The Shadow Diaries

Send us Fan Mail "Whose baggage is it anyway?" That's the question at the heart of today's deep dive into projections—those moments when we unconsciously push our feelings, fears, and past wounds onto others. We explore the fascinating psychology behind why we project our emotions onto those around us and how these projections shape our daily interactions, particularly with our children and partne...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Lurinda shares all about her "Surrender" retreat - we get an insight on the backend of what goes into this and how it is all painstakingly considered. For busy women juggling countless roles and responsibilities, the idea of surrender feels both terrifying and desperately needed. We're experts at taking care of everyone else while abandoning ourselves, creating an...

Send us Fan Mail Cat Dunn shares her powerful journey as a domestic violence survivor and how she transformed her 20-year experience of abuse into advocacy for women's voices and stories. • Surviving domestic violence for 20 years, learning it was a behavior pattern from childhood • The challenge of rebuilding self-trust after trauma and how the body physically holds onto past experiences • Discov...

Send us Fan Mail The digital age has transformed nearly every aspect of our lives, but can artificial intelligence truly replicate the depth and nuance of human connection in therapeutic relationships?  Steph and Lurinda tackle this provocative question head-on, exploring whether tools like ChatGPT could potentially replace human therapists and coaches. Drawing from their extensive experience work...

Send us Fan Mail What if the key to unlocking pleasure isn't something external, but simply learning to reconnect with your own body? This intimate conversation with embodiment therapist Jazz reveals how many women struggle with pleasure because they're fundamentally disconnected from their bodies, living in their heads rather than experiencing through physical sensation. "We are taught to exist f...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a transformation coach's life? After 42 episodes of helping you navigate life's chaos, we're pulling back the curtain on our personal journeys, businesses, and why we're so passionate about this work. Lurinda reveals how her own disconnection from self during a relationship breakdown became the catalyst for her coaching career...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever done a breathwork session, shadow work, or healing process and found yourself wondering "now what?" You're not alone. The growing personal development industry has created a powerful narrative around emotional breakthroughs, but often leaves people hanging when it comes to what happens after the tissues are put away. In this raw conversation, we expose the missing li...

Send us Fan Mail We've all been there—that moment when your child ignores you for the fifth time and something inside you snaps. The volume rises, your body tenses, and later comes the guilt: "Why did I react that way?" In this raw, enlightening conversation, Lurinda interviews Steph about her journey from struggling with parental rage to becoming what Lurinda calls "the habit queen." Steph reveal...

Send us Fan Mail Raw, unfiltered, and completely unrehearsed - welcome to an episode where we strip away the polish and dive straight into questions that made us squirm, reflect, and occasionally gasp. This conversation began with a simple premise: what happens when two coaches who regularly challenge clients face unexpected questions themselves? The result is a fascinating exploration of vulnerab...

Send us Fan Mail Ever caught yourself promising "I'll start Monday" week after week? You're not alone. This raw conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about why we set intentions that rarely translate into action. We unpack the fascinating psychology behind why your brain actually gets a dopamine hit just from declaring your intentions—especially when others affirm them—creating the illusion...

Send us Fan Mail What if everything you've been told about trauma making you stronger is actually allowing you to sink further into chaos? In this deeply personal conversation, we challenge the popular notion that suffering builds character and instead explore how trauma fundamentally rewires our nervous systems. Our bodies become calibrated to chaos and uncertainty after traumatic experiences. Th...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns despite knowing better? Relationship therapist Paige Louise joins Lurinda to unravel the invisible threads that connect our past wounds to our current partnerships. Paige shares her powerful journey from being trapped in generational cycles of toxic relationships to becoming the empowered woman who helps others br...

Send us Fan Mail Saleste Noonan joins Steph to dismantle one of the most toxic myths in modern hustle culture: that we all have the same 24 hours in a day. This refreshingly honest conversation cuts through the noise to acknowledge that our capacity varies wildly based on circumstances, support systems, and natural energy levels. "Does my day start at 4am if I've been up all night with my child wh...

