The Self Help Antidote

Send a text Let's be real: the only time we'll be completely stress-free is when we're done and dusted, pushing up daisies, or whatever euphemism you prefer for the great beyond. Stress is part of the contract we signed when we decided to exist. Ok, maybe that's a bit rich, but stress is in fact an unavoidable part of life.  It's a healthy, sometimes annoying, at it's...

Send a text Welcome to our hustle-busting episode of "The Self-Help Antidote"! This week, Tiffanee Cook is back (wow I have missed her)!  And we're blowing the lid off the age-old mantra of "try harder, work harder." Spoiler alert: it's not always the answer! Join us as we explore how endless grinding might be murdering your creativity in its sleep. 😱 We'll dive...

Send a text Despite the enormous body of information on behavior change, many people find changing unwanted behaviors—whether around weight loss, work, or relationships—to be among the most frustrating and elusive struggles in their lives. The National Institutes of Health reports that 97% of individuals who set a goal of weight loss will either fail to lose the weight or keep it off for a span of...

Send a text In this episode, we delve into the world of leadership coaching, exploring the evidence-based theories that underpin its effectiveness. Coaching is a powerful tool for personal and professional development, leveraging psychological and social dynamics to foster growth and change. We begin by discussing scientific coaching models and theories that emphasize learning, growth and developm...

Send a text Welcome to episode 160 of the Self Help Antidote, where we dive deep into the transformative power of emotional intelligence and its profound impact on both personal relationships and career performance. For this episode I decided to do a Q&A session where we answer commonly asked questions about EI and provide actionable insights to help you harness this vital skill. Discover how...

Send a text In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the complex and multifaceted world of burnout with our esteemed guest, Dr. Cam McDonald. Cam is a leader, educator, PhD scholar, and internationally recognized speaker on personalized health. As a key executive and education leader at Precision Health Alliance, his mission is to eliminate chronic disease and pain by 2050, making 'healt...

Send a text In this enlightening episode, I have a chat with my old friend and colleague, John Sinclair about one of the most powerful, yet under appreciated aspects of success and fulfillment, movement.   John is a renowned expert in movement as medicine, leveraging his diverse background as an educator, coach, athletic trainer, medical exercise specialist, and applied functional scientist to cre...

Send a text Welcome, to a special episode of The Self Help Antidote, where we take you behind the velvet curtain of the most enchanting, bewildering show on Earth—the 'Problem-Reaction-Solution' spectacle. Imagine, if you will, a stage where the problems are as abundant as the stars, reactions are the currency, and solutions? Well, they're the magic trick everyone's waiting to...

Send a text In this captivating episode of the Self Help Antidote, we're thrilled to welcome Dr. Jon Marion, a distinguished expert with a PhD in psychological anthropology, a former instructor at the Somatic School in London, and a past chapter president of the International Coach Federation (ICF). Dr. Marion brings his profound insights into the complex interplay between individual growth,...

Send a text Alright, here we go, strap in!  She's back!   This episode, me and Tiffanee Cook, we're going headfirst, I mean, like diving into a pool with no water, into some seriously personal stuff. You know, the kind that makes you go, "Whoa, this is a big issue, what am I doing here?"  Lately I've been going through life busier than a one legged river dancer, and it&apo...

Send a text In this thought-provoking episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we delve into the contentious and complex debate over human free will. We explore the philosophical underpinnings of free will, as traditionally espoused by thinkers like Descartes, contrasted with the revelations of modern neuroscience. Special guest, Clinical Neuropsychologist Roy Sugarman, author of  “Saving Yo...

Send a text In this insightful episode, I'm honored to have an extraordinary guest, my wife, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela, an award-winning filmmaker known for her deep and poignant storytelling Together, we explore something that people seem to be experiencing more and more, emotional exhaustion, a phenomenon that often leaves us drained and devoid of energy. Often described as feeling “spent.” ...

Send a text Welcome back to the first episode of the year, with Alan Questel.  Alan is a renown Feldenkrais practitioner, teacher and author.  I found my conversation with him to be both enjoyable and deeply fascinating.  I loved where the conversation went.  Alan’s wisdom, authenticity and generosity added so much value to this episode.   In the beginning of our conversation we delved into a myri...

