact shame around sex generally. Full show notes here . Join my Patreon:...

Is permanent birth control for you?  Do you know what a vasectomy is? In this episode Erika talks all about what a vasectomy is and the benefits of this type of birth control.  Many men also talk about their concerns about sexual performance after a vasectomy, Erika addresses those concerns as well! Full show notes here .  Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: ww...

First thing’s first this episode I am going to go into detail about women’s right to choose, that means abortion.  This episode is not political, this episode is personal to me and the clients I serve.  Just a heads up some folks are not wanting more information about abortion.  That’s okay I’ll see ya next week. Full show notes here . Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy...

Have you ever wondered how often to clean your sex toys? What about how to clean them, and with what?? It is an expansive landscape to figure out how to clean the items we use during sex. In this episode Erika tells you how to clean different types of toys. She also references a couple of articles that can be helpful determine what type of cleaners to consider. Full show notes here . Join my Patre...

Porn is often a reason couples of various configurations come to see a sex therapist.  There is quick judgement as to why the person is using porn with many intense feelings that go with the judgement.  This episode is an instruction manual to start the conversation about pornography and how our values around sex can be so varied. Full show notes here . Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/pa...

Mother’s Day episode!  As a mom Erika understands the level of stress and pressure mother’s endure on the regular.  These are her tips on how to reduce stress and increase sexual desire. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/58    Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.com  

New segment alert! Erika will be doing a sexy news segment on the show regularly. This week the sexy news is the end to Aids is in sight with the ability to stop the transmission of HIV. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/57   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.com  

There are many reports by many people, more specifically women experiencing greater arousal when smoking marijuana.  In this episode Erika chats with Ashley Manta, sex educator and creator of CannaSexual.  If you ever wanted to know how cannabis can impact your sex life this episode is for you.  Erika also talks about the impact of cannabis for some people who have dealt with anxiety or PTSD. Full...

Ever wondered how to be an ally to a person trying to understand their gender identity?  In this episode Erika talks with Heather Eslien who is a licensed mental health counselor and gender specialist.  She has a private practice in Sarasota, Florida and she primarily works with the LGBTQ+ community.  This episode will help you understand the nuances of gender identity! Full show notes: www.sextal...

Felt like you have struggles with getting intimate again after baby?  Have fertility issues messed with your sex life?  This episode is for you, Erika talks with return guest Ariel Shumaker about how becoming parents impacts your sex life from making them to post-partum. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/54   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.ment...

Have you ever struggled to create boundaries within your relationship?  What about with sex?  Erika and her guest Shane Birkel couples therapist, host of the podcast the Couples Therapist Couch talk about how to create boundaries. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/53   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.com  

Learning to take care of your body before and after sex is a must do.  Most of us did not get comprehensive sex education.  Part of growing up and developing is learning how to take care of this body we are in. Erika talks about how to clean but also when to clean.  She offers up tips you may not have considered but are a must add to your sexual routine by yourself or with partners. Full show note...

Ever wondered if your fantasies were like other people?  Have you ever thought you were the only one with a specific sexual interest?  Dr. Justin Lehmiller, research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of the blog Sex and Psychology as well as the book Tell Me What You Want, tells us all about his research on sexual fantasy. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/51   Join my Patreon: www...

Episode 50 WHAT??!!  Shout outs to the audience in this episode for the first year of Sex Talk with Erika Miley!  First date? Second date? Third date? Wait till marriage?  When is the right time to have sex with someone when you are building a relationship? Erika talks about what some of the statistics are saying about when we have that first sexual encounter. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika...

Have you ever got really anxious about trying to reach orgasm? Or every really focused on a specific body part rather than being focused on the experience?  In this episode Erika addresses the issues that are unique to women and sexual performance and ways to combat it. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/49   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.menta...

Hate dental dams?  Erika talks with Melanie Cristol Founder and CEO about their super cool product Lorals.  It is disposable underwear that is super thin that supports the wearer to gain pleasure and reduce stress.  This was a super fun conversation about closing the orgasm gap! Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/48   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice:...

The process of creating life is not always an easy one.  Erika talks with Ariel Shumaker-Hammond Clinical Therapist and Photographer about the infertility journey and how it impacts couples and their intimate lives. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/47   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.com  

Just you and me for this episode.  I want to talk about how avoiding your emotional shit, your baggage, the problems from your past, whatever you would like to call it impacts your sexual life.  Your whole self is important, and we try and silo ourselves into compartments.  Every piece of us is impacted when we are not identifying how we feel about ourselves. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika....

Erika talks with Amanda Testa, a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach who specializes in helping folks get in touch with their sexuality and femininity. They get down to business about how getting in touch with your sexuality can change your perspective and can offer you healing. Check out her podcast Find Your Feminine Fire and her Facebook group. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/45   Join...

All things about the butt again!  Erika’s first episode about butt stuff has been the most popular so far across the world.  So it’s time again to visit the back door.  Need information about where to begin about your own butt start with this episode. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/44   Join my Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon   My Therapy Practice: www.mentalandsexualhealth.co...