The Sage Sorority

Tomorrow is Quitter's Day y'all! The second Friday of January when 80% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions (crazy!) ...and while the internet is gearing up to tell you to push through, I'm offering a different perspective. What if those resolutions were never yours to begin with? What if the most aligned thing you can do this year is quit the goals that don't actually belong to you? Tod...

Happy New Year, and welcome to 2026. In this episode, Shantel shares an honest New Year’s Day reflection using a “Roses & Thorns” review of 2025, inspired by Tinx and her recent Roses & Thorns episode. The format is simple: a rose is what worked, grew, or surprised you, and a thorn is what hurt, stalled, disappointed you, or stayed unresolved. Shantel walks through her own Roses & Thor...

Christmas Day can bring up more than we expect sometimes... joy, sadness, nostalgia, loneliness, relief and reflection, sometimes all at once (!!!) In this Christmas Day episode of The Sage Sorority , Shantel shares a quiet, honest reflection for women who may be spending Christmas alone or feeling alone, even while surrounded by people. This is not an episode about fixing, reframing or necessaril...

I've been noticing three specific patterns showing up in conversations with women in their 30s and 40s! Patterns around dating, friendships, and how we're actually approaching connection right now. This episode connects some dots you might not have put together yet. Pattern 1: Why meeting new people suddenly feels... different. It's not that we're antisocial. Something else is happening here, and...

This week on The Sisterhood Chronicles, we’re talking about friendship fatigue and friendship compatibility, why so many adult friendships feel draining, confusing or slightly “off”, especially in your 30s and 40s. If you’ve ever felt like the reliable one, the planner, the deep listener, or the “strong friend” in your group and you’re quietly exhausted by it, this episode is for you! I’m breaking...

Welcome to the first episode of December and the final month of 2025 (!!!) Today we’re talking about Soft Girl December : the grounded, grown woman version of softness that helps you move through a loud month with clarity, calm, and intention. December can feel emotionally and socially overwhelming. Plans pile up, money moves fast, expectations rise, and the pressure to “end the year well” can fee...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the full, unfiltered story of my seven years in London — the quiet beginning, the heartbreak spring, the career resets, the immigration marathon, and the unexpected ways this city has shaped who I’m becoming. If you’re in a season of starting over, moving abroad, rebuilding your life, or simply trying to trust yourself again, this one’s for you. We explore: • The ra...

In this episode of The Sage Sorority , we unpack one of the most important frameworks for modern dating and adult relationships: Attraction vs Compatibility vs Capacity. If you’re a woman in your 30s or 40s navigating dating, partnership, or long-term relationship decisions, this episode is for you. We discuss... • why attraction matters and what it does not tell you • how lifestyle compatibility...

What does philosophy look like when women lead the conversation? In this episode, Shantel opens up a new Sage Sorority series exploring philosophy through a female lens. Unpacking what it really means to “love wisdom” and why so much of traditional philosophy (and self-development) was never built with women in mind. From Aristotle to Audre Lorde, this episode traces how philosophy has evolved and...

sorry, a bit echo-y at some points, no idea what happened there, lol! A lighter, girl-chat-coded AMA with quick-fire Qs up front and meatier reflections at the end. We talk seasons, height, “inactivity” on socials, top 10 products, skincare that actually works, steady happiness and much more! If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify — it genuinely helps more wo...

🎙 EPISODE 038 — The Rebrand Era Once you’ve done the inner work, the next step is letting your outer world reflect it. This episode closes out the Autumn Energy series with something tangible... your rebrand era . Not a trend, not a performance but a clear alignment between who you are now and how you move, speak, and show up. We’ll talk about the subtle signals that shape how you’re read in the w...

This week is about getting your actions to match who you actually are now. Not changing everything per se, just making sure your habits reflect the person you've already become. We're covering standards, rhythm, and signals. Basically the small ways you can see growth showing up; in how you talk, what you choose, how you spend your Tuesday. Think of it as a quick check-in before we get into the re...

