The Relationship Reset Podcast

I continue the conversation about what I love, fear, and dislike about marriage in this 2 part series. Be sure to listen to part 1, Episode 144, to hear the start of this discussion. In this episode, I talk more about what I dislike about marriage and share what I fear about marriage. This isn’t a series that is meant to share what you should do in a specific situation. These are things that peopl...

I share what I love, fear, and dislike about marriage in this 2 part series.  As a marriage expert, I think it’s important to consistently be very transparent with my clients and my community about my marriage. I also like to take the opportunity to share what’s on my heart. So in this episode, I share the top things that I love about marriage. I also start the discussion about what I don’t like a...

This is part 2 of me sharing the seasons we’ve been through in our marriage. If you haven’t listened to part 1, be sure to check that out first to hear about the seasons we went through in the early years of our marriage. I continue the timeline in this episode, and talk about the lessons we learned along the way. If you are going through a difficult time in your marriage I want you to find the su...

This is part 1 of me sharing the seasons we’ve been through in our marriage. Throughout this episode and the next one, I walk you through all 13 years of my marriage to show where we’ve been and how we got through it. So many things try to tell us that marriages are supposed to be easy and beautiful 100% of the time. The reality is that marriage is beautiful, but it takes ugly work to get to the b...

This episode highlights the difficulties that I endured this year. At the time, I did not share this situation on social media for legal reasons, but I can provide some insight about it now. I walk you through this year and how certain events affected me. I can now see clearly that everything that happened this year taught me a valuable lesson. Slowing down yields the very blessings that God is wa...

We’ve all been there…arguing for 30 minutes and it feels like you’re in a courtroom. You both think you’re right and nothing is getting resolved. But I’m here to tell you that when both of y’all think you’re right, both of y’all are missing the point. Because marriage isn’t a journey of who’s wrong and who’s right. It’s about taking the time to understand each other. In this episode, I share what...

Are you treating your marriage like a partnership or a project? I see so many people, especially high achieving partners, become hyper focused on their next goal or milestone. Over time that fixation rarely allows couples to stop and enjoy the fruits of what they are building. Learn what problems can arise when you treat your marriage like a project, and why you should actually treat it like a tru...

The most common fight that you’re having with your spouse, the fight about the dishes, the parenting, the money, the chores - that’s not the fight you’re really in. The arguments you’re having are really about the cracks in your connection that neither of you are taking the time to slow down and face. In this episode, I explain what you need to do to rebuild your marriage and stop arguing about th...

If you are relying on love to save your marriage it won’t work. Love alone isn’t enough to overcome your relationship issues and save your marriage. In this episode, I share the 3 things you need in your relationship, in addition to love, for a strong and healthy marriage. Learn how these 3 things will improve your marriage and make each of you better people individually, and as a couple. Addition...

Many times when couples begin to feel disconnected, they turn to date nights to try to fix the relationship. And look, I have no problem with date nights - date nights can be great! But what I want you to understand is that you can’t fix years of being disconnected with one overpriced dinner and some small talk. If you think date nights are what you need, listen to this episode. It will help you c...

In this episode, I tell you the story of catching my ex-boyfriend cheating on me. I share what happened, the thoughts I had at the time, and why I decided to stay in the relationship. This ex-boyfriend is not my husband, so you already know that we eventually broke up! But I do not regret giving this ex-boyfriend another chance. I don’t even see this relationship as a failure. This situation allow...

There are 3 things you keep saying that are slowly killing your marriage. I share what these 3 things are, and why saying them is causing problems. If you are struggling with saying these things, there is still space to save your marriage. This is just a communication issue, and I explain what you should say in these situations instead. You can turn things around in your marriage with the right wo...

In this episode, I share 5 things that my husband and I did last year as a married couple that really changed the dynamic of our marriage. These 5 simple things helped us get on the same page and become better partners and parents. I hope these ideas inspire you as you evaluate and fortify your own marriage. Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you! If t...

I recently shared a post on Instagram where I said “my husband comes before my kids” and in this episode I explain exactly what I mean, slide by slide. It's not choosing my husband over my kids, it's choosing my marriage so my kids don't grow up thinking love is always a struggle.  Learn how when I put my husband before my kids, my kids benefit from that. Click the link to listen, and...

If you are at a place in your relationship where you feel like no matter how much you apologize your partner still looks at you like they don't trust you anymore, this episode is for you. I walk you through the HEAL Framework that I use with couples to repair the trust in their marriages. Rebuilding trust is possible, but rebuilding trust takes time. It's extremely intentional and it's...

Three months of premarital counseling just isn't enough for the lifetime of your marriage.  And in this episode, I'm going to take you through what most premarital counseling entails, why it doesn't work, and what you actually need for a healthy marriage. I share 5 tools and strategies you need to have set up before you get married, that go beyond traditional premarital counseling. I w...

We all have sore subjects in our marriages and topics where one partner gets defensive. Defensiveness is so common in any type of betrayal. In this episode, I share 3 tools you can use right now to get past the defensiveness in these conversations. If every single conversation feels difficult and leads to defensiveness, you are keeping your marriage in survival mode. I want you to be able to have...

Are you asking yourself…Why do I need to remind my husband to do something a hundred times? Why am I the only one carrying the weight of the house, the schedule, the appointments, the plans, and the kids? How do I get my husband to do what I want? In this episode I talk about why this happens, how it impacts your relationship, and I coach you through 3 practical ways to stop over-functioning in yo...

Are you ready to be close again with your partner? You and your partner have drifted apart and you’re at a phase in your marriage where you miss your partner, and the closeness you once had. If you’re trying things that aren’t working, it is probably because you're forcing a type of pressure that is unnecessary in your marriage. To get the closeness back, you need to start small so everyone fe...

This episode is for couples who decided to take a physical break from one another, and are now back together. The break could have been for a few hours, or for a few months, but now that you’re back in the same house, it still feels cold. The thing is, you can’t just hit the reset button on your relationship and time isn’t going to heal unresolved pain. You have to be intentional about repairing y...

You might blame yourself when betrayal happens, or something shifts in your relationship. When you turn the betrayal inward, you ask yourself questions like ‘how could I have been so dumb?’ or ‘how could I have not seen the signs?’ The problem with this is that it will destroy your self-trust, which will affect so many areas of your life. If this is your current situation, and you just want to kno...

If you feel like you’re the only one doing all of the emotional work in your relationship, your resentment is probably building. You can start to feel like the marriage therapist of your own marriage. You feel unseen and unappreciated, because you’re the only one holding space for your relationship. You’re the only one initiating serious talks or remembering special celebrations. If this is the ca...

If you have been betrayed by your partner, and you are going crazy because you don’t have the entire story, this episode is for you. I explain the reasons why this is driving you crazy, and how you can reframe the situation to move forward. Learn why rehashing the details of the betrayal won’t fix your relationship, and what you need to do to heal you both as partners instead. Click the link to li...

Are you and your partner at the “roommate stage"? This is what many people call the situation when you rarely argue, but you’re just not really connecting. In this episode, I explain what might be going on in your relationship and why this can become an even bigger issue. I also share the specific actions you need to take, step by step, in order to heal your marriage and bring back the connec...

Let’s talk about when they apologized, but you still don’t feel better. If you are going through a rough time in your relationship, and you were betrayed, it may feel like no matter how many times they say “I’m sorry” it isn’t enough. In this episode, I tell you why even though they apologized, which is what you wanted, you still don’t feel better. I share the questions you need to ask yourself to...