The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit

TRUST: WTFFFFFF. Like what? You can believe a person is 100% on your team while they just straight up lie to your face?? WHY DOES THIS GET TO BE AN OPTION?? In this episode, I'm joined by licensed professional counselor and CEO of Apple Tree Counseling LLC, Michelle Kauble, to talk about how betrayed trust impacts our mental health, what we do with the heartbreak of broken trust, and how we can wo...

Turns out perfectionism can look all kinds of ways, including not doing anything because you won't be perfect at it! It's honestly a total mind fuck that keeps you in situations you don't like and exhausted from all the effort. (It will come as no surprise that perfectionists were pretty much always exposed to some kind of trauma early on.) In this episode, I talk with marriage and family therapis...

It should be easy, right? We just ask ourselves what we want or what we feel, and voila! But for a lot of us, that gauge got effed up somewhere along the way. So, after we've made a decision we regret, after we've become knee-jerk people pleasers, after we were gaslit for years and came to doubt our instincts, after parentification, narcissistic abuse, or other CPTSD-inducing forms of abuse—how do...

Vulnerability is literally the lifeline between you and all joy, and yet, simultaneously, it's fucking TERRIFYING AND TRAUMATIZING. Wth?? In this episode, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and The Anti-Soulmate Love Coach, Kari Lu Cowell (email: antisoulmatelove@gmail.com ), joins me to sort through how we work with vulnerability in ways that feel safe for us, what it looks like to trust *ourselves* w...

Ever feel like drop-kicking people? and then rolling their bodies into a kiddie pool of dog poo? and then spraying them with a firehose every time they try to get out? and then yelling, "You look great!" while taking their picture? Then this one's for you, baby. In this episode, I welcome licensed marriage and family therapist Neda Ehya to the pod to talk about working through—and working *with*—r...

Just when you thought you'd learned all there was to know... In this episode, psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman joins me to dive back into the conversation on parentification: how it affects our attachment styles, the impact it has on our central nervous system, and how, as adults, we can interact in a healthy way with the parents who parentified us. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching ses...

Literally betrayal is just a fucking nightmare. Cheating, lying, backstabbing—they just send you into a new, shit reality where suddenly there's no ground beneath your feet. But did you know that from a psychological standpoint, child abuse is also considered betrayal?? And that it can set you up to allow betrayals (of all kinds) into your life as an adult? That's just one of many things that ment...

It's honestly a very chill feeling. It's like: I'm too much. My feelings are too big. They make people reject me. And so I'll never be loved! Cool cool cool. In this episode, I welcome marriage and family therapist Sarah Breunig back to the pod to talk about transforming out of the heartbreaking belief that we're too much. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot...

Parentification and emotional incest are considered "invisible" forms of abuse because they often go unnoticed, but the repercussions are, to be frank, a huge bummer. In this episode, I welcome psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman to walk us through what parentification is, how it affects us as adults (cough *no boundaries* cough *lack of identity* cough *depression* cough cough), and how we...

So there's PTSD (you've probably heard of it), but there's also Complex PTSD—where you experience trauma over months or years. It's like PTSD for overachievers (*sob emoji*). In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Renee Tate to talk about the symptoms of Complex PTSD and how we shift out of that toilet bowl of sadness. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth char...

We all know fight or flight, some of us know freeze—but did you know about fawning? It's a whole new way to respond to trauma (weeeee!). It usually starts in childhood when we learn from our parents or caregivers that it isn't safe to say no, assert our needs, or fight back. Then we bring it into adulthood and—lo and behold—we can't stand up to people, even people who abuse us (*collective "fuuuuc...

Did you know we have different personalities (aka "parts") in our heads battling it out with each other and our "selves" all the time?? In this episode, IFS therapist Carissa Aresta joins me to talk about Internal Family Systems—what it is, how it works, and how we use it to dismantle shame and fear and get on the self-love train—plus she demos for us! Side note: I cry in this epi!! You've been wa...

