The Partnership Podcast

Episode 17 unfolds differently than all the rest! When they embarked on this conversation Lauren thought they'd be discussing the power of self-actualization and the accessibility of self-help resources these days. But, as you'll see, the dialogue takes a much different turn. Lauren shares how, through the power of question asking, Trey encourages intimacy and makes her feel: un-known, exciting, a...

Hold on folks, on Episode 16 Lauren is talking about her FAVORITE GAME for partnerships of all kinds! The Three Minute Game by the brilliant Dr. Betty Martin has revolutionized Lauren's work and you'll be able to feel her nerdy excitement as she and Trey share about their recent attempt at playing this game for research purposes. ;) Trey shares how uncomfortable and vulnerable the game can be and...

If sexual fantasies and the erotic make you uncomfortable this might not be the episode for you! On Episode 15, Lauren and Trey discuss one of their FAVORITE topics, the Erotic Imagination. They unpack how they protect one another's sexual privacy and what that looks like in their monogamous relationship. They unpack one of  @drjoli_hamilton 's terms, "Creative Monogamy" and the different ways the...

The Holistic Psychologist recently shared that "Safe relationships don't always feel good. You will be in tears with each other having tough conversations and facing the wounded parts of yourself. Safe relationships just won't weaponize or shame those parts of you." While they wish Episode 14 was a tidy wrap-up to the dishes conflict in Episode 13 (catch it here: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podc...

Well, it's about damn time. Pop the popcorn, sit back, relax, and enjoy your front row seat to another CONFLICT. Episode 13 finds Trey and Lauren on day two of a conflict over DISHES and you don't wanna miss it. One party feels that their needs are being silenced and the other feels pressured to submit - buckle-up, friends, this is a wild ride. The whole thing started because Lauren thought it wou...

Lauren quickly crumbles on Episode 12 as she attempts to share her dreams for 2023. She and Trey spend time talking about the examples of feminine success they saw modeled as they were growing up and how Lauren feels a wall every time she attempts to dream large. Having grown up believing that she was to only be a "jewel in her husband's crown" and that it is her job to always remain attractive an...

Are you decompressing from the holidays? Us too! On Episode 11, we break down the holiday traditions we are building and the holiday obligations we are no longer choosing to participate in. Trey shares how we stumbled into Christmas Tree trauma early on in our relationship and Lauren explains how she attempts to protect his nervous system without sacrificing what is important to her. We hope this...

Our 10th episode focuses on the Human Design system of self-knowledge and how we, as a Projector (Trey) and Generator (Lauren), utilize this modality to our advantage!  We are NEWBIES at this system, but we love when tools like this enable us to learn about ourselves and one another! We believe that by grasping a surface level understanding of My Human Design, you too will notice immediate op...

Episode 9 begins with a story of a sexual encounter gone terribly WRONG! What started as a sexy tryst quickly turned to terror! Trey and Lauren will have you cackling or groaning as you recall similar encounters of your own. WARNING: this episode uses anatomical terms and describes sexual positions. Have you ever have a major stumble midway through a sexual escapade? Have you ever had difficulty i...

On Episode 8 Lauren shares how she recently failed to communicate about a joint financial decision and Trey shares his newest thoughts on pornography. They walk through their juvenile insecurities and the surprisingly similar origins of their desire to conceal behaviors. If money and sex are two of the most common reasons for divorce, you might want to give this raw episode a listen. Lauren and Tr...

On Episode 7 we share our raw and honest thoughts on the new Hulu documentary: God Forbid: The Sex Scandal That Brought Down a Dynasty. Not only do we live in the SAME TOWN as Jerry and Becki Falwell, Jerry Falwell, Sr, founder of Liberty University, married Lauren's parents. As we watched the almost 2-hour documentary, Lauren couldn't stop analyzing the content through her lived experiences and p...

On Episode 6 we discuss our ELOPEMENT! We chat about why we didn't call the day we we got married a "wedding," and why we never once used the words "VOWS."   We share all the details about our October 26, 2022 "ritual" that was healing for Lauren's wounds and honored Trey's nervous system. We talk about how we snuck up to NYC for wedding photos with Lauren's ex-husband that celebrated LOVE in...

On Episode 5 we discuss the process of qualifying and disqualifying what you're looking for in order to find a partner, lover, friend, or even a healthy work environment! We share how, even though we were on opposite sides of the country, we were independently developing our own systems for choosing. We touch on perhaps the least talked about part of this process - the refining who WE ARE in order...

On Episode 4 we break down the beauty of choosing partnership. We share the ins and outs of our Partnership Agreement, highlighting WHY we choose and HOW we choose each other every day.    Lauren comes from a fundamentally religious home and was raised to believe she was the property of God, her father, and her future husband. After a traumatizing first marriage, Lauren promised herself...

Friends, we've found our way back. The great Emily Nagoski, Ph. D. shares that healthy couples are not those, "who never hurt each other; they're the ones who find their way back." We couldn't agree more. (If you haven't, pick up a copy of her books, COME AS YOU ARE and BURNOUT - they will forever change your partnerships.) While Trey was editing Part 1 of Episode 3 for you, his nervous system bec...

Have you ever wished you could be a fly on the wall of someone else's disagreement? Well, look no further.   This episode of The Partnership Podcast finds Lauren and Trey right smack in the middle of an incredibly uncomfortable conversation. They stumble into childhood trauma, their responses trigger one another, and eventually they realize there's no true resolution other than time and space...

We couldn't keep this gem to ourselves! In this Bonus Segment, Lauren describes a term used by a Sexuality Education Colleague to reference the time of the day one prefers to engage in intimacy...  This is Trey's reaction to whether or not he would resent having a request for sex denied during his "Tingle Time."  

Do you ever feel your attraction level for your partner dropping? Do you ever feel like their attraction for YOU is dropping? You are not alone! On this episode Lauren and Trey unpack a recent partnership failure and how it made their sexual and romatic attraction levels for one another drop! They discuss how taking responsibility for communicating to our partners and holding space for our partner...

On this introductory episode of The Partnership Podcast Lauren and Trey talk about their "why" for this content. They discuss who they hope their vulnerable conversations help, what led them to want to share their sucesses and failures, and how choosing partnership has been their most powerful decision to date.