The Sexual Wholeness Revival

Couples don’t know the whole story before they get married. Issues from their past can blindside them and cause unwanted disconnection.   In this Q&A episode of Sexual Wholeness Revival, Mary and Katieann answer audience questions about applying biblical sexuality in a culture that rejects truth and emphasize returning to God’s design for sexual intimacy in marriage. They discuss healing from...

Sexual intimacy in marriage is sacred by God’s design. As parents, we can model that with the language we use, especially as we teach what is good and healthy for our family.  Mary and Katieann share personal family updates, including expecting a fourth grandson, then shift to child sexual abuse prevention as part of their Sexual Wholeness Revival focus. They emphasize partnering with wisdom rathe...

Bibliotherapy is an ancient process used to bring fresh awareness and self-discovery. God’s love is timeless like that.    Mary and Katieann discuss how God can use everyday media to reveal and heal hidden emotional wounds, using the song “More Than Words” (released March 12, 1991) as an example that unexpectedly triggered a vivid memory of heartbreak from a former spouse. They explain that such e...

Getting to the resolution when there is conflict is not the ultimate goal. It’s the increased connection that comes from working together… even if you never agree on the solution.  After a season of serious family issues, Mary describes an extended family member respectfully confronting her about past word choices, leading to understanding, hugs, and recommitment to the relationship. She and Katie...

What If Your Marriage Struggles Started Before You Met Your Spouse? We often think we’ve moved on after a painful past, only to find the trauma is still affecting us. Mary and Katieann discuss healing and intimacy after sexual abuse, prompted by watching a documentary on Elizabeth Smart . Mary shares childhood sexual abuse by two neighborhood boys and explains how its effects surfaced later in mar...

A healthy sex life benefits MORE than your marriage but you may be unaware of how you are accidentally sabotaging it. Mary and Katieann discuss how many couples want connection but “accidentally kill” intimacy through everyday habits, then outline the benefits of a healthy, biblical sex life in marriage and practical ways to say yes to connection. They highlight physical, emotional, and spiritual...

You need intentional rhythms, not just good intentions, for your marriage to be healthy, This means you build a bridge to connection on purpose, whether your marriage has any issues or conflict right now.  The Marriage Boost Session: A Guided, Weekly Rhythm for Connection Mary and Katieann introduce a new guided “Marriage Boost Session” designed to give couples a regular, one-hour connection exper...

It’s not because we don’t want closeness. We just don’t knowhow to make it happen easily. The episode addresses how couples often slip into “roommate” mode by only exchanging daily logistics and information, which doesn’t automatically create intimacy. Mary and Katieann explain that closeness grows when partners move from reporting events to understanding each other’s inner world through feelings,...

Men could assume sex just runs by itself but they may want to discover what they’re missing. In this episode, Mary and Katieann discuss Sam Jolman’s book “The Sex Talk You Never Got” (foreword by John Eldridge) as part of a series supporting men on the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, with the host admitting she hasn’t finished the book and read the conclusion first. They explore why men benefit...

This episode reveals the Sexy Butler Secret. You’ll see how servant leadership changes marriage. It’s the perfect combination of his and her desires being met. In a conversation focused on encouraging men in their God-given role, Mary and Katieann highlight Danny Silk’s book The Way of the Dragon Slayer and the impact of Silk’s teachings, including Keep Your Love On, on their marriages and ministr...

There is one, clear-cut issue that blocks emotional and sexual intimacy in marriage. We invite husbands into a better way to love their wives. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann introduce Brant Hansen’s book The Men We Need and explain they’ll spend the next few weeks highlighting practical ways to help men strengthen marriage through God’s design for intima...

True intimacy is based on trust and that can’t happen without the exchange of truth. So we always go back to the foundation of mutual respect. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann discuss how people, especially in Christian dating, often rush into intimacy based on romanticized cultural messages, strong feelings, and “God told me” assumptions, instead of takin...

