The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Matt & Rebeca

When our relationship isn’t working, it can be hard to cut through the negativity… nothing seems to work! So what can we do to shift ourselves from that negative place and back to a more positive one? Today we’re going to be looking at the number 1 habit hack that can get us to shift in the quickest possible time! We’re joined today by Jimmie Stephens who is a sought after author, speaker, relatio...

If we can’t show up as ourselves in our relationship, we’ve got little prospect of making it work sustainably in the long term. Surely if we’re hiding aspects of ourselves we’re going to cause ourselves a lot of stress and difficulty in keeping those things away from our partner or others around us. Today I’m joined by Stephanie and Jennifer PageWise who are Relationship coaches and Spiritual Revo...

When our relationship fails it can be overwhelming. Where do we start? We may want to get on the first dating app we can find and start connecting with people. Are there any benefits of hitting the pause button at this point and taking stock before jumping in? Today we’re going to be looking at the steps we need to take to ensure that we don’t get caught in a cycle of making the same mistakes, wit...

Sometimes we reach a crossroads where we come to evaluate and challenge the path that we are on and the decisions that we have made. Our guest today, best-selling author and coach Dan Stanley got to that point in his mid-thirties of what is sometimes called a ‘mid life crisis’, and it set him on a path to build on the successes and achievements to that point, and also to re-evaluate what he really...

Have you ever been really into your relationship and feeling really connected to your partner, even picturing a happy life together but then found a problem… that your partner isn’t at the same level of connection or commitment that you are at, and that they are potentially envisaging something quite different? How do you bridge that gap and get onto the same page again? Today we’re going to be lo...

Susan Douglas works with conscientious, caring professionals, who are great at what they do, but who are emotionally exhausted and struggling to focus on what they need to achieve. She is dedicated to empowering sensitive professionals, helping you set yourself up for success, so you can deliver on what is important to you. Today I have the pleasure of introducing her to our podcast and we are goi...

If either partner is struggling individually, it always tends to affect the relationship… as our coping mechanisms under stress tend to have side-effects. So how do you get yourself into a good place where you don’t NEED those coping mechanisms… but instead you feel positive and filled up? Are there any knock-on effects of our lives of relative comfort… and what can we do to mitigate those? Were t...

When we come out of a long term relationship, the idea of getting out and meeting new people again can raise a whole range of emotions… from excitement and anticipation to a feeling of over-whelm and anxiety. What are the key things to bear in mind when we start dating again, and what are the most common pitfalls that most people miss? Today we are going to be looking at how we can navigate this j...

Have you ever been stuck with a disagreement where despite your best efforts you can’t manage to find a resolution that works for both parties? What could you try to break out of that cycle and to find a more empowering way to resolve your issues. Today we are going to be looking at mediation as a model of identifying your needs and to see how each person can successfully meet their needs either i...

When we are lacking self-esteem, it can affect our happiness, our mental health and our relationships. In addition, if we are not in a good place individually, then that will always affect our relationships in some ways. We need to be Aligned with Our Self, before we can be Aligned with our Partner! Today’s subject is SUCH an important foundation for having a great relationship! I’m delighted to b...

When we are going through relationship difficulties, we may reflect that if only we’d acted earlier we could have avoided the worst of the problems that followed. So what happens when we reach the end of the road in the relationship, and we find ourselves potentially in court picking up the pieces of a failed relationship? What would we have liked to have known earlier from people who have already...

Today we’re going to focus on the often discussed area of relationship ‘red flags’, which are things that if we come across them may be telling us something important about the relationship - something that if not addressed and resolved could impact negatively on the relationship. We’re going to be looking at the top 5 red flags that could be key warning signs that something isn’t right… Could any...

One of the most common challenges when relationships are not working, is that communication can seem broken… maybe we have the same argument again and again, or maybe we never even seem to get to the key point. What is really going on here, and is it REALLY our communication that’s the problem or could it be something else? If you ever feel that communication is your challenge, and maybe even that...

When we’re struggling in our relationship and trying to make it work, it’s common that we’ll look to make some changes to try to improve things. Could it be that in making these changes, we could do things that we believe that our partner wants us to do, but actually make us feel unhappy? How do we avoid losing ourselves when we are trying to make the relationship work? Today I’m joined by Lee Hop...

Have you ever had an argument with your partner and you wanted to make up with them but you didn’t know how to go about it and when you approached your partner you just messed it up even more again? Kristine Grant is a 20 years experienced family therapist and is today with us sharing her book The Relationshift: how to write the words you really want to say, a beautiful heart-felt guide to create...

Abuse in relationships can take many forms, and range from subtle control strategies to full blown physical assault. It can be highly damaging, not only physically but also emotionally and lead to long term effects. Even if we escape the relationship, it can lead to scars that can affect us for years, even into new relationships. Today we’re excited to welcome the incredible Jackie Graybill to the...

What do we understand as anxiety, and is it the same as OCD? How could anxiety or OCD negatively affect our relationship? What behaviours or reactions could happen as a result of that anxiety? Where does that anxiety come from, and what can we do to manage it better so that it doesn’t become a problem in our relationship? AND can it ever be a GOOD thing for our relationship? Today I’m joined by Je...

When we talk about domestic abuse, the first image that comes to mind for many of us is of a physically abusive male partner, intimidating or attacking his female partner. But is there more to it than that? Today I’m delighted to be joined by Lee Marks, who is a researcher, and author of the book Break the Silence - A support guide for male victims of domestic abuse. He is the founder of Break the...

Today we are going to be exploring how getting clear on our PURPOSE can be a strong foundation for our relationship. We are going to be looking at what happens when we lack clear purpose in our life and in our relationship and how can we get that in place, as we go forward! Today I’m delighted to be joined by Joey Chandler who is a purpose-based relationship coach, who is going to be sharing his 3...

We can sometimes have the idea that once other parts of the relationships start to work better, like around our mindset, values and communication skills, that the intimacy will then necessarily fall into place. That the fact that we are getting on better will then lead to enhancing the spark and passion… but is that true? Our guest today Dr Tara has conducted a study of 5000 people to assess sexua...

It has been estimated that 46–74% of men and 16–41% of women are active pornography users in modern nations [2,3,4], according to the Sexual Medicine Journal (see link below). This data is supported by one of the most popular porn websites, PornHub, which has reported over 39 billion searches and 42 billion visits during 2019, implying 115 million visits and 18,073 terabytes of data transferred pe...

This episode is an extract from a client Q&A session hosted by Matt & Rebeca to support them to overcome challenges that are holding them back from having the relationship that they want. You will hear Matt & Rebeca sharing strategies with Emma who is concerned that her defence mechanisms from a previous relationship could be affecting her current relationship with her partner by making her withdr...

What could be more romantic than a perfect valentine's day meal? Chris had booked the fancy restaurant and treated Amanda out to a romantic meal. Everything was set for a perfect night… so what could possibly go wrong? Listen to Chris and Amanda’s discussion around how a simple question about menu choices led to deeper insights around: - How the give and take of the relationship plays out and how...

There are numerous different tools that can help us to analyse and understand personality types. These can help us to understand the types of challenges we are *most likely* to experience with people that have different styles to ourselves. The difference between enjoying a relationship with a COMPATIBLE person versus struggling with someone who is INCOMPATIBILE is like night and day. While we can...

Today you will be discovering everything you need to know understand why there are SO many of us nice guys (and ahem, recovering nice guys!), and how we sabotage things when we show up in that way… both in DATING as well as in longer-term relationships. 🚀Recognise the signs of how our culture has an 'issue' with masculinity and what this is REALLY going on there! 🚀See how the "Nice Guy" struggle...