The Practice of Love Podcast

Episode 17. Silent divorce is one of the most dangerous places a relationship can land — not because of explosive fights, but because of silence. In this episode, we explore how couples drift into emotional divorce, and how to interrupt the drift. For some, it's a chance to reclaim intimacy. For others, it's a wake-up call to consciously uncouple. In Bloom Summit | April 10-12, 2026 https://www.in...

In this episode, we explore what happens after the initial rush of love—the limerence, the passion, the all-consuming desire to be together. Ashley and Lair talk about the natural and necessary phase of individuation that follows, when the real work of relationship begins. How do we return to our rhythms, our routines, our own inner lives—without disconnecting from the relationship? We reflect on...

In this episode of The Practice of Love Podcast, Ashley and Lair open up about Lair’s recent surf accident—an experience that brought fear, PTSD, shame, and deep vulnerability to the surface. They reflect on the tension between joy and fear, the subconscious beliefs that can make happiness feel unsafe, and how they navigated this crisis together in the midst of an already intense life transition....

Change is a constant in life, but how we respond to it shapes our experience. In this episode, Lair and Ashley explore the tension between resistance and acceptance, uncovering why they struggle with change and how surrendering can lead to transformation. Having just moved to Costa Rica, they share their own experiences of navigating major life transitions and the challenges of stepping into the u...

In this episode, Lair and Ashley dive deep into the concept of vulnerability—what it truly means and what it looks like, particularly in men. We explore why vulnerability in men is often misunderstood or even seen as a turn-off, shedding light on societal conditioning and outdated definitions of masculinity. Together, we discuss why embracing vulnerability is not a weakness but a profound act of c...

In this episode, Ashley and Lair explore how silence can quietly erode trust and intimacy in relationships. They discuss why avoiding difficult conversations can feel safer, how unspoken emotions create distance, and offer practical ways to move from silence to open, meaningful communication. ——————— Lair and Ashley Torrent host the Practice of Love Podcast. Lair is a psychotherapist and auth...

In this episode, we explore part 2 of the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. We dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it’s not what you will find in a Google search.             ——————— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and a...

In this episode, we explore the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. In part one of a two-part answer, we dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it's not what you will find in a Google search.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we discuss the difficult decision that many, including ourselves, have made to walk away from a familial relationship. We share our experience, how we have dealt with the judgment around this unpopular choice, and what we have discovered on the other side of it.  —— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Pract...

In this episode, we explore how changing our inner narrative transforms our relationship with our personal history and we ask the question, "After everything you have been through, how are you who you are?"  ----------------------------- The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a  psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-sp...

In this episode, Lair and Ashley talk about processing emotion, dealing with and accessing different parts of self, and how vulnerability paves the way to a heart-centered connection with your most authentic self.  ----------------------------- The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a  psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a ps...

After years of wondering what happened to her, Ashley’s repressed childhood sexual trauma surfaced. In this episode, Ashley and Lair share how they are walking through this revelation. They also discuss how this type of trauma may reveal itself, how to navigate it within a relationship, and how the practice of love can hold space for it. Follow Ashley at https://www.instagram.com/ashleytorrent29/...

In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss parenting a highly sensitive child. They have learned that at its core parenting is a practice of love that requires a vast amount of curiosity and the courage to go against the grain, question societal norms, and surmount some of our deepest wounds and fears. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss how to maintain intimacy both physical and emotional over a long term relationship and how they keep things sexy over the long haul. They share how they navigated a very difficult time that lasted years and what helped them come out the other side even closer than before.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss ultimatums and whether they are effective. Lair believes that sometimes they might be necessary and Ashley firmly disagrees and states that she does believe in fairies, however, she does not believe in giving ultimatums. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Lair and Ashley share moments in their relationship when mistakes were made, what they learned, and how we can handle our partners when they drop the ball.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the things we don't talk about that hurt our relationships. In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss how they met and how deep conversations and curiosity have been one of the keys to their long-lasting love affair even when those conversations have been difficult.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.