Sexual integrity is more than just “not messing up”. It starts by living in a place of wholeness at home. In this part-two conversation on church leadership and sexuality, the Mary and Katieann contrast “sexual risk management” (avoiding scandal, lawsuits, reputation damage, and external compliance) with “sexual discipleship,” which focuses on heart-level formation and God’s design for covenant, m...

The Problem Isn’t Sin. It’s Lack of Accountability. We are all human, leaders, too. We want a system that supports even through struggles but we usually are aligned with a list of don’ts. In this episode, Mary and Katieann discuss moral failures in church leadership and ask how churches screen staff and volunteers, especially regarding sexuality. Katieann explains that hiring and serving are large...

Taboo and delicate issues require sensitivity yes, but most of all, truth. In a Q&A episode drawn from YouTube, the podcast, and social media, Mary and Katieann address complex marriage and sex questions from a Christian perspective, stressing mutual consent, respect, and emotional safety. They advise a wife with a higher sex drive than her husband to prioritize understanding and rebuilding em...

Some marriages have fallen into habits that use bible verses for manipulation and control. This can’t continue. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival Podcast, Mary and Katieann discuss changing language around “wants” and “needs” in sex, clarifying that needs are basic for survival while wants are meaningful desires. They explore sex’s purpose beyond procreation as bonding, belonging, an...

The healthiest marriage does not start at the altar. It starts with everything that you practiced before you got there. That’s why we need our teens equipped for dating. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss how parents and youth leaders can talk with teens about sex from a biblical perspective, emphasizing that it’s never too late to start and th...

Even healthy marriages go through an ebb and flow of sexual connection. The goal is to recognize it, be honest, and find ways to bridge the gap. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss how married couples who love each other and follow God can still experience sexual dry spells due to everyday life stress, grief, travel, and busyness, emphasizing th...

Marriage thrives when both husband and wife experience enjoyment but they get there differently. In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss the “orgasm gap” between husbands and wives, warning the episode is not for children and asking whether wives’ lower interest in sex may stem from not experiencing pleasure. They define the gap with statistics (men...

Sexual wholeness is not about policing purity and controlling behavior. It’s about looking to the person of truth, Jesus, to create intimacy in marriage that is healthy, whole, and filled with joy.  In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann discuss why many churches struggle to talk about sex even though the Bible affirms sexual intimacy in marriage. They tra...

“It wasn’t like we woke up one day and said, let’s talk about sex… all of the time. No, we had wounds that caused a lot of pain but then, we got healing. That’s when everything changed!” In this episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, hosts Mary and Katieann interview each other to explain why they do the show and how their personal experiences revealed the need for sexual wholeness. Kati...

It’s important to talk about the common sex issues people are having so they won’t feel isolated or keep producing the fruit of brokenness. In this audience-driven episode, we answer your questions and comments surrounding body image and its impact on sexual intimacy in marriage. Mary and Katieann discuss how body changes, societal standards, and the idea of rejection affect wives' perspectives on...

Passion can inspire you to action but what you really want is something that bonds you to one another. In this intriguing episode of the Sexual Wholeness Revival podcast, Mary and Katieann explore the origins of passion, contrasting Hollywood's depiction with Biblical examples. They delve into stories from Genesis, examining how passion in God's design is meant to be sacred, intimate, and reserved...

Could this one misunderstood topic change everything about sex and intimacy in your marriage? In this engaging episode, Mary and Katieann explore the often-overlooked types of sexual desire, discussing the myths perpetuated by Hollywood and the importance of appreciating the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They emphasize the significance of emotional and romantic connections...

What role does trust play in your sex life? If you don’t feel emotionally safe, it’s impossible to have true intimacy. Mary and Katieann address the issue of trust in marriage, particularly focusing on its impact on sexual intimacy. Triggered by a listener's question, they dive into practical tips to identify and build trust within a Christian marriage framework. Key topics include the harmful eff...