OOF. One of the hardest things in working on yourself is being like: Maybe this is actually about me? In this episode, I'm joined by somatic Enneagram coach and co-host of The Enneagram Typecast podcast, Caryn Berley . We get into what the shadow is, how it shows up personally and culturally, and how we work with it so it doesn't work us. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart re...

TW: This episode talks about physical assault. Feeling unsafe from childhood, feeling unsafe in your body, feeling unsafe in your country—it's all fucked, and it can affect every single aspect of your adult life. In this episode, I'm joined by intuitive healer and coach Jess Taylor to talk about the root of feeling unsafe and what we can do to shift it. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session,...

Nothing like showing up to the party of life with the overwhelming feeling that people don't really love you! So cool, so chill. In this episode, I get down into the depths of feeling unwanted, unloveable, and disposable with psychotherapist Solasta McIntyre (therapywithsme@gmail.com). If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go ⁠⁠ here. Want to...

Did you know the patriarchy is the root of capitalism (ie your rent doubling overnight and forcing you to post TikTok vids of yourself crying while packing), colonialism (sup Puerto Rico! sup Hawaii!), misogyny (mmm.... a spiritual organization teaching us that women are evil! so spiritual right now! and totally unrelated to our insane rape statistics and maniacal abortion laws!), and white suprem...

Grief can look so many ways—from chronic childhood pain, to breakups, to the recent loss of Roe v. Wade. In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Kevin Brody to talk about integrating grief and allowing joy after a significant loss. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go ⁠⁠ here. Want to connect? Find me here: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠...

Even if you weren't around for a traumatic event, you could still be experiencing aspects of the trauma that have been passed down from generation to generation. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Renee Tate to talk about how intergenerational trauma works and how we heal it. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go...

What's up to all my anxiously attached homies! WOW is it a bummer to constantly fear abandonment in all our relationships. BUT—cool fact: Like the other insecure attachment styles, anxious attachment can be healed. In this epi, I'm joined by psychotherapist Rachel Holzberg to talk about how we move toward secure attachment and away from the despair and loneliness of anxious attachment. If you'd li...

The first eight years of your life are the most important in wiring your brain and establishing how you feel about yourself and the world around you. If you felt rejected by your parents, that wiring will stay with you for the rest of your life (NBD, just forever) unless you actively work to unlearn the coping mechanisms you took on as a child. In this epi, I'm joined by psychotherapist Liz Marks...

This week, I'm joined by Manhattan Wellness associate therapist Eliza Davis to get into shame—how it gets passed down, how to know you're experiencing it, what it does to the body, and how to work your way out of that shame spiral of doom. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go ⁠⁠ here. Want to connect? Find me here: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠...

Narcissism #2! 'Cause it's a doozy. Therapist Jon Lee rejoins the pod to go even deeper in the discussion of healing from narcissistic abuse, covering topics like implicit memories and reflexive responses after narcissistic abuse, overcoming perfectionism, internal fragmentation & compartmentalization, healing techniques that go deep, and more. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birt...

UGH, why is it so scary to set a boundary?? In this episode, I talk with therapist Jennifer Teplin of Manhattan Wellness about healing that fear at the source so it stops effing up our lives. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go ⁠⁠ here. Want to connect? Find me here: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Email: patraumaparty@gmail.com The in...

Romance can be a minefield, let's be honest. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Jasmine Eddy to unpack the trauma of romantic rejection. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go ⁠⁠ here. Want to connect? Find me here: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Email: patraumaparty@gmail.com The information provided on this po...

Ever encounter a narcissist? What a monumental shitshow that is. In this episode, I talk to trauma therapist Jon Lee about the traits of narcissists and people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the trauma of cultural narcissism, and healing from narcissistic abuse from parents and partners. Please Note: I mistakenly misgendered Jon during the recording; Jon's preferred pronouns are they/them...