The S.O.B.E.R. Method

You already know why you drink, and it has not stopped you. Leanna Lapidus, a clinical hypnotherapist who spent a decade at Passages Malibu, joins Massimo Rigotti to explain why a craving is a conditioned program installed by repetition and feeling, why the discipline that built a career cannot out-argue it, how relapse starts in thought and emotion long before the glass, and what returns when the...

He was closing real deals the whole time, so nobody needed to ask what else was going on. Nick Mechanic, a former Hollywood agent, joins Massimo Rigotti to tell the story of a double life that ran on commission checks, cocaine, and methamphetamine, the tells that gave him away long before the law did, the Beverly Hills arrest that did not stop him, and the meetings, sponsor, and purpose that keep...

A father who solves problems for a living learns that love cannot control his son's addiction. On this World Mental Health Day 2026, a bonus episode of the SOBER Method Podcast Perspectives series, Katie Rizzo returns, and for the first time a guest is not alone. Her husband, Nick Rizzo, shares the father's side of losing their oldest son, Nicholas, to an accidental overdose. Nick talks about the...

Everyone still thinks you are fine, and that is the most dangerous part. Mark G. Astor, Esq., joins Massimo Rigotti to name the exact story high-achieving professionals tell themselves to hide addiction in plain sight, why success keeps validating that story, where the first crack usually shows, and how Florida's Baker Act (and every state's version of it) can save a life or trap someone when ther...

Never the drink first. Always one hot thought you did not catch. Bernard Glos, Ph. D., joins Massimo Rigotti to walk through AFROG (Alive, Feel better, Real, Others, Goals), the five question test from Maxie Maultsby's rational behavior therapy that catches a hot thought before the craving wins, and why addiction-making family rules quietly load the mind for a snap. This is the Observe work of the...

Never a drink. Just a kid who learned to disappear into being useful. Lolita Guarin joins Massimo Rigotti to show how constantly needing to produce becomes the adult burnout pattern, how the CALM process (Control, Accept, Limit, Multiply) rebuilds self-trust, and why saying no will not kill you. This is the Observe and Restore work of the S.O.B.E.R. Method, for people who want sobriety and cannot...

You finally decide to change, and something pulls you back down. Bryan Blackmon joins Massimo Rigotti to show how crabs in a bucket keep you stuck, why the crab is often you, and how CRAB: Clean, Resilient, Adaptability, and Belief hold the climb when the old off switch is gone. This is the Behavior and Execute work of the S.O.B.E.R. Method, for people who want sobriety and cannot walk into a publ...

If life keeps knocking you down, the next bit of strength does not come from carrying it alone. Mia Godfrey joins Massimo Rigotti to show how community, honest pain, and faith rebuild a life after loss, and why numbing only postpones the work. This is the Restore step of the S.O.B.E.R. Method, for people who want sobriety and will not walk into a public room to admit it. Key Takeaways One hour at...

Perfectionism is not a badge. It is a lie that keeps high achievers striving, never satisfied, and reaching for a drink. In this conversation Massimo Rigotti sits with Peg O'Connor, PhD, a philosophy professor in long-term recovery, to unpack how perfectionism, shame, and bad faith quietly feed addiction, and why honest self-observation is the start of the S.O.B.E.R. Method. This episode is for hi...

Willpower fails when the voice that says “just this once” sounds like your own good judgment. In this conversation Massimo Rigotti sits with therapist Dr. Robert Jaffe to unpack why that voice is a nervous-system safety pattern, not a character flaw, and why the Observe step of the S.O.B.E.R. Method has to happen before any Stoic choice is possible. This episode is for high-achieving people who wa...

You can quit drinking without AA, without rehab, and without a meeting that follows you to work. I’m Massimo Rigotti. Over 10 years sober. I work privately with lawyers, doctors, and executives who look fine at 9am and pour the second the day ends. This is a 60-second intro to The SOBER Method. Weekly episodes. A private system, not a meeting. How to quit without AA. How to stay sober when the job...

Sobriety didn’t fix him. Quitting only removed the symptom. The identity underneath was still running the show. Massimo sits down with Benjamin Lee, an Air Force bomb disposal veteran who lost himself to addiction after the uniform came off. Now a certified identity transformation coach, author of Sincerely, America, and founder of The Initiation Source, Benjamin explains why getting sober can lea...

Successful on paper. Numb at night. If that’s you, the drink isn’t the disease. It’s the junk food you keep feeding a real need. Nathan Graham is a real estate broker turned AI consultant, nearly four years sober from alcohol and a gaming addiction that cost him jobs and nearly his marriage. He breaks down the four needs that drive every decision: certainty, adventure, significance, and love and c...

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If you’ve been sober a while, you survived detox. You white-knuckled the first months. Nobody warned you about what comes next. The danger does not end when the chaos does. It goes quiet. Staying clean years in, when life looks fine and your guard is down, is the real fight. Marine sergeant and Iraq veteran Adan Castañeda beat heroin, meth, cocaine, and a schizoaffective diagnosis. He’s 10 years s...

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Free Tools and Guide: https://sobermethod.com/5tools Massimo Rigotti presents a focused solo episode on the shifting landscape of alcohol use among busy professionals in 2026. He identifies four major trends that are moving sobriety and reduced drinking from the margins into mainstream professional strategy. Rather than framing change around rock bottom, he connects each trend to the practical, re...