The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast

STOP STAYING SMALL JUST TO KEEP EVERYONE ELSE COMFORTABLE. We’ve all heard that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, but we rarely talk about the GUILT that comes when that "average" starts to feel like a weight. If you’re always the one reaching out, playing therapist, or shrinking so you don't make others uncomfortable, this episode is your permission slip to START...

You can’t outwork a storm, and you aren’t a machine. In this episode, I’m getting incredibly honest about a "Logic Trap" that nearly cost me my business and my peace of mind. We often believe that if we’re strong enough, we should be able to handle every family crisis and business demand without skipping a beat. But I recently hit a wall that left me in tears at my favorite cafe, realizi...

Stop paying the hidden fee on your attention that is leaving you absolutely bankrupt this Easter break. Every guru and "wellness" influencer tells you the secret to peace is turning off your notifications. But what happens when silence becomes louder than the pings? In this episode, I’m getting "unfancy" about my own struggle with the Manual Check Loop —that twitchy impulse to...

You don't need a permission slip from a virus to finally take a rest. Have you ever had one of those weeks where you’re doing everything "right" according to the gurus, but you feel absolutely terrible? You’re checking the boxes and staying disciplined, yet your body is starting to feel like it belongs to someone else. In this episode, I’m sharing a very raw, personal story about a recent "shiveri...

Are you addicted to your own competence? Have you ever felt like a total rookie, even though you’ve spent decades building a reputation as the expert? In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie dives into the "Identity Friction" that happens when your old, successful self fights the new "beginner" version of you. We often think Imposter Syndrome only hits those starting their first jobs, but it actually hits...

Your mission is bigger than a stranger's "big ass" forehead comment. Have you ever had a moment that made you want to pull the plug on your big dreams? This week, I’m getting raw about the "cheap seat" remarks I received after putting myself out there on video—comments that weren't about my business, but about my appearance. I’m walking you through the "ouch"...

You aren’t lazy; you’re just redlining your engine in neutral. For the ambitious woman, procrastination doesn't look like sitting on the couch doing nothing. It looks like high-octane effort directed at the wrong targets. Whether you are scrubbing baseboards to avoid a difficult conversation or "researching" a new system for the tenth time, you are burning through your battery withou...

You aren’t losing a fight against yourself; you’re losing a fight against a trillion-dollar algorithm. Have you ever spent your entire evening "relaxing" on the couch, only to wake up feeling like you have a hangover? It’s not because you’re lazy, and it’s not a character flaw. It’s a biological reality called Ego Depletion . Your willpower is a limited resource—a battery that drains with every de...

I turned 50 today. The world says it’s time to wind down. I say it’s time to build an empire. I turned 50 today. The world has a script for this milestone: look for golf courses, slow down, and fade into the background. But I realized that I couldn't survive the next decade of my career if I followed that script. I needed to pivot. In this special bonus episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on...

Why your brain feels like a browser with 400 tabs open (and how to close them). If you feel like you are working harder than ever but aren't moving forward, it isn't because you are lazy. It is because you are maxed out. We treat silence like a hole that needs to be filled with podcasts, playlists, and feeds, but in doing so, we drown out our own intuition. In this episode, Rhonda celebrat...

Nice protects YOU from conflict. Kind protects the TRUTH. Are you addicted to keeping the peace? Do you apologize for things that aren't your fault just to make others comfortable? In this episode, Rhonda tackles "Good Girl Syndrome"—the conditioning that tells women to be small, quiet, and agreeable . We break down the massive difference between being "Nice" (Fear-based) a...

Have you ever walked into your kitchen, looked at a pile of mail, and felt an immediate sense of dread? It’s not because the mail is hard to open; it’s because of what it represents. In this episode, Rhonda breaks down the biology behind why you can’t relax in a cluttered room. We explore the concept of "Visual Competition" and how your brain is treating every object on your counter like...

