The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.

Getting comfortable doing things alone didn't happen overnight for me. It happened because I travel by myself all the time, and somewhere along the way sitting solo at a restaurant, a movie, or a concert stopped feeling like a big deal. This week I took it further than usual. It's week four of the Summer of George and I'm two and a half weeks into my LA stay. I spent the Fourth of July at a beach...

One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years. I didn't know if anyone would listen. Now, 71 episodes in, this show has reached women in 97 countries, every U.S. state, and six of the seven continents. This is the episode where I tell the origin story. How a podcast called Round Two became The Scarlet Edit. Why I shelved...

Getting out of your comfort zone is a lot easier when you actually leave home to do it. I'm in Los Angeles for the summer as part of my "The Summer of George" series, and this episode is about why relocating — even temporarily — strips away the easy excuses to stay in. I get into building confidence in midlife through small physical choices, why working from coffee shops changed my whole week, and...

One year of The Scarlet Edit, and to lead into the anniversary episode I pulled the best moments from my 2026 guest conversations into one place. Seven women, seven completely different angles on infidelity, divorce, and starting over. You'll hear Amanda , The Kink Consultant, on why kink and shame so often push people toward affairs. Emily on what it took to make decisions on her own again after...

This week I'm getting into midlife dating in a new city, why putting yourself out there matters more than the outcome, and what I'm learning about building a life when the snowbirds leave town. Week two of the Summer of George dropped me in Los Angeles, and the energy here is already different. I'm staying with a friend, walking to a new gym, taking my first workout class in years, and waking up t...

Can you actually be friends with your ex? I dug into the research, including the four motivations people land on when they stay in each other's lives after a breakup and the data on who's most likely to do it. Then I went a few layers deeper than the typical conversation goes. Friends with your ex in general is one question. Friends with your ex after divorce is another. Friends with your ex after...

Welcome to the first bonus episode of The Summer of George. After swearing I'd never get back on a dating app, I did. This is week one — a goal of three meet ups, because c'mon, they aren't dates, one that actually happened, and everything I learned in between. I'm sharing what it's really like getting back on dating apps in midlife. The strange disconnect between who you talk to in an app and who...

Sydney reached out on Instagram. Her husband has had three affairs, two in 2021 and one this past February, and she'd been listening to the show for a while. She wanted to ask me about something I'd said in a recent episode, woman to woman, not as a fight. I said yes immediately, and I also kind of panicked. In over sixty episodes, I've never sat across from a wife who knew I'd been the other woma...

A quick bonus episode to put every way you can work with me in one place. Free, paid, and one offer that isn't even open yet. I walk through the free side first — the podcast itself, Instagram, and the Self-Worth Reset, a free download where I share the five truths I had to confront after divorce and the affair that came before it. From there, I get into the 60-minute one-on-one, who it's for and...

I matched with a guy on a dating app. We planned a date. Thirty minutes later, he unmatched me. That's the open. That's where this season starts. Welcome to the Summer of George. The reference is from Seinfeld, where George gets let go with a three-month severance and decides to make the most of it. That's where I am this summer. Not unemployed, but standing in a quiet moment after a busy four mon...

This week I'm joined by Danielle Stanton, founder of Fuel4Ever wellness and a woman who's been through it. Married for 20 years, two small kids, stay-at-home mom, and then one day her husband came home and said he'd met someone else. No warning. No signs she could see at the time. He went on to marry that woman, who still lives in her community. They co-parent. She doesn't hate her. Danielle and I...

I've been watching the Mike Vrabel and Dianna Russini story unfold for a few weeks, and the more I dug in, the more it stopped being about an affair and started being about something else entirely. A bar in New York in 2020. A boat in Tennessee in 2021 with her pregnant and just the two of them on the water. A casino in Mississippi weeks after he got fired. An adults-only resort in Sedona this spr...