Send us Fan Mail What if the things that trigger us online are actually pathways to deeper self-awareness and healing? Join us for a candid exploration of the emotional rollercoaster we all face in today's digital age. We unpack the importance of identifying who or what triggers us and why. Sometimes it's easier to block out the negativity from strangers, but when those comments hit close to home,...

Send us Fan Mail Ever been told your anger was just PMS or dismissed as an emotional overreaction? It's time to change the narrative. In our latest episode, we unravel the layers of women's anger and challenge the stereotypes that often surround it. Through sharing personal experiences, we uncover the shame many women feel when expressing anger and recognize it as a powerful response to boundary v...

Send us Fan Mail This episode centres around embracing imperfection, particularly in motherhood and personal routines. We share insights on shifting from an all-or-nothing mindset to a more flexible approach to life, focusing on the importance of self-care and connection. • Exploring the roots of perfectionism in our upbringing  • Stressing practical tips for managing realistic morning routines  •...

Send us Fan Mail The first episode in a new series we’re calling you’ve just… now what? Where we break down every day occurrences and how we’d handle them in real time.  Losing your nana as a parent is common, but how we navigate these moments can define our relationships with our children. In this episode, we discuss triggers, emotional regulation, the importance of ownership, and co-regulation t...

Send us Fan Mail This episode tackles the weight of parenting judgments and the importance of forging a path that's true to oneself. By sharing personal experiences, we discuss building confidence, navigating societal pressures, and the notion of being a "helicopter parent" while reinforcing that it's okay to prioritise the needs of your children over opinions.  • Exploring the journey of parentin...

Send us Fan Mail Life doesn’t come with a warning label, and when it hits, it hits hard. In this episode of Unhinged and Unfiltered , we dive headfirst into the chaos, starting with Lurinda’s stepdaughter’s severe car accident—a moment that threw their family into survival mode. We’re talking raw reactions to trauma, how to make peace with those feelings, and what it looks like to stay grounded wh...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when the unimaginable becomes reality? This episode brings you a deeply personal story from Steph's dear friend and client, Amy, who shares her heart-wrenching journey through the loss of her daughter, Georgie. At 36 weeks and five days into her pregnancy, Amy faced the devastating news that her beautiful baby girl no longer had a heartbeat. She shares the profound em...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered why your favorite mindset tools like affirmations and meditations sometimes miss the mark? Tune in to uncover the truth about these popular self-care practices and why they might not be working as expected. We promise to reveal how societal conditioning impacts their effectiveness, especially in the realm of body image post-pregnancy. Discover the importance of subco...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to transform your life? Discover the secrets to an impactful coaching journey with us, Steph and Lurinda, in our latest episode of "Unhinged and Unfiltered." We promise you'll gain invaluable insights into aligning coaching with your life stage and values, especially if you're navigating the complexities of motherhood and other responsibilities. Learn how to assess your mind...

Send us Fan Mail We discuss our intentions for 2025 and explore the significance of embracing a mindset of impact and health as opposed to traditional resolutions. Understanding our values allows for creating practical habits and meaningful changes in our lives while also inviting listeners to contribute feedback for future episodes.  • Exploring the difference between resolutions and intentions ...

Send us Fan Mail What if surrendering to life's challenges could lead to the most profound growth and transformation? Join us on a heartfelt journey of introspection as we share candid reflections on a year filled with unexpected turns. From bold career shifts to the heart-wrenching experience of losing a loved one, we unpack the messy, yet beautiful process of embracing change and trusting in our...

Send us Fan Mail Balancing the chaos of motherhood and entrepreneurship is no small feat, and today, we're peeling back the curtain on the gritty realities of this journey. What happens when the polished portrayals on social media meet the raw truth of sleepless nights and relentless hustle? Join us as we share our personal stories and the hard-earned wisdom that comes from living at the intersect...