The Science of Self

Hear it Here - bit.ly/3FooG0d 00:02:42 Emotional Regulation 00:10:02 The Life Cycle of an Emotion • Keeping a gratitude journal is a great way to create genuine feelings of positivity. • Rather than creating good emotions and getting rid of negative ones, we can practice emotional self-regulation and become conscious masters of our own ever-unfolding emotional experience. • What makes an emotion g...

Hear it Here - http://bit.ly/GeniusHollins 00:09:20 1. Clarification Questions 00:09:28 2. Probing Assumptions 00:09:35 3. Probing Rationale, reasons, evidence 00:09:44 4. Questioning Viewpoints and perspectives 00:09:51 5. Probing Implications and consequences 00:10:02 6. Questions About the question 00:15:09 The Socratic method as a thinking technique 00:17:46 Turning the questions on ourselves...

Hear it Here - http://bit.ly/DecisionMakingHollins Welcome to the science of self 00:00:24 Don't know what your personal values are? 00:12:59 STEP ONE: CLEAR YOUR MIND 00:14:15 STEP TWO: START A LIST 00:16:45 STEP THREE: PULL IT ALL TOGETHER 00:18:25 STEP FOUR: RANK YOUR VALUES 00:19:39 STEP FIVE: LET YOUR VALUES COME ALIVE 00:20:56 STEP SIX: TRY THEM ON FOR SIZE • Understanding your needs helps y...

Hear it Here - bit.ly/3FooG0d • Toxic positivity is a kind of cognitive distortion and is an overgeneralization of a positive and optimistic attitude. It consists of denial, minimization, and invalidation of your own experience. Toxic positivity grows with shame, silence, and judgment. Positivity itself isn’t toxic, but denying our reality is. Human beings are wholes that contain both good and bad...

Hear it Here - http://bit.ly/GeniusHollins • Einstein’s genius traits included curiosity, having broad areas of interest (i.e. being a polymath), and a refusal to bow to convention. • Einstein is known today as one of the 20th century’s most influential scientific thinkers, and was considered by many to be a genius in both mathematics and physics. He won the Nobel Prize for his work on the photoel...

Often, decisions can be consciously articulated. If you want Chinese food for dinner, that’s easy to justify. But for both quicker and bigger decisions, you are likely more influenced by your subconscious than you realize. The importance of knowing potential subconscious influencing factors is thus extremely high to deciphering your actions. There are three models of subconscious needs and desires...

• The ancient Stoics were masters of living in the present. • One way of rethinking your relationship to the past is to adopt the Stoic attitude of amor fati. This translates roughly to “love of one’s fate.” Whatever happens is embraced, wanting “nothing to be different.” To practice it, look at events as neutrally as possible and then respond to them with a simple mantra like “good.” By focusing...

• Spartacus was able to do what he did because he was exquisitely focused on his goal – justice. Freedom is being outside of the control and dominion of any other being except yourself. Even if you are enslaved, you can emancipate yourself first by refusing to submit to injustice. • It may feel like you have nothing but use what you do have, reach out to others, and do whatever it takes to get whe...

• Intellectual honesty is also important, and this includes humility and the ability to admit that you don’t know something, or that you have made a mistake. Geniuses know that stubbornness, bias, expectation and ego can undermine genuine learning. • Most genius types are usually polymaths (skilled in many areas) and have broad rather than narrow interests. They are well-read and make connections...

• The ancient Stoics were masters of living in the present. • One way of rethinking your relationship to the past is to adopt the Stoic attitude of amor fati. This translates roughly to “love of one’s fate.” Whatever happens is embraced, wanting “nothing to be different.” To practice it, look at events as neutrally as possible and then respond to them with a simple mantra like “good.” By focusing...

• The Spartans lived by a set of principles and core beliefs that guided everything they did, and this is ultimately what allowed them to act with strength, conviction, and discipline. When you commit to a cause and belief greater than yourself, you become unstoppable, and even death itself is no longer something you fear. • We don’t have to believe the Spartans were perfect in every way to apprec...

• Geniuses come in all shapes and sizes, from all walks of life and all historical periods, but they can all be seen to possess certain predictable characteristics and mindsets. • If we can model our own lives on the traits we find in great and successful thinkers, we too can learn to fulfill more of our intellectual and creative potential. • The first trait is a lust for learning and an insatiabl...