I noticed I've been saying "what about me?" in the voice I made up for my dog for over fifteen years. And one day it hit me — I've been feeling that since I was a kid. So this episode is a reflective, vulnerable share about what that question actually means when it comes to relationships, friendships, and being single in midlife. I looked back at my four major relationships and saw something I did...

I opened up Instagram last week and asked what you wanted me to talk about that I hadn't covered yet. The questions you sent in were so good I built an entire episode around five of them. In this listener Q&A, I'm answering the things you actually want to know. Is there anything I'd do differently about my five years as the other woman? When did I stop caring what people thought of my choices?...

I was the other woman for five years and I don't regret it. That's the sentence that breaks people. The comments roll in every week telling me I should be ashamed, that I lack morals, that I should be performing remorse on demand. I'm not doing that. I never will. And in this episode I get into why. The expectation that we have to apologize, perform regret, and beg for forgiveness after any choice...

In January 2009, my guest Naomi Kreske went looking through her husband's phone on a hunch. What she found ended the white picket fence life she thought she had: an affair, a relationship three months in, and a husband who wanted out that same night. She told him no. She wanted to save the marriage. Over the next year, he left her two more times for two more women. Naomi was a stay-at-home mom wit...

I told one of my girlfriends the other day that despite being in serious relationships, I've always kind of felt single. And she said, me too. This episode is what came out of that. I'm not talking about single in the fun, hitting-the-town way. I'm talking about feeling like I've never really had a man fully choose me across every defining relationship since college. The marriage. The boyfriends....

This week I'm talking about disappointment and how raising my expectations ended my five-year affair. It's the emotion I see most often in the messages listeners send me about infidelity, the other woman experience, divorce, and relationships that fell apart. Disappointment is the gap between the expectation you had and the reality you're sitting in. Sometimes the other person didn't even know wha...

This is part two of my conversation with Hope, the first woman to come on The Scarlet Edit and share her story as the one who cheated. If you haven't listened to part one yet, go back and start there. In this episode, Hope gets into why she ended the affair, and what it felt like to realize she was addicted to her affair partner rather than in love with him. We talk about how she got caught, the d...

This is a first for The Scarlet Edit. Hope was a married woman who cheated on her husband and has been bravely sharing that experience on social media. In this episode, she sits down with me for her very first podcast and walks through the full story of how her affair started, from the moment at a stoplight where she questioned whether her marriage was all her life would ever be, to the slow unrav...

I responded to every YouTube comment I got about my affair. Of the comments I share in this episode, only one person wrote me back. So, let's talk about it! This week I'm reading eight comments out loud and giving my unfiltered responses. One person told me 90% of men will cheat no matter what. Another called me a toy who was manipulated. Someone told me I need God. And the longest comment asked w...

Why do smart, successful people end up in affairs — and then can't leave? What's actually driving the pattern? And how do you know if you're settling or self-sabotaging? In this episode, I sit down with Katarina Polonska — behavioral scientist, executive relationship strategist, and someone whose own family was torn apart by infidelity. Katarina watched her father's affair destroy her parents' mar...

Kristin Cabot — the woman from the Coldplay Kiss Cam — finally told her side of the story on Oprah's podcast. She was already separated. He told her he was too. But only one of them got death threats, drive-bys, and 500 calls a day. 90% of the hate came from other women. Every single in-person confrontation — a woman. I talk about what Kristin revealed, the double standard between how she and Andy...

There's a stat that gets cited everywhere in the infidelity space — that 56% of men and 34% of women who cheat rate their marriages as happy. It shows up in therapy blogs, Reddit threads, podcasts, and articles, and it's used to push the narrative that cheating is random and unpredictable. I'm calling BS. Not on the data itself, but on what people are doing with it. In this episode, I break down w...

I actively choose happiness and joy every single day — and the more I share that, the more it seems to confuse people. In this episode, I'm getting into the mindset behind everything I do on The Scarlet Edit. Why positivity is my baseline, how my upbringing shaped me in ways that defy the stereotypes people project onto women like me, and the specific moments in my life — from my divorce at 38 to...