Autumn’s the season that tells the absolute truth! EG., What’s been growing, what’s faded, what still needs love. This episode is about noticing the results of your effort and also giving yourself permission to start again if you haven’t planted much this year. For me, that’s looked like being more intentional about how I show up on LinkedIn and in real-life networks, and it’s been nice to see tha...

Following last week's Autumn Reset, this episode is about conscious re-entry. Shantel breaks down how to navigate autumn's social season without losing yourself in the chaos (!!!) from avoiding the over scheduling trap to building a social rhythm that actually fills you up. we discuss... Why autumn triggers different social cravings than summer (and the science behind it) The difference between mo...

Autumn isn’t cozy-only. It’s strategy season. In this episode, we kick off The Great Lock-In : the window where city life sharpens, events ramp up, and your best moves (professionally, creatively, socially) actually land. We talk real-world ways to deepen friendships, get visible at work or with your art, and use October/November to plant seeds before December chaos hits. Anchors we hit: Culture s...

Part two of this conversation goes deeper into how we actually express our inner worlds. If part one was about cultivating curiosity, part two is about transmission... storytelling, presence, and the subtle art of charm. It’s about the polish people feel when they walk away thinking, she was magnetic . If you’ve ever wondered how to show up with more spark without performing, this one’s for you! -...

In Part 1, Shantel reframes what it really means to be “interesting.” It’s not about being loud, busy, or hyper-online! It’s about curiosity, attention, and cultivating a rich interior life. We cover breaking your algorithmic bubble, adding “micro-adventures” to your week, reconnecting with who you are beyond roles (work/partner/parent), and asking better questions so conversations actually go som...

(also… sorry this one’s late today 😅 London strikes + sideways rain = chaotic.) We’re taught to chase sparks; I’m arguing for scanning for safety first... in dating, friendship, and work! So, the chemistry you do have can actually go the distance. Sources / further reading: Emotional safety as the foundation of lasting connection — Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety/...

This week’s episode is a little different — and a little experimental. If you’re listening on audio, you’ll hear me mention video, cameras, and behind-the-scenes things because this is my first ever filmed podcast episode. 🎥 The video version had some growing pains (hello tech glitches + internal mic!) but it’s all part of trying new things. I’ve been flirting with video for ages, and I finally d...

Want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? Let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com Have a question? Send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority Sorry, the sound is slightly tweaked in this episode! This week I discuss practical strategies to declutter and reset your life as summer comes to a close. The focus is on not just productivity, but trimming the fat from a...

What if the way you think about self-worth is backwards? In this episode of The Sage Sorority , Shantel shares powerful lessons on boundaries, safety, and choosing yourself that will change the way you see relationships, confidence, and personal growth. Expect research, real talk, and a reminder to raise the bar on what you accept. Want to book a coaching session? All the info is here - https://sq...

In this episode of The Sage Sorority podcast, Shantel unpacks why so many of life’s “rules” are made up.. and how to navigate them without losing yourself. Recorded on location in Bodrum, she blends cultural commentary, personal stories, and practical advice for women on dating, career moves, money, and self-worth. From rewatching Scandal to questioning the unspoken social scripts that shape our c...

Want to book a coaching session? All the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue Want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? Let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com Have a question? Send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority -- This one's a lighter, chatty catch-up—think of it as an audio journal entry. You’ll hear about the songs, snacks, beauty finds, books, and l...

EPISODE TWENTY-FIVE (!!!!) Want to book a coaching session? All the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue Have a question? Send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@T...

Want to book a coaching session? All the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue -- Not every therapist will be your person. Not every session will feel like a breakthrough. But when it’s right? It shifts everything. In this episode, I’m breaking down the different types of therapy (mainstream + niche), how to actually get started without spending a fortune, why therapy sometimes doesn’t work, and a...