The Self Help Antidote

Send a text In this episode, we (my lovely wife Aimi and I) dive into the invaluable insights I've gained from the most inspiring leaders I've had the privilege to work under. These lessons aren't just theories; they're tried-and-true practices that have propelled teams and organizations to success.  Belief in Others Every great boss I've known had an unwavering belief in...

Send a text In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the heart of authentic leadership with our guest, Chris Meroff. Chris wrote the book on authentic leadership.  That's not a metaphor, his next book is literally titled "Discovering the Heart of Authentic Leadership." Chris is also a USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestselling author of his first book,  Align: Four Simple...

Send a text In this candid and highly insightful episode, my guest Trevor Justice and I dive deep into how we can shift our patterns in relationships, focusing on essential themes that foster healthier and more fulfilling connections: Love and Acceptance: Embrace who you are and attract those who appreciate the real you. Non-Judgment: Learn the art of open-mindedness in relationships. Respect: Und...

Send a text My guest today, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela is an award winning film maker with over 15 awards to her credit, including a recent Oscar qualifier.  She is also my wife.  So this is in no way a biased interview ;) Join us for this episode "Failing Forward," where we dive into the paradoxical power of getting it wrong to get it right. Each episode serves up a candid blend of storie...

Send a text In this week's episode, Tiff and I take a nuanced journey through the labyrinth of human emotions.  We celebrate the uplifting power of positivity, recognizing its incredible potential to foster resilience, creativity, and warmth.  But as we traverse this path, we also explore positivity’s shadow: toxic positivity. We aim to dissect the fine line between genuine empathy and the pe...

Send a text Welcome back to 'The Self Help Antidote,' where we indulge in our favorite pastime – engaging in profound conversations about life's intricacies. Join us as we embark on another journey into the depths of existence, touching upon themes like meaning, manifestation, identity, the irony of Bobby not knowing the meaning of the word pontificate, and the ever-elusive certaint...

Send a text Journey with us as we unravel the ancient magic of storytelling! From the tales we grew up with to the narratives we tell ourselves, discover how stories shape our reality, beliefs, and destiny. Dive into cognitive restructuring, learn from the hero's journey, and explore the therapeutic process of re-authoring. Whether you're looking to understand the influence of the tales...

Send a text Dive deep into the labyrinth of self in this illuminating episode as we venture to the darkest corners of our psyche and learn the importance of accepting every part of ourselves. Drawing inspiration from Joseph Campbell's iconic "hero's journey," we explore the profound challenges and ultimate triumphs one encounters when pursuing inner transformation. Just like I...

Send a text In the labyrinth of human psyche, self-sabotage lurks, causing us to question: Why do we hinder ourselves? In this episode, Tiff and I delve into the profound dance of self-defeat. We ponder why, even with the best intentions, we sometimes act counter to our own desires. But fear not, for we also traverse the avenues to overcome these self-inflicted obstacles. Together, we unravel the...

Send a text The heady blend of little rest, ceaseless travel, and the ever-mounting weight of high expectations, all while dancing on the edge of sleep deprivation. Yes, we find ourselves enveloped in what I would call an exquisite storm of life's pressures. But fear not, dear listener. Today, we delve into the art of navigating these tumultuous seas. We explore the tactical decisions one can...

Send a text Join us in this entertaining and enlightening episode as I do a deep dive with Alfie Noakes, a multifaceted maestro with over a decade of experience in TV production. From climbing the ladders as a runner to wearing the hat of a series producer, Alfie's journey is nothing short of inspiring. He's taken mere concepts and turned them into captivating realities, crafting tales f...

Send a text Can understanding the principles and practices of psychology and philosophy create a powerful fusion to guide you towards the achievement of your wellbeing and fitness goals?    In this transformative episode we embark on a journey of self-discovery, drawing from the groundbreaking concepts of Sophie Thomas's book "Fitlosophy" and the wisdom of some of the greatest philo...

Send a text In this episode we delve into the fascinating intersection of coaching, psychology and real-life stories of how holding the space of belief for someone can plant the seeds of triumph over adversity.  We also explore how belief can powerfully impact achievement, as evidenced by the groundbreaking Jacobson and Rosenthal study.   The belief that we have in ourselves and others offers us i...

Send a text It's all my fault!  That statement seems a bit harsh.  It might even sounds a bit like blame and self-loathing; neither of which is productive, and can even be quite destructive in the long run.   However, that's not what me and Tiff mean.  In this episode, we are talking about responsibility, or the ability to respond to life's challenges, regardless of who or what is t...

Send a text What is the gap between what we think we know, and what we actually know?  Most subject matter expertise requires a recognition as well as an appreciation of nuance.  In a world where the measure and complexity of information is constantly increasing, we are increasingly (and understandably) filtering the world  through our subjective opinions and cognitive biases.  One such bias is kn...

Send a text "In times of change, learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists." - (Eric Hoffer) It's not what you know in life, it's what you love.  We are all innately curious about what we love.  Knowing what that is for you will ignite a passion in you, to continually learn about it; and a passi...

Send a text No one likes rejection.  Some of us fear it more than others.  At times, it can paralyze us.  However, the reality is that in order to do anything meaningful, experience growth promoting opportunities or achieve anything requiring collaboration, which is nearly everything, we need to risk the possibility that we will be rejected.   There are many strategies on how to overcome the fear...

Send a text We are all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't.  We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing."   Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send a text Time, it's all we really have and it's running out every single moment. Yet we treat it like an endless resource, which it is until it isn't. And none of us really know when that might be. It could be years. Or it could be today? A bit grim, we know.   None of this is news to us, we all know it and we reference it in all of the cliches, but do we really live our lives wi...

Send a text In this episode my guest, Dr. Avnesh Ratnanesan and I talk about all things bliss.  If you ask people what they want most in life, after discussing things like where they want to live, how they want to look, places they want to visit, their ideal family and career goals, most will say it all comes down to happiness.  But happiness can be elusive because it’s often fleeting.  You meet s...

Send a text If you’re not in a cult, are you being influenced by groups, perhaps on social media that operate as one?  The more disturbing questions is, would you know? My guest for this episode says that “you never know that you are in a cult, you only know you were in one.”  Wikipedia describes a cult as a term used for “a relatively small group which is typically led by a charismatic and self-a...

Send a text We all want love.  We want to be loved and to love others in return.  It's arguable our deepest desire.  Clearly, it doesn't always work out quite the way we wish it would.  When it doesn't, what gets in the way? In this episode Tiff and I explore perhaps one of the most mysterious questions, what is love and how do we navigate it?   What influences our attachment tenden...

Send a text In this episode my guest is Lee Davy.  The conversation started off around the definition of the definition of breathwork, as well as the how and why to do it.  Then, the conversation went deep into what we believe is the true meaning of freedom.  Are we free?  If, not what are the mindsets, principles and practices that can liberate us physically, emotionally, and mentally?   Lee Davy...

Send a text There’s more information and awareness today about neurodivergence than at any other time in history.  While that decreases the stigma around being different and increases the resources available post-diagnosis, there’s still quite a bit of confusion, misinformation, and social misconceptions about people whose brains work a bit differently. While we don’t always have influence over wh...

Send a text We have all had situations where we wanted something and went for it.  Far more often than not, there were multiple moments along that journey that felt challenging, perhaps discouraging, even insurmountable.  Yet, we persevered and succeeded despite of our doubts and difficulties.  Looking back, it's likely that our decision to stay the course helped us grow into the person we ar...