The Sober Plug

A structured routine in recovery doesn't just help you stay sober—it allows you to grow mentally, emotionally, and physically. By incorporating the right habits, you’re not only laying the foundation for your day, but also taking a huge step in your recovery as a whole by being intentional with your time, energy and resources. Positive habits ensure that you continue to evolve and strive toward th...

If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse. You can have results or you can have excuses, but never both. If you want to progress in any area in life, you must take accountability and leave the excuses at the door. Progress is not possible when excuses are being made. If you want to eliminate excuses, this episode is for you. If you're struggling wit...

One of the things people fail to realize is that events are impersonal and indifferent. If you're in a bad mood or struggling with certain things in life, typically the perspective we hold is the real issue. Challenging times can be the greatest gift given to us because it forces strength upon us. We cannot grow without adversity which means adversity is a gift no matter how it's packaged. If you...

Sobriety is not only about being abstinent. Things will improve and our quality of life can certainly get better just by subtracting drugs and alcohol, but that in itself is not the end goal. There are other aspects to life we need to focus on in order to enjoy life after we get sober because if we neglect certain things, we can suffer in sobriety as well. In this episode there are 3 things you ne...

People tend to do the most suffering when they refuse to make changes or adjustments in parts of their life that are no longer serving them. If you aren't in a good place mentally, emotionally, physically or Spiritually... something needs to change. Because if you don't, the suffering will only continue and get worse. Without change, we stop growing. When we stop growing, we die. Change or die. If...

Greatness is only achieved by winning each and every day. Your future outcome is going to be dependent on the attitude, perspective and behaviors you consistently posses on a daily basis. When we win each day by taking little steps in the right direction mentally, emotionally, physically and Spiritually, personal greatness is not only possible, but it's actually guaranteed. The key is making thing...

When you blame others, you give up your power to change. Accountability isn't about guilt or shame; it's about taking your power back. The moment you stop blaming and start owning the choices you've made, you take back control of your life and your recovery. Refuse the "victim mentality" at all costs, it will never lead to success or fulfillment. In this episode, learn how to take extreme accounta...

When we aren't being honest with ourselves or living life authentically, we pay the ultimate price. You may be able to fool other people, but you can't fool yourself. When we numb ourselves with drugs and alcohol we are diminishing internally, moving further away from our potential and who we really are. Being unapologetically yourself is the only way you will experience freedom and peace of mind....

Most people view addiction as a curse or a negative thing, but I believe it's a massive blessing if you know how to reframe your perspective on it. There is an opportunity to every challenge or obstacle that comes your way. Addiction is filled with painful lessons, but extremely valuable lessons in the journey of life. If you learn from it, you can take what you learned and apply it to create a li...

Having a vision for yourself and where you want to go is critical in having a fulfilling life. Without being intentional, we end up with a lifestyle that we really don't want, and we suffer because of it. You are the captain to your own ship; your boat will go only in the direction you steer in. Everything that exists in this world once started as a thought or an idea. Be ambitious and dream big....

When we get caught up in our own selfish desires, a lot of times we are operating out of fear, greed, envy and ego. Our energy is not where it should be which guarantees we will attract things we don't want. However, working towards goals and ambitions with a sense of optimism, gratitude, detachment and Faith will bring us exactly where we need to be in the long run. Being detached from immediate...

One of the most important things we need to solve is why we are here. What is your purpose? The longer we go without the answer to this question, the more pain we endure. Finding your calling in life is the cornerstone to fulfillment and being in pursuit of your calling will set you free. When you are serving a bigger purpose, you are free from your own selfish wants and desires. In this episode C...

Every New Year people make resolutions that never stick. It's easy to say things are going to change but once the "motivation" wears off, people tend to go back to old habits that are comfortable. We must be intentional with our goals if we want to reach them because they won't be reached by accident. A standard must be held and it takes extreme accountability, willingness and focus. If you want 2...

What if I told you that you aren't where you want to be in life because of the perspective you have? Our life is going to be a reflection of our attitude, behaviors and perspective. If you're focused on the negative of a situation you are going to get negative results and the same is true for the opposite. If you struggle with keeping a positive attitude, this episode is for you. If you're struggl...

If we don't have strong boundaries in sobriety, we end up putting ourselves in vulnerable positions that are extremely unhealthy. Not to mention we eventually end up being resentful, manipulated, unfulfilled and discontent with our life. One of the most important things you can do is stay true to who you are and your own personal goals and ambitions. In this episode Connor explains why this is imp...

Sometimes we become used to living a certain way and we think that change is impossible or not in the cards for us. The fear of change can paralyze you even if it represents something positive. In active addiction, we become accustomed to suffering and we start to believe that "this is just how life is". Even in sobriety, we might settle into a life that we don't really want and aren't excited abo...

There are a lot of practical tools we can go to when it comes to staying sober and improving our lives on a daily basis; working out, journaling, meditation, therapy, self-development etc. But there is one thing that trumps all which hardly ever gets talked about. Tune into this episode to understand what can take your sobriety to the next level. If you're struggling, you can reach Connor directly...

Whether we realize it or not, drugs and alcohol fill some type of void within ourselves which is what leads to an addiction. It solves some type of problem and gives us "peace" internally, even if your external circumstances can be in complete chaos. Using drugs and alcohol isn't a true path to joy though, nor is it sustainable. It's important to understand that we can achieve peace, contentment,...

One of the most important things in sobriety is making sure you're spending your time with healthy people. In early recovery, a lot of people try to hold onto old friendships/ relationships that are clearly toxic, and it only ends in a few ways (none of them are good). If we want a new life, we have to be willing to shed our old one. The people who refuse to accept this tend to get burned over and...

When we aren't living up to our own standards and we conduct ourselves in a way that doesn't reflect who we truly are at heart, guilt and shame is typically the end result. The reason why addiction leads to guilt and shame is because we know that we are living well below our own standards and the longer we are struggling, the more guilt and shame builds with it. Even though this can be painful, it...

Do you feel like you have trouble finding purpose in life? Or that you struggle with finding joy, contentment or fulfillment? In this episode Connor talks about the main driving force behind a life of fulfillment and the path you can take to make sure you get there yourself. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862

Many people regret the past, not realizing that the lessons we learn from the mistakes we make are some of the most crucial times in our lives. Instead of focusing on the negative side of our past, we can flip things and take advantage of it if we look at it the right way. As long as we become a better person by learning from our mistakes, regret shouldn't be something we hold onto. If you regret...

As our addiction progresses, we become accustomed to living a certain way that doesn't align with who we truly are. We change for the worse over a long enough timeline in many different areas of life. In order to break the cycle of addiction, we need to embrace discomfort and accept change as a necessary step to getting better. If you struggle with change, this episode is for you. If you're strugg...

Everybody wants to know the magic trick to getting sober. Everybody wants the quick fix. In this episode Connor talks about the one thing that helped him get sober the most above everything else. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862

Sobriety isn't just about abstinence from drugs or alcohol but it's really about working on our character defects, flaws and desire for immediate gratification. We need to change from within and a big part of that is learning how to control our emotions. There are many things in our lives that we can't control but we do get to control our attitude, behaviors and perspective. If we want to get sobe...