Send a text This was such a fascinating conversation.  I had a chance to speak with the authors of the book "Necessary Death", Chris Gross and Preston Fassel.  These guys take a truly unique approach to growth, resilience,  healing and transformation.   "Necessary Death" is a compelling and thought-provoking work.  This book skillfully intertwines elements of psychological horr...

Send a text In this episode, we (my lovely wife Aimi and I) dive into the invaluable insights I've gained from the most inspiring leaders I've had the privilege to work under. These lessons aren't just theories; they're tried-and-true practices that have propelled teams and organizations to success.  Belief in Others Every great boss I've known had an unwavering belief in...

Send a text In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the heart of authentic leadership with our guest, Chris Meroff. Chris wrote the book on authentic leadership.  That's not a metaphor, his next book is literally titled "Discovering the Heart of Authentic Leadership." Chris is also a USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestselling author of his first book,  Align: Four Simple...

Send a text In this candid and highly insightful episode, my guest Trevor Justice and I dive deep into how we can shift our patterns in relationships, focusing on essential themes that foster healthier and more fulfilling connections: Love and Acceptance: Embrace who you are and attract those who appreciate the real you. Non-Judgment: Learn the art of open-mindedness in relationships. Respect: Und...

Send a text My guest today, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela is an award winning film maker with over 15 awards to her credit, including a recent Oscar qualifier.  She is also my wife.  So this is in no way a biased interview ;) Join us for this episode "Failing Forward," where we dive into the paradoxical power of getting it wrong to get it right. Each episode serves up a candid blend of storie...

Send a text In this week's episode, Tiff and I take a nuanced journey through the labyrinth of human emotions.  We celebrate the uplifting power of positivity, recognizing its incredible potential to foster resilience, creativity, and warmth.  But as we traverse this path, we also explore positivity’s shadow: toxic positivity. We aim to dissect the fine line between genuine empathy and the pe...

Send a text Welcome back to 'The Self Help Antidote,' where we indulge in our favorite pastime – engaging in profound conversations about life's intricacies. Join us as we embark on another journey into the depths of existence, touching upon themes like meaning, manifestation, identity, the irony of Bobby not knowing the meaning of the word pontificate, and the ever-elusive certaint...

Send a text Journey with us as we unravel the ancient magic of storytelling! From the tales we grew up with to the narratives we tell ourselves, discover how stories shape our reality, beliefs, and destiny. Dive into cognitive restructuring, learn from the hero's journey, and explore the therapeutic process of re-authoring. Whether you're looking to understand the influence of the tales...

Send a text Dive deep into the labyrinth of self in this illuminating episode as we venture to the darkest corners of our psyche and learn the importance of accepting every part of ourselves. Drawing inspiration from Joseph Campbell's iconic "hero's journey," we explore the profound challenges and ultimate triumphs one encounters when pursuing inner transformation. Just like I...

Send a text In the labyrinth of human psyche, self-sabotage lurks, causing us to question: Why do we hinder ourselves? In this episode, Tiff and I delve into the profound dance of self-defeat. We ponder why, even with the best intentions, we sometimes act counter to our own desires. But fear not, for we also traverse the avenues to overcome these self-inflicted obstacles. Together, we unravel the...

Send a text The heady blend of little rest, ceaseless travel, and the ever-mounting weight of high expectations, all while dancing on the edge of sleep deprivation. Yes, we find ourselves enveloped in what I would call an exquisite storm of life's pressures. But fear not, dear listener. Today, we delve into the art of navigating these tumultuous seas. We explore the tactical decisions one can...

Send a text Join us in this entertaining and enlightening episode as I do a deep dive with Alfie Noakes, a multifaceted maestro with over a decade of experience in TV production. From climbing the ladders as a runner to wearing the hat of a series producer, Alfie's journey is nothing short of inspiring. He's taken mere concepts and turned them into captivating realities, crafting tales f...