The Redeemed Marriage Podcast

Every marriage has conflict. Should conflict take place behind closed doors, or should your children witness conflict? What if the conflict is more like a crisis...like an affair? Should you tell your children? How much should they know? Rusty and Heather share their thoughts on teachable moments through everyday conflict, and also how they made decisions about telling their kids about Heather's i...

You tune in for marriage advice every week, and you are likely captivated and inspired by their story of redemption after an affair...but do you really know Rusty and Heather? They invite you into their story, and ask you to trust them, but you probably don't know who they are right now. You can go back and listen to their story of infidelity throughout the podcast, but this episode lets you know...

Difficult circumstances in life often bring pain. Unexpected challenges such as affairs, death of a family member, betrayal of a friend, sickness...each brings immense pain. Even for those of us that believe our challenges are a part of God's bigger story that ultimately leads to His glory, we still wonder when and if the pain will ever end. Rusty and Heather discuss the process of restoration, an...

If God is good, and God is sovereign, why do bad things happen to good people? Rusty and Heather may not have all of the theological answers to that question, but they have wrestled with plenty of questions about their journey through infidelity. Where was God during that season? Why did He not stop Heather from making the choices that led to an affair? Why did He allow betrayal, pain, and destruc...

Most people can identify with coming from humble beginnings in their marriage. In this episode, Rusty and Heather share some hilarious stories from their first house as newlyweds. Even after living through their "haunted" house, there are marriage lessons to be learned. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

Rusty and Heather share two more funny marriage stories, this time from the files of "in sickness and in health." When one spouse is sick, the other becomes the caregiver. Listen in on the marriage lessons learned when two stories of caregiving go from disaster to comical. Website - https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

During this new summer series, Rusty and Heather look back on some of the funniest stories from almost 27 years of marriage and the lessons they learned from those stories. In this episode, hear about an intimate moment that was interrupted by a knock on the door. Just wait until you hear the entire story and who was on the other side of the door! Website - https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/  

This week is all about forgiveness. How long did it take Rusty to forgive Heather's infidelity? What did Heather do to help the process of forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation? How did Heather learn to forgive herself? Don't miss the final episode of the popular "Inside The Mind Of..." series. Website - https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

After Heather's confession of adultery in 2011, Rusty's mind and thoughts went through a whirlwind of emotions. What were the initial thoughts? When did he decide to fight for their marriage? Did he ever blame himself for Heather's actions? Dive into Rusty and Heather's story as you get an inside look into the mind of the betrayed spouse. Website - https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

In the final episode of this mini-series, Heather answers more hard questions in an effort to better understand the battle of her mind during her affair. She discusses guilt, covering up sin, worldly sorrow, and how her mind eventually shifted towards running after Jesus. Her story of life change offers hope to anyone struggling in their marriage or fighting any bondage of sin.

In Part 2 of this topic, Heather opens up about what was going on inside her head as she inched closer to crossing a line into an inappropriate relationship. She shares thoughts on guilt, the overwhelming pressure to hide her sin, and how things might have been different if she had confessed early in the process. This candid discussion shares warning signs, advice on asking for help, and hope for...

So many questions. Whether you are the betrayer, the betrayed, or just know of a marriage that has been affected by an affair, you have questions. How could someone knowingly choose to commit an act that could not only destroy their marriage, but could also destroy their life? In Part 1 of this series, Heather vulnerably opens up and shares some of the very early thoughts and actions that started...

We had some technical difficulty with this episode. When the episode originally uploaded, it abruptly cut off after 21 minutes. We updated it, but some of our users had already downloaded the short version. The best part was after it cut off! So, we decided to just create a "new" episode with the full 34 minutes. Here you go!   Most relationships begin with two people being attracted to each other...

Most relationships begin with two people being attracted to each other physically. As the years go on, the physical attraction may fade for lots of different reasons. Rusty and Heather discuss reasons why couples may lose their physical (and even emotional) attraction to each other, and ways to shift your thinking to regain the attraction you once had. Believe it or not, you can have an even riche...

Men and women are very different. God made us that way. Sometimes knowing what makes our spouse happy can be confusing. But, we also over-complicate the process. Rusty and Heather recently had their own heart to heart conversation about how to make each other happy. On this episode, they invite you into that conversation in hopes that you can learn from what they discovered.  Website - www.therede...

Rusty and Heather's marriage was dead. After an affair threatened to destroy their marriage, God resurrected what was dead and made it alive. The same resurrecting power is available to your marriage. There is hope! Listen to a powerful message of hope, and see how your marriage can move from death to life. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/3StrandsMM...

Things get a little steamy as Rusty and Heather discuss the lie that sex after marriage is boring. Listen in on a vulnerable conversation about physical intimacy after an affair, God's design for sex, and how to communicate so that your sex life only gets better and more fun with age. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/  

Is it possible to fall out of love with your spouse? Rusty and Heather unpack the many layers of this common lie that married couples believe. Heather found herself believing this lie when she was unfaithful in 2011, but now she speaks truth and hope into the confusing feelings and emotions she felt.

"You complete me." "You make me whole." "I'll give 50%; you give 50%; together we give 100%." Sorry...but all of these are lies that we often believe about marriage. Rusty and Heather discuss the truth and reality behind these common beliefs, and also give hope to those marriages where only one spouse is working to give 100%. Website - https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/  

If your spouse really loves you, they should know what you want and need...right? In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss why married couples often believe this lie, and how to avoid falling into the resulting resentment that comes from believing this lie. Learn how to create better communication and understanding to combat the lie that the enemy wants you to believe.

We live in a world where we throw broken things away rather than try to fix them. We are also always looking to upgrade and improve what we already have. Rusty and Heather discuss fighting for your marriage, rather than throwing away what you think might be broken. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

February 14 has come and gone once again, but, let's be honest...most women would like to celebrate Valentine's Day throughout the year. However, do we even know what women really want for Valentine's Day? Rusty and Heather discuss a few things that women want and need throughout the year in order to feel loved. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/

On the eve of Valentine's Day, Rusty and Heather discuss what men really want from their wives...not just on the special day of love, but throughout the year. From honor and respect, to flirting and sex, hear about the desires of most men, and the challenges wives face in meeting those needs. It's real and honest talk as always on The Redeemed Marriage podcast. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarr...

Rusty and Heather have personally witnessed the power of prayer in their own lives - from the miraculous healing of their marriage after an affair, to Heather's miraculous healing of cancer. They are now committed to praying for marriages across the globe. In this episode, Rusty and Heather encourage you to cry out to God in complete and brutal honesty as you invite Him to heal, restore, redeem, o...

Sometimes you can work and toil for your marriage without any real results. Your marriage might be missing a key ingredient. Rusty and Heather discuss practical ways to invite Jesus into your marriage, and how to allow him to transform your relationship individually and collectively. Website: https://www.theredeemedmarriage.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/3StrandsMM/ Instagram: https://www...