The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Stepping out from the shadows of a high-conflict separation and co-parenting scenario with an abusive ex is a journey many dread.  I've felt the sting of regret for yielding too long to fear, and in this heartfelt discussion, I open up about the hard-earned lessons that can guide you to a future where you stand strong for yourself and your children. The music you hear in this outro is 'C...

As a survivor of an abusive relationship, the journey through the legal labyrinth of family law was a battleground I never anticipated, one that many of you might be facing right now.  In  this podcast episode, I peel back the curtains on the raw truths of navigating the adversarial legal system -  an arena for false accusations and strategic defenses, often leaving the protective parent feeling a...

Have you ever felt unjustly blamed for the strife in a high-conflict separation?  In this episode I'm  tearing down the myth that both parties are equally responsible for the turmoil that often follows a divorce, especially when it comes to co-parenting.  As someone who's walked alongside many women embroiled in post-separation battles, I shine a light on the realities they face, includi...

Navigating the turbulent waters of high-conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting requires more than just a life vest; it demands a skilled navigator.    This episode is Part Two of my insights into the ten most common slip-ups people make during these stormy times, helping you steer clear of diving down unnecessary 'diagnosis' rabbit holes and the mirage of 'magical thinking.&a...

Navigating the stormy seas of high-conflict separation and divorce can leave even the strongest individuals feeling adrift. Prepare to sidestep the common pitfalls of splitting from a controlling partner as we dissect the errors many make - from harboring false hopes of change to the missteps of trusting the wrong confidants. We're peeling back the curtain on the truths no one talks about, eq...

Stepping away from an abusive relationship is like navigating through a maze blindfolded; it’s difficult, it’s frightening, but with the right guidance, you can find a way out.  In this episode I discuss steps for those considering this brave transition.   The conversation is a deep dive into the world of separation planning amidst the turmoil of an abusive relationship, shedding light on not just...

Have you ever found yourself questioning your memory or reality, feeling as if your thoughts and feelings were being invalidated? I tackle the subtle yet destructive practice of gaslighting in this latest conversation, where I bring my expertise as a high-conflict divorce coach to dissect the psychological manipulation designed to make victims doubt their own sanity.  This episode  reveals the var...

Have you ever felt bewildered by the shifting dynamics in a relationship, where suddenly you're the one being blamed?  This latest episode is a stark revelation of the DARVO tactic—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—used by abusers to evade responsibility and attack your reality. We uncover the chilling strategies abusers use to distort reality, assaulting their victim's character...

My voice may crack a bit today, after an intense week of coaching sessions has left its mark, but the message I'm about to share transcends any hoarseness.  We're addressing the heart-wrenching process of contemplating separation or divorce, especially when the specter of abuse looms large and the stakes are immeasurably high. It's a journey fraught with emotional complexity, requir...

Post-separation abuse and chaos at Christmas go hand in hand! So what is it about Christmas, and other special holidays, that seem to bring out the worst in high-conflict abusers?     d Join me on this episode as we discuss the chaos that controlling and abusive people attempt to create during the festive season. The music you hear in this outro is 'Calm is Credible' - an original track...

Women are often encouraged to leave abusive relationships by well-meaning others, but many are taken by surprise by the ongoing attempts to control and abuse by their ex-partner after separation. Also surprising is the incredible lack of support for women and children AFTER separation.   Join me on the this episode as I begin the important conversation about the unspoken reality of post-separation...

Many mistakenly believe that 'anger' issues are responsible for why abusers behave the way they do.  The truth?  No one gets hurt when someone feels an emotion. People get hurt when someone chooses a behaviour. Want to learn more? Keep listening! The music you hear in this outro is 'Calm is Credible' - an original track created exclusively for the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast...

 You may have heard about 'family violence' or 'domestic violence', or even 'coercive control'...but what about 'post-separation abuse'? After separation, an abuser doesn't magically stop wanting power and control over his former partner.  The attempts to gain and maintain control can take a number of different forms, and in some cases can last for year...

Navigating the wilderness of high-conflict separation and post-separation abuse? I support Australian women who are navigating ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation. Join me to break the silence, shatter the stigma and build a community of understanding and support.  We are stronger, and braver, together. The music you hear in this outro is 'Calm is Credible' - an ori...