The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

In this episode, we dig into the ADHD Masking Trifecta - Overfunctioning, People Pleasing, and Perfectionism - that many of us high-functioning ADHD women adopted (often subconsciously as kids) to be able to function with ADHD.  We’ll explore signs that it is no longer working and what to do instead.  This is essential - especially for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs - both because we need to show up aut...

Experiencing grief and loss in our culture is often tough because no one really talks about it so few really know how to cope with it or even how to talk to the grieving.  ADHD adds a layer of challenge to this. In this episode, we explore the unique ways ADHD impacts the grief process as well as how to cope with grief and loss. Without this work, grief and loss builds up over the years and can co...

Hi everyone,  The day following the election in the States, I connected with a lot of people - clients, friends, acquaintances and more - all of whom were women and some of whom are in the queer community.  I noticed that a lot of us were (maybe still are) rightfully feeling some big and heavy stuff. To meet the moment, in this episode we talk about how we highly sensitive women navigate our big f...

Hey everyone, In this episode we explore why and how procrastination works to get yourself to do stuff with ADHD and how it actually makes your ADHD worse. It turns out, there are at least six other ways to work with your brain wiring to get yourself to do stuff that don’t have the same negative effects as procrastination can. Plus, there are three essential pieces of ADHD motivation to consider t...

In this episode we explore a commonly ignored and overlooked challenge many ADHD women face, that keeps you and your business small AND, what to do about it.   When ADHD Women Entrepreneurs aren’t aware of and actively addressing this challenges, it keeps you from doing the work you need to do - inside and out - to build and grow a prosperous, meaningful business.     By the end of this episode, y...

Hey everyone,  Welcome to the Self-Loved Women Podcast. In today's episode of the Self-Loved Woman Podcast, I'm diving deep into the world of ADHD. We'll be exploring the complexities of this type of neurodivergence, including the ongoing debate about whether it should be classified as a disability or simply a neurodivergent trait. Personal Reflections I'll be sharing my own experiences with ADHD,...

Hey everyone, Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast! Today, I'm diving deep into a topic that's been weighing heavy on my mind lately: how to navigate the chaos of our world while staying compassionate and focused on our businesses, especially when you have ADHD. The ADHD Brain and Sensitivity: As someone with ADHD, I've noticed that I'm particularly sensitive to global events. The constant stre...

Hi everyone!  Welcome back to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast. Today, I'm diving into a topic that's close to my heart and probably yours too: the impact of hustle culture on ADHD women entrepreneurs. The Challenges of Hustle Culture We've all felt the pressure to constantly be "on," to always be striving for more. But for ADHD women, this relentless pursuit of success can be especially challenging....

Join me on the Self Loved Woman Podcast to explore how to embrace neurodivergence and thrive with ADHD.   I'll share some of my personal journey, highlight the importance of validating experiences, and discuss overcoming the challenges of ADHD.   Learn how to unlock your potential by leaning into discomfort and setting up your life to work with your ADHD. This episode provides practical steps to m...

Welcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast! In today's episode, I'm diving deep into the unique struggles faced by ADHD women entrepreneurs. As someone who's navigated this path firsthand, I'll share personal stories and insights on over-functioning, high achievement, and how these coping mechanisms can both help and hinder our entrepreneurial journeys. Over functioning and High Achievement: A Double...

Hey there,  Welcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast. I'm Jen Barnes, and today we're diving deep into something that often gets overlooked in the world of entrepreneurship: the impact of unresolved past trauma and wounds. Highlighting three types of entrepreneurs, I identify how past events can hinder one's ability to start or grow a business.    We then delve into how trauma affects the brain and...

Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast! Today, I'm diving deep into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: mindfulness for ADHD. As someone who's navigated the ups and downs of this type of neurodivergene, I've found that mindfulness has been a game-changer in helping me focus, reduce stress, and connect with myself on a deeper level. Understanding ADHD and Focus: Let's talk about ADHD. We all...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, Jen Barnes discusses how to identify and overcome internal obstacles, especially fear, that hold ADHD women back in their personal and professional lives. She highlights the challenges arising from fear, perfectionism, decision paralysis, and imposter syndrome, and announces a free three-part live virtual training starting August 1, 2024, aimed at e...