You don't need to feel good to start. You need to start to feel good. It is -30°C outside. The wind is howling. And honestly? The last thing you want to do is work. We have all been there—bargaining with ourselves, scrolling on our phones, waiting for the "vibe to shift" so we can finally tackle our goals. In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie breaks down the biggest lie in the self-help wo...

Do you feel like your calendar is running you, instead of the other way around? In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie tackles the epidemic of the "Guilt Yes." If you are a high-capacity woman who feels resentful every time you look at your schedule, this episode is your permission slip to quit. Rhonda shares the messy, real-time struggle of closing the "TUF Collaborative" coffee meetu...

Statistically, most people abandon their New Year’s resolutions by the second Friday of January. They call it "Quitter's Day," and it happens because traditional resolutions are built on an "all-or-nothing" light switch that is designed to fail the moment life gets messy. In this season premiere, Rhonda Lavoie strips away the "Instagram perfect" veneer of goal set...

If you are looking at your 2025 goals and feeling a heavy sense of shame because the boxes aren't checked, you need to stop grinding and listen to this. We have been conditioned to believe that success equals sticking to the plan no matter what—even if we hate it—but research shows that "goal disengagement" is actually essential for your health. In this Season 3 Finale, I am taking y...

Is "Work-Life Balance" actually making you miserable? If you feel like you are constantly failing to keep the scales level, it’s because you are chasing a myth. In this episode, we expose why the "50/50" split is a recipe for burnout and why you should aim for Harmony instead. We dive deep into the concept of "Continuous Partial Attention" —that exhausted state where...

Struggling with holiday burnout and feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of tasks on your to-do list this December? You are not alone. We have somehow convinced ourselves that the holidays aren't just a season, but a competitive sport where we are trying to "gold medal" in baking, wrapping, and crying in the car. In this episode, Rhonda breaks down the absolute absurdity of the th...

Have you ever had a "What If" idea that you immediately killed with "How?" How could I possibly start that business? How could I write a book? How would I find the time? That "how" is just overwhelm in disguise. It traps us in analysis paralysis, often leading us right back to the "mind-numbing pit" of doomscrolling to escape the pressure. In this episode, I...

Ever feel that jolt of anxiety when your phone "dings"? You're in an important meeting or at dinner with your family, and even if you don't look, the sound alone shatters your focus. Let's be honest: this isn't a personal failure or a lack of willpower. It's a system designed to work against you, based on a "dopamine loop" that keeps you hooked. In this episode, Rhonda shares her "aha moment" abou...

Let's be honest: criticism stings. We're wired for connection, so the fear of being judged is a powerful (and totally human) trigger. How often does that feeling make you "just check your phone for a minute," only to look up 45 minutes later wondering where the time went? You're not scrolling because you lack willpower; you're scrolling to escape a feeling . That's a...

The fear of judgment keeps too many amazing people playing small. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Rhonda Lavoie gets brutally honest about the times she was the judge, teaching you the system of Self-Analysis . You'll learn why that frustrating, neutral reaction to your biggest ambitions—like the Paced App —is a "Them Problem," a reflection of their own baggage and fear, not a ver...

Feeling curious about AI but mostly just overwhelmed or intimidated? You're not alone! So many creators and entrepreneurs feel stuck, staring at a blank page or getting generic results from tools like ChatGPT or Gemini. The biggest mistake? Treating AI like a vending machine instead of a creative partner. In this episode, I share my practical, "unfancy" system for shifting your minds...

We spend so much time preparing for the fear of failure, but what if the thing holding you back is actually the fear of success? Success means change, new expectations, and leaving the safety of who you've always been. In this vulnerable episode, I share my real-time struggle with what author Gay Hendricks calls the "Upper Limit Problem"—the subconscious ways we sabotage ourselves wh...

In this first "Check-in," Rhonda gives a huge thank you for the incredible launch week and shares a look behind the scenes at her other big passion project: an app she's developing called Paced . Learn the "why" behind the app, the simple philosophy of taking back "your time, at your pace," and how the journey of building it has been a real-life example of the ver...