The Sensible Split

Family members rushing in with opinions during divorce creates a perfect storm of love and chaos. The fierce loyalty of those closest to us often translates into advice-giving that, while well-intentioned, can derail the resolution process and leave divorcing individuals feeling more confused than supported. This dynamic is very common, creating additional layers of conflict that weren't there bef...

Retirement accounts are often among the most valuable assets in a divorce, but dividing them the wrong way can trigger serious tax consequences or even result in lost benefits. In this episode, I break down the basics of QDROs—Qualified Domestic Relations Orders—including when they're needed, how they function, and what makes them different from other types of retirement account divisions.   I als...

The cost of divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when you're already dealing with the emotional and practical challenges of separation. In this episode, I'm breaking down practical solutions for affording the legal process, including both traditional and lesser-known options that can help make divorce more financially manageable.   I explore ten specific methods to fund your divorce, from str...

Are you struggling with co-parenting communication? The constant back-and-forth texts, missed appointments, and disagreements about expenses can make an already difficult situation even more stressful. What if there were a digital solution designed specifically to address these challenges?   In this episode, I break down the most popular co-parenting apps on the market, explaining their unique fea...

Have you ever felt like your spouse treats the money they earn as exclusively theirs, not yours as a couple? This "it's my money" mindset can create major challenges, especially when navigating a divorce. As the sole breadwinner, they may feel entitled to control the finances and make unilateral decisions without considering your contributions or needs.     In this episode, I dive into the problem...

Are you worried about the cost of attorney's fees in your divorce? You're not alone. Navigating the legal process while managing expenses can feel overwhelming, but there are strategies you can use to keep costs under control.     Discover practical ways to work with your attorney efficiently, make informed decisions, and avoid common pitfalls that lead to higher bills. You'll come away with a cle...

Boundaries are essential in any relationship, but they become even more critical when navigating the challenges of divorce. Without clear boundaries, you may find yourself feeling emotionally drained, dealing with unclear expectations, and struggling to resolve conflicts effectively.     In this episode, I'll introduce you to the two main categories of boundaries - exterior and interior - and focu...

Are you contemplating divorce but feeling paralyzed by the prospect of change? Do you find yourself stuck in an unfulfilling marriage, unsure if you have what it takes to create a new beginning? In this episode, I explore the key components of building the confidence necessary to move forward with divorce and pursue the life you truly desire.   Join me to discover how to cultivate the confidence y...

Are the holidays feeling hard for you this year? If you're going through or have recently finalized your divorce, the holiday season can bring up a mix of challenging emotions like loneliness, sadness, and even anger. It's totally normal to feel this way, even if it seems like everyone else is full of holiday cheer.   In this episode, I share some actionable strategies to help you cope with diffic...

Have you ever wondered what it takes to be a credible client during the divorce process? As someone who has gone through divorce, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to navigate the legal and emotional complexities while trying to make the best decisions for myself and my family.   Tune in this week to learn the seven key traits of a credible client during the divorce process and why embody...

Do you ever question whether your reasons for wanting a divorce are valid? As women, we are socialized to second guess ourselves, especially when it comes to making major life decisions like ending a marriage.     But here's the truth: your feelings are valid. Persistent unhappiness or a sense that the relationship is no longer serving you is a meaningful reason to consider divorce. Tune in to lea...

Are you interested in working with a divorce coach but worried you can't afford it during an already financially uncertain time?   Tune in today to learn how divorce coaching can help you navigate this challenging transition in a way that protects your financial future. I explain how working with a coach can lessen your reliance on costly attorneys, help you avoid expensive mistakes, and set you u...

Have you ever felt like you needed support navigating your divorce, but weren't sure where to turn? While friends and family can be invaluable during this challenging time, the guidance of a professional divorce coach offers a unique perspective.     Join me as we dive into five crucial ways divorce coaching differs from the well-meaning advice of friends and family. You'll gain clarity on how to...

Are you considering introducing a new romantic partner to your children after divorce? It's an exciting time, but also one that requires careful consideration and planning. How can you make this transition as smooth as possible for your kids?     Tune in this week as I share my tips for introducing a new partner in a way that minimizes disruption and negative impacts on your children. You'll learn...

Do you ever feel like your marriage or relationship is lacking something, but you can't quite put your finger on what it is? What if I told you that getting crystal clear on what you want out of your relationship could be the key to unlocking greater fulfillment and happiness?     Tune in this week to learn a powerful exercise for evaluating your marriage or relationship and making positive change...

Do I still have a shot at happiness after divorce? Will my best days always be behind me? If you're struggling with these thoughts, you're not alone. Divorce-related grief can make us question everything we once believed about our future. But just because you're struck with divorce grief right now, it doesn't need to be that way forever. To discuss divorce and grief, I'm joined by grief expert Kri...

Are you a divorced or separated parent looking to make parenting exchanges less stressful for yourself and your children? Navigating the transition between two homes can be emotionally challenging for kids, but there are steps you can take to create a more stable, supportive environment. In this episode, we dive into 10 best practices to help you handle parenting exchanges with grace and cooperati...

The digital landscape we live in is complex, especially in regards to privacy in divorce. If you're not familiar with how technology can be utilized in divorce in today's world, you might be placing yourself, your privacy, and potentially your success in achieving your desired divorce outcome at risk.     Tune in this week to discover everything you need to know if you're concerned about your digi...

The choices you make at the time when your marriage is breaking down set the dynamic for your separation and future conflict. In the heat of the moment, you might make decisions that make communication and negotiations more difficult than they would be otherwise. So, how do you make smart choices that will lead to a smoother divorce for everyone involved?     Tune in this week to discover the smar...

Today, I'm sharing tips and insight from my unique background as a divorce coach, mediator, and lawyer, as I talk with fellow divorce coach, Dr. Stefanie Huff.  Dr. Stef is a mom, a physician, and a divorce coach. She's interviewing me on my varying roles in helping people through the divorce process, and shining some light on my unique situation as a coach, mediator, and lawyer.   Tune in this we...

How do you choose the right divorce coach for you? There are three important factors to consider when looking for a divorce coach to help you in reaching the outcomes you want, so I'm walking you through all of these on today's episode so you can make the right hiring decision the first time around.     Tune in this week for a framework to help you decide how to hire the right divorce coach for yo...

Nobody teaches us to become more comfortable with engaging in conflict in a productive way. However, there's a lot on the line here and you need to stand up for what you believe is an acceptable resolution in your divorce, so this episode is here to help you get a little more confident when it comes to conflict.     Tune in this week to discover what conflict is costing you in your divorce, and ho...

Spousal support, also known as alimony or maintenance, is the obligation to support a spouse financially after divorce or while proceedings are pending as part of the terms of separation. This helps the lower-earning or non-earning spouse maintain a similar standard of living to that experienced during the marriage.   Tune in this week to discover what you need to know about spousal support during...

Hiring a lawyer isn't just about making a yes or no decision. It's time to lift the lid on all of the options you have when using a lawyer during your divorce so you can make an informed decision based on your exact needs. Tune in this week to discover your options so you can decide on the scope of representation that is best for your  personal desires, goals, and budget.   Get full show notes, tr...

It's currently spring break 2024 and summer is almost here, which can bring up a ton of stress for divorced parents who want to plan vacation time with their kids. So, what do you need to consider now about creating a parenting plan that covers everyone's needs when it comes to post-divorce vacation time with your kids?   Tune in this week to learn how to plan for vacations with kids after a divor...