In this episode, I discuss four non-ADHD thieves of productivity that significantly impact both personal and business life: the inability to say no, fear of chaos, poor health habits, and unsupportive environments. Drawing insights from Gary Keller and Jay Papasan’s book, "The One Thing," I break down how these factors uniquely affect individuals with ADHD, sharing personal anecdotes and practical...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I share my personal journey of overcoming mental health challenges and embracing my neurodivergence. I'll offer practical tips on how to increase self-confidence, practice mindfulness tailored for ADHD, and establish a productive morning routine. Together, we'll explore the significance of self-talk, the power of gratitude, and the importance of eli...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I explore the lesser-discussed experience of living with ADHD without masking symptoms through overachievement or high functionality. I delve into how complex trauma can affect our ability to manage ADHD and acknowledge the unique challenges and paths we each take. I emphasize the importance of self-compassion, challenge the 'underachiever' narrativ...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, Jen explores the personal growth challenges that emerge during business launches, especially when things don't go as planned. She candidly shares her own struggles with recurring tech issues and how they often mask deeper, underlying fears and obstacles that need to be addressed. Jen highlights the importance of introspection, self-awareness, and un...

In this episode, I address the challenging reality that ADHD cannot be fixed and will always be a part of life. I discuss the struggles faced by individuals with ADHD in a society that often lacks accommodations for their neurodiverse needs. I emphasize the importance of normalizing these challenges and highlight the dual nature of ADHD, where strengths such as creativity and spontaneity coexist w...

In this episode, I explore the complex relationship between ADHD and trauma, highlighting the high co-occurrence rates and the ways in which symptoms can overlap, complicating diagnosis. Drawing from my personal and professional experiences, I discuss how trauma and ADHD symptoms often mirror each other, leading to misdiagnosis or underdiagnosis. I explain the emotional and psychological impacts o...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I delve into the topic of productivity, particularly for ADHD women entrepreneurs. I emphasize the importance of separating self-worth from productivity and define true productivity as completing the most essential tasks for business growth. I underscore the unique challenges faced by ADHD individuals in a neurotypical society and offer strategies t...

This episode discusses the challenges of dealing with vulnerability, judgment, and criticism, particularly for individuals with ADHD who face these issues more frequently than their non-ADHD counterparts. It emphasizes the difficulty of accepting mistakes due to a history of criticism and explores the deeper work required to manage the fear of uncertainty, noting that predictability is an illusion...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I address the topic of burnout, particularly focusing on ADHD women entrepreneurs. I delve into the signs of burnout, how it manifests in the body, and how systemic issues play a role. I provide actionable strategies to combat burnout, including daily stress-relief methods and the importance of community care. I also distinguish between stress and o...

In this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I explore how ADHD impacts productivity and provide strategies to manage it effectively. I emphasize that productivity does not equate to personal value and introduce ways to function optimally without constant hustle. Key topics include the importance of regulating the nervous system, getting adequate sleep, healthy nutrition, and incorporating dai...

Hey, it's Jen from the Self Loved Woman Podcast. In this episode of "The 2 Most Crucial Pieces of Getting Stuff Done with ADHD", we explore the challenges of focusing and getting things done when you're in your fight or flight response. Learn how to recognize the signs of this response, such as feeling anxious, restless, or antsy, and discover the importance of taking breaks and self-regulation to...

Hey, it's Jen from the Self Loved Woman Podcast. I used to think I was disciplined, but I've realized it's about training habits, especially with ADHD. Each habit I've built, like my morning routine, came over time, not all at once. In today’s episode we look at how willpower is needed to start a habit, but it's also limited so we must focus on one habit at a time, making it interesting and removi...