The Partnership Podcast

⚠️ Major Spoiler Alert ⚠️ This episode contains full spoilers for Heated Rivalry, Episode 6 (the finale). In Part Two of their Heated Rivalry conversation, Lauren and Trey sit with the emotional aftermath of the finale and