The Partnership Podcast

Why is hotel sex so hot? In this juicy and joy-filled episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren explore the psychology behind the passion—why sex in a hotel room often feels freer, more exciting, and more connected. Trey opens with a hilarious hotel story from Amarillo, TX, and shares how heightened sensations and novelty make intimacy feel brand new. Lauren adds her insights about antic...

In this vulnerable follow-up to last week's episode on opening up their relationship, Lauren and Trey share how they’re really doing—and the deeper attachment patterns that were activated in the aftermath. Lauren opens up about her coach’s reflection that she often strives to “do it all” to protect Trey from pain. Trey reveals his own avoidant tendencies, formed in childhood, to escape disappo...

In this raw and deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey open up about a conversation they’ve never shared publicly before—one that rocked the foundation of their partnership. At minute 06:49, you’ll hear Trey’s exact words at the bar: “What would it look like if we opened our relationship?” What followed was a weekend of intense reflection, body-based reactions, and tender reckoning. Lauren, a prof...

This week, Lauren and Trey dive into a big, juicy topic: breaking up—but not with each other. (Don't worry, they're still together!) When Trey invites Lauren to share about a date night she requested, the conversation turns deeply personal. Lauren opens up about a core pattern in her attachment style: the fear of being “too much” and the impulse to protect others from her bigness—especiall...

What do you do when your partner’s ego takes the wheel? In this deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey explore how to handle ego in real-time partnership. Trey opens up about recent struggles with his inner critic, replaying imaginary arguments, and how it’s made him short-tempered. Lauren gently suggests this might not be "stupid" behavior—but actually part of the work of real, evolving...

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share how they've learned to say "No" to sex — without creating distance, resentment, or feelings of rejection. They start by introducing a powerful game from Dr. Betty Martin 's WHEEL OF CONSENT: -Like A Pro Training called "No Three Ways," and reflect on how it helped rebuild trust between them after a trauma...

After the cameras stopped rolling in “She Got Triggered. He Got Scared,” ( LISTEN NOW ) Trey and Lauren weren’t done. In this raw and revealing follow-up, Trey shares what happened immediately after filming ended—and why he wasn’t OK with having his ability to see a better way shut down. Lauren recounts their intense phone call and the moment Trey asked her, “How are you going to attend to this?”...

In this raw and unfiltered emergency episode of Season 2, Lauren and Trey sit down early the morning after a seemingly casual Friday kitchen conversation triggered one of Lauren’s deepest source wounds. If you saw her 11-minute Instagram video ( watch it here) , you already know this moment hit hard—activating powerful, body-based beliefs and a flood of old, painful stories. What was meant to be a...

In this vulnerable and emotionally-rich episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey unpack a recent argument that started with Trey’s new hairstyle—but quickly spiraled into deeper feelings of not being heard, not feeling prioritized, and long-standing insecurities. Trey bravely shares how hurt he felt when Lauren made a seemingly small but painful comment, and how it led to a moment where...

How do the simple rituals we share each day shape the security and connection in our relationship? In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into "Launches & Landings"—the daily practices that start and end their days together. Lauren recently finished Wired for Love (Second Edition) by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT (📖 Get the book here ) and was surprised to learn t...

What happens when one partner wants something sexually, but the other doesn’t? In this episode, Lauren and Trey respond to an audience member’s question about sexual boundaries in relationships. Lauren shares one of her favorite Betty Dodson quotes: "The first principle of pleasure is the freedom of personal choice."—reminding us that if you don’t want to do something in bed, you don’t h...

Talking about sex in a long-term relationship can feel awkward, vulnerable, or even impossible—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into how to have hard conversations about your sexual relationship and create the sex life you both want. They unpack societal scripts that shape men's and women’s experiences of desire, share real feelings f...

Ever heard of “grapefruiting” but weren’t quite sure what it meant? 🍊 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break it all down—starting with the viral technique made famous by Auntie Angel and its unforgettable moment in Girls Trip (yes, we’re linking that scene below 👀). But this conversation isn’t just about technique—it’s about communication and how to ask for more of wha...

How do you keep the passion alive when you have kids at home—especially when they walk in at the worst possible moment? 😳 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey get hilariously real about the awkward (but inevitable) challenges of maintaining an intimate life as parents. They share the cringe-worthy story of a recent mishap, Trey's knee-jerk reaction to blame Lauren, and...

In part two of this deep dive, Lauren and Trey challenge the narratives shaping the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case. Lauren refutes the idea that "once a cheater, always a cheater," while Trey shares his teenage Nickelodeon stardom experience—including a moment on set with Blake Lively. They explore trust, attraction, and power, with Lauren questioning if she would have reason to fe...

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case, unpacking the narratives, power hierarchies, and gender dynamics shaping the conversation. Lauren shares intimate details about her own divorce and the fear of being deposed, connecting personal experience to public scrutiny. Together, they explore how jealousy, silencing, and cultural n...

In this Season 2 premiere of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down how to prioritize sex and negotiate intimacy in a way that feels good for both partners. They explore the stories we create about our relationships—often shaped by insecurity—and ask, Is your partner actually avoidant, or is that just a narrative in your head? Lauren shares why safety-seeking behaviors aren’t inherent...

In the Season One finale of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Trey and Lauren answer listener questions on relationships, intimacy, and personal growth. They discuss navigating mismatched libido, overcoming body insecurities, and living in a conservative town while raising a teen who could tune in. Trey shares insights from his meditation practice, gives an update on how he’s handling the dishes in t...

In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren dives into her favorite topic of the moment: erotic self-focus. With passion and purpose, she breaks down how centering yourself in your most erotic fantasies can be a transformative act of self-love and empowerment—especially for women. But what starts as a liberating conversation takes a sharp turn when Trey voices his discomf...

Note: We’re redesigning our podcast studio, so the visuals might look a little different over the next few episodes! In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren opens up about her biggest fears around overworking and neglecting her family. She and Trey share a new image that helped them get on the same page and discuss how they found their way back to one another sexually after a hectic wor...

In this festive 25-minute Christmas episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the surprising role anxiety plays in arousal—especially during the holidays. They explore how visiting your childhood home can be a turn-on or turn-off, and the three key moments that can make you desire your partner more: missing them, seeing them in their element, or being surprised by them. They al...

In this quick, 25-minute episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the topic of casual sex, diving deeper into tools and resources for those navigating casual dating with ethics. Trey asks Lauren for practical advice on how to take care of yourself and the people you're dating. Lauren shares her top 5 tools for Ethical Casual Dating, including getting clear on your wants, practic...

In this candid episode, Lauren and Trey discuss the difference between relational and recreational sex. Lauren dives deep into Trey's years of casual sex and dating multiple people, uncovering a story she's never heard before. Trey reflects on his past, takes ownership of mistakes, and shares how he wishes he'd had the tools to communicate better with women. At 21:42, Trey asks, "How do women prev...

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down "Sleepy Side Sex" in response to an audience question. They explore the nuances of Offers, Requests, and Invitations, inspired by Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Discover how these concepts can transform intimacy and communication. For deeper insights, check out Dr. Martin’s book The Art of Giving and Receiving. ( https://...

In Episode 93 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey explore powerful topics inspired by a recent post from The Holistic Psychologist. They dive into the parentified son's resentment of household responsibilities, codependency, and how childhood strategies may no longer serve us in adulthood. Lauren shares a vacation story of choosing embodied joy by dancing solo when Trey needed time to hims...