The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

Being single has its perks. You can do what you want, when you want, without having to answer to anyone. But while this sense of freedom is enticing at first, it can quickly become lonely and daunting if you try to do everything on your own. This is especially true when it comes to certain tasks or activities that are easier (and more fun) when done in pairs or groups. This week, Chantelle talks t...

Do you ever feel the optimism of dating in the early weeks to find that you're freaking out about the fact they might leave? Or maybe it seems like a good idea to start dating in the beginning, but the more serious it gets, the more worried you become about commitment? Attachment Theory, the psychological theory developed by John Bowlby in the 1940s, could be the reason behind it. And as sing...

Single people are often made to feel like they're broken or missing out on life. The reality is that being single can be a healthy and fulfilling state. Single doesn't have to mean lonely and being in a relationship doesn't mean you don't have to look out for your mental health. Making sure you look after your mental health as a single is about creating the support around you s...

Divorce. A word that no one wants to utter and certainly not as early as their 20s. But I have and did, and I'm here to talk about the experience of dealing with divorce at that time and how it has been now the separation has been for 2.5 years. We don't need to be ashamed of being divorced, we can lean into it and see it as part of our journey. Like the show? I'd love to hear your...

Being single on Valentine's Day can be hard, but it doesn't have to be. Whe you're surrounded by couples and love and it's the last thing you're thinking about whilst you're navigating your single life, you're just hoping it'll be over and done with! In this video, I talk about how to tackle Valentine's Day and the approach you can take to make it throu...

If you're still in your 20s, you might be feeling as though you MUST get into a relationship. But being single in your 20s can be the most exciting time of your life! It's a chance to find yourself, have ultimate freedom. Time isn't running out! Time is there for you to have a good time,to do whatever you want, whenever you want.  Chantelle's talks about the extended reasons as...

Following the recent media coverage of Molly-Mae Hague's comments of "we all have the same 24 hours in a day", the topic of privilege has been brought to the forefront again. Taking many forms, privilege occurs in race, class, ability, wealth and one of the most obvious to single women, gender. As a single woman, it's important to be mindful of the privileges you have and how t...

You are a single, independent woman. You live on your own terms and you do what feels right for you - because that’s who you are. You're a go-getter and you're ready to absolutely smash 2022. But a coulple of weeks into January, you may be finding that you're starting to cut corners here and there as you lose the #thatgirl energy you were originally channelling. Chantelle has three...

You want to be a single, independent woman. You want to live on your own terms and do what feels right for you - because that’s who you are. But how do you settle on that identity? How do you approach becoming that single, independent woman? And how do you get past the doubt and questioning of others? Listen to this episode as Chantelle shares insight into how knowing your values can help you stay...

In this week's episode, Chantelle shares the framework to making the most of single life in 2022. It's easy to get fixated on where we aren't yet, when we have so much opportunity to make the most of single life now. Celebrating the wins of 2021, and focussing ahead at the celebrations to come in 2022, allows you to focus on your best bits without letting the challenges bring you do...

For the single girls of 2021, it’s been a challenge and a half to get through the year. Starting with a UK lockdown, dating for singles has been limited and for the women living alone, there’s been another element to contend with. But 2021 isn’t all bad. For every down, there is an up, and whilst COVID has been ongoing, Chantelle hasn’t let that pull down the single women of the world. With the st...

What do you tell yourself each and every day about your single life? Do you tell yourself you’re unloveable and that it’s never going to happen for you? Do you wonder if you’ll be lonely forever? Do you worry shout what will or won’t happen These are all valid thoughts and feelings, particularly when we want something that we can’t control the outcome of. But it’s also a burden to us emotionally t...

New Year’s Resolutions are no joke. Sure, you can commit to a diet or an exercise routine. But what about creating a new habit? What habits should you make a priority in the New Year? The most successful people on the planet all have one thing in common: they create habits that will help them achieve their goals. It's not about eating right and exercising for a couple of weeks – it's abo...

Are you #TeamSummer or #TeamTom? Back in 2009, you might’ve found yourself hating Summer for what she did to Tom in the classic “this is not a love story” of 500 Days of Summer. Tom desperately wants to be with Summer but whilst she’s happy to spend time with him, she’s not all too keen on a relationship. And this makes the film a perfect discussion point for lessons to be learned when being singl...

It’s easy to think negatively of single life. To compare yourself to others in relationships, feel like it’s never going to happen for you and feel sad and deflated by it. But there’s a truth to changing your thoughts changing your reality. Our minds are powerful things and our brains can’t tell the difference between the truth and what we make up. If you continue to tell yourself you’re sad about...

There's only six weeks left of 2021, so it's time to start thinking about how you can make 2022 the year of YOU. The New Year is a time to reflect on the past and plan for the future. This year, why not focus your energy on yourself? As we enter into a new year it can be easy to set goals but more often than not they don't last long. In this episode, I set you off with starting to t...

Break ups are never easy, but it's how you get over your ex that really determines what type of person you are. It can be hard to deal with feelings of doubt and insecurity that come after a romantic relationship has ended, when your hopes and dreams are shattered into a million pieces. Your mind is in a state of confusion, unable to understand why the person who was so dear to your heart lef...

Being single at Christmas can SUCK. If you're worried about being alone at Christmas or having to deal with the same old questions from distant family members about "how your love life is going?", then you'll want to listen to this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life. Christmas day is just as much your day to enjoy as anyone else's. If you want to spend Christm...

Why is it so difficult to tell somebody "no"? Whether you squirm at the thought of it or just think you say it too bluntly, saying "no" is a necessary part of our lives, and particualrly so when you have to stand up for yourself when you're single. In this week’s episode of The Single Girl’s Guide to Life, Chantelle discusses why you HAVE to learn to say no and some strate...

You've heard of a mid-life crisis, but have you heard of a quarter-life crisis? Well it is truly a THING! After going through my own life change through divorce, moving back home to live with my parents, it was clear I was experiencing a Quarter Life crisis. But I didn't know it at the time. Whether you're going through a quarter-life crisis now or reflecting on the time in your lif...

Heartbreak leads to greif, disappointment, despair, loss and confusion. What we once thought might be forever shatters in front of us and it's no longer anything, never to be the same again. Healing through heartbreak is hard work. As cliché as it sounds, time is a healer too. But you can help yourself to heal through the heartbreak by journalling. Journalling involves expressing yourself, ge...

Have you ever asked yourself if you really want a relationship? Or even “why do I want a relationship?”. Our upbringing shapes our wants and desires. So does media, and all the stories we’re told. It can sometimes feel like we’re chasing this dream, but if it turns out it’s not actually your dream and isn’t aligned with your values and what you really want, you can end up feeling confused and defl...

Going on a solo road trip alone can feel scary. But there’s reasons why, despite the scariness, that it can be the most AMAZING experience, and this episode discusses why. From the recent solo road trip of the UK over Summer, Chantelle shares her experiences and the value gained from the trip. A holiday away with someone will never go a-miss for a single person, but knowing how much you gain from...

Fed up with dating apps?! Well you don't have to use them. In this week's episode, Chantelle discusses ways to find and make opportunities that can help you meet men, all without the exhaustion of dating apps. It turns out that we really don't enjoy the backforth nature of messaging, the endless "hey hows u?" starter to a conversation and the exhuastion of swipimng left an...

Setting goals and being able to achieve them is important to making sure you continue to improve and do the things you want to do in life. When you’re single, you have the additional time to spend on yourself, trying different ideas and learning something new, offering the perfect time for setting goals. But setting goals is only one part. Actually achieving them is another, and they can be the tr...