• We need distress tolerance skills to help us cope with extremely trying or painful moments, or emergency situations. When we’re distressed, it’s easy to default to clumsy, destructive, or unconscious ways of coping—these are false coping mechanisms. • Self-soothing is a way to acknowledge and accept pain that is inevitable—without making it any bigger than it should be. It is not distraction or...

• No matter how bleak things look, stay calm and take heart.: you always have the power to choose your response, and you can often turn a disadvantage into an advantage simply by changing your perspective. • When faced with a challenge or obstacle, try to think outside of the box and imagine a solution beyond your current way of thinking. Understand the rules, like Caesar, and then be brave and au...

• According to author Max Gunther, there are 13 attitudes, traits and habits that set lucky people apart from unlucky ones. Lucky people clearly understand the difference between luck and planning, and never confuse them. They repeat hard work that gets results, and are grateful for luck when it happens, knowing they weren’t responsible. • Lucky people find the “fast flow” of people and informatio...

• Stay present. It’s something we hear frequently, but what does it mean? Simply put, we are more often caught in the past or looking forward to the future. When we are caught in the past, we are affected by things and events that we have no control over. When we are looking forward to the future (excessively, of course), we are also affected by that which we have no control over. • Author Eckhart...

• No matter how bleak things look, stay calm and take heart: you always have the power to choose your response, and you can often turn a disadvantage into an advantage simply by changing your perspective. • When faced with a challenge or obstacle, try to think outside of the box and imagine a solution beyond your current way of thinking. Understand the rules, like Caesar, and then be brave and aud...

• Study findings shared in Wiseman’s book The Luck Factor point to four factors that are responsible for a mindset most prone to luck. While these attitudes and traits don’t literally cause luck in themselves, they do lay the groundwork and make us more able to capitalize on luck when it comes our way. • The first factor is openness to new experiences, which means being aware and perceptive of luc...

• The fourth noble truth encourages us to follow the eight-fold path, i.e. we need to understand suffering but also take concrete action towards our intended life every day. We can use proven and effective tools to help us suffer better, and suffer less. • Firstly, we can learn the power of reframing so that we investigate the “rules” we have for deciding what counts as pain or suffering in the fi...

• Don’t give up. Failure, loss, and disappointment are not the end of the line. Learn, try again, and do better the next time around. Have the courage to accept what can be improved and, instead of dwelling on the pain of your defeat, get proactive and start doing. • It’s cowardly to blame others for your shortcomings or to get angry at life in general for not being fair. If you’ve been justly bea...

• Coincidence and serendipity are related to good luck. We all would like something beneficial and fortuitous to happen to us for seemingly no good reason. We can’t create positive random chances, but We can foster a “serendipity mindset” that helps us take advantage of the chances that come our way. • Serendipity means different things to different people, but generally, it is the combination of...

• Be true to yourself. Have faith in your own judgment and stick to your firmly held convictions, even if you have to do so alone. This will imbue you with enormous courage and resilience in the face of challenges, because you will believe in yourself. • Be humble. Use your intellect and your reason to the best of your ability, but always be willing to learn more. Don’t boast about your conclusion...

• Our luck comes in part from our behaviors and choices, and those in turn come from our mindset and the way we think. • If luck = preparation + opportunity, and we cannot control what opportunities come our way, then it means the only way to improve our luck is to focus on being prepared to strike when a lucky chance does come our way. • An obvious way to bring more luck to your life is to work h...

• Viktor Frankl experienced extreme hardship and suffering and, from this, developed his own theory about how many searches for and creates his own meaning. Frankl’s experiences taught him that suffering pushes human beings to find meaning and purpose in their lives. To survive, in other words, is to find meaning in one’s suffering. • Frankl believed that struggle with suffering is an opportunity...

• It’s never too late to start over, no matter how old you are. Colonel Sanders started over in his sixties and still managed to create a business empire that would overtake those he might have considered younger and more talented than him. The past doesn’t define who you are now, and it doesn’t define who you can be in the future. • Success takes time, and it takes consistent, diligent effort – t...