The Partnership Podcast

Do old wounds ever show up in your partnership when you’re trying to learn new things? Then Episode 42 is for you! Trey shares more than he EVER has as he tells Lauren the story of his weekend on the golf course and how his body internalized GOLF as trauma. Lauren invites him to share the origin story of his anger and how he’s working through rage now. At minute 7:07 Trey remembers how his rage th...

On Episode 41 Lauren and Trey discuss the different ways they “keep the door open to arousal” through non-sexual foreplay. They each share various actions the other does that allows them to remain open to desire. At minute 6:45 Lauren shares an image of how small actions throughout the day enable her to clear a path through the imaginary jungle to Trey with a machete or a weed-wacker or a machete…...

On Episode 40, Trey tosses out a question to Lauren at 6:52am that gets her engine revving! Over the next 45 minutes they break down how love differs from cathexis, creating a nurturing adult, the questions we ask that are NOT questions, the vulnerability of requesting help, and facing the truth about our own needs. Trust is crucial inside of partnership, yet many of us have very few examples of t...

A close friend of Lauren’s took flight from this world this week. Episode 39 finds this duo sitting with all the many colors of grief inside of partnership. You’ll witness tears, laughter, confusion, and wonder as Lauren shares her process in real time. Trey is aware that losses like this often trigger Lauren’s “mother-wound.” Having lost her mother in 2007 to cancer, death has a tendency to rock...

Lauren and Trey FINALLY SAW THE BARBIE MOVIE!! Episode 38 is their hot take on the themes they observed including the hilarious jabs the film makes at the Patriarchy. This episode marks ONE FULL YEAR of releasing podcasts out into the wild and Lauren and Trey sharing their thoughts with you in real time! :) Thanks for being here! Lauren shares how many folks are frustrated with their partner’s lac...

In Episode 37 Lauren and Trey recap their recent travel and the result of the Event Planner and Day of Coordinator roles they brainstormed on Episode 36. Spoiler, it went wonderfully, despite feeling like they were being punked in the international terminal at LAX! At minute 16:00 Trey gives a shout out to an audience member who flagged him down on the golf course! He shares how hilarious it is to...

After last week’s doozy of an episode, Trey and Lauren recap what they did to repair and restore their relationship after they turned off the cameras last week.  Emily Nagoski says that, “the sign of relationship health is not whether or not a couple argues. But rather, how quickly they find their way back to one another.” On episode 36, Trey and Lauren recap share the different tricks they now us...

If you ever wonder what real human conflict looks like, just watch/listen to this podcast. There’s not much more to say about Episode 35. The moment Lauren sits down, Trey brings up the mortgage and the rest of this conflict happens in real time. You will see these two on the struggle-bus for roughly 30 minutes straight. You’ll hear lengthy pauses and feel the awkward silences. You will see tears,...

Let’s get right to it. Episode 34 talks about Oral Sex a LOT. If that’s not your cup of tea, this might be the episode for you!  Lauren has recently been re-reading  Dr. Betty Martin's book, THE ART OF RECEIVING AND GIVING . At minute 1:50 she shares how Dr. Martin suggests that many folks might think they dislike receiving when REALLY they dislike enduring, tolerating and allowing.  At minute...

Do you ever find yourself in the car with your partner thinking, “are we there yet?!?” If so, Episode 33 is for you! Trey and Lauren took a little road trip on the 4th of July and what could have turned into “road-gate,” instead took a turn for the better! Despite high stress from a crazy storm on the dark county roads, Trey chose curiosity instead of rage and Lauren leaned into neutrality over se...

You’ve been asking, “What’s up with Trey and weed? WHY doesn’t Lauren care when he says he’s going to stop, but starts right up again!? Does weed affect your partnership?” Such great questions and they’re tackling them all on Episode 32! In her previous marriage, Lauren experienced the harmful ramifications of alcoholism. She also felt the deep pain of trying to “make someone change,” and vowed ne...

Well, they did it. They watched the documentary about fundamentalist religion and The Institute in Basic Life Principles on Amazon Prime entitled: SHINY HAPPY PEOPLE. ( https://amzn.to/44dDOHP ) While The Secrets of Hillsong on Hulu was difficult to get through, Lauren was much more afraid to watch this piece of media as it closely aligns with the life she escaped.  Trey doesn’t say much on this e...

Episode 30 finds Lauren and Trey right in the middle of an incredibly fragile morning full of fear and worry. After several months in physical therapy for a hamstring injury, Lauren was encouraged to get an ultrasound of her ovaries to check for the possibility of ovarian cysts. While this is a common frustration for people with uteruses, Lauren's grandmother died of ovarian cancer and her ner...

Well, friends, this episode jumps immediately into the "intimate" details of a recent hike Lauren and Trey went on! If you do nothing else, make sure you watch Lauren's mortified face at minute 2:54! Also, if you think this episode is all about Hillsong, guess again! These two dive into shame, erotic imagination, cheating, love bombing and more! After they get their mountain of a sto...

Trey stumbled into the room when Lauren was watching the Hulu documentary, “The Secrets of Hillsong” this week and got sucked in! So, they’ve made an episode out of their initial thoughts and reactions so far!  Like all episodes of The Partnership Podcast, this one starts off on a completely different note, with Lauren sharing some of her recent fears and growing pains as the owner of Sex Ed for Y...

Episode 27 is one of the most accidentally personal episodes Trey and Lauren have recorded so far! They begin their chat having no idea what they're gonna talk about and end up discovering how interconnected the birth of SEX ED FOR YOU is with their love story.  At minute 2:20, Lauren begins her highlight sharing a very exciting announcement and by minute 2:58 she's jumping right into stor...

This episode discusses the difference between cathexis and love as Lauren is coming to understand the terms as she reads ALL ABOUT LOVE: NEW VISIONS by bell hooks. Trey opens by asking Lauren about a recent "work-cation." She shares how she chose to show up for herself as CEO, COO, and CFO and some difficult and scary choices she had to make. At the end of the day, it is her job alone to care for...

Episode 25 dives right into the bedroom! Lauren's recently been rereading Ian Kerner's book: SHE COMES FIRST and she has some juicy questions for Trey.  But, before they launch into the subject of communicating their way to better and more patient sex, Trey shares one of his favorite phrases, "Are you asking for advice or do you want me just to listen?" They discuss why this term...

On Episode 24 Lauren and Trey dissect a recent question from the audience that asked, “What if we don’t share the same goals?” Buckle-up, because they’re gonna take you on a wild ride!  At minute 8:57 Lauren shares how MANY of her clients are going through similar struggles right now as one partner deconstructs their evangelical faith, and another seeks to retain their beliefs. What IS the most lo...

On this Episode Lauren and Trey share about a recent instance where Lauren's body reacted negatively to Trey's mention of porn use earlier in the day. Despite "knowing" the benefits of porn and having a Relationship Agreement (Episode 5) that celebrates sexual privacy, Lauren's body still retains body-based sex-negative beliefs that reside in her due to decades of Purity Cult...

On Episode 22  Lauren and Trey share all the intimate details of a recent sex-cation and the responsibility they each took to make it happen! This weekend hotel stay started as a desire of Lauren's but took a game of catch to make it cum to fruition.  Watch or listen to this episode of the Partnership Podcast to see how the three minute game, raspberries, and sex toys contributed to this amazing s...

On Episode 21 Trey and Lauren break down two recent conflicts that existed solely in their minds. They discuss finding their way back to one another and the importance of taking responsibility for their personal feelings.  Lauren stumbled into an old porn wound last week and Trey shares how the tone of her question made him feel judged and threatened. They then move into their favorite topic of se...

Episode 20 is here and it marks Lauren’s FIRST episode without tears! Perhaps it’s because these two spend most of this episode flexing their acting muscles by pretending to ask one another for new and exciting sexual things in the bedroom. Wanna see Trey blush? Make sure to watch the video on Spotify or YouTube! (Fun fact! Did you know Trey was an actor/SAG member for years? While he’s appeared i...

Episode 19 almost went unshared. It's messy, unrehearsed, raw, and necessary. In their warm up conversation,Trey began telling Lauren about the ways in which he's pushing into the discomfort of growth in this season - habits he's attempting to curb and new disciplines he's hoping to develop. This reminded Lauren of the work so many of her clients are doing right now and so she bega...

This episode begins with a silly little confession from Trey and leads into a deeper dive of the many health benefits of masturbation when used as a purposeful tool. Lauren believes that it's time to let go of the misinformation that continues to leave people feeling guilt and shame about a normal expression of the sexual self. The REAL content of this episode revolves around the taboo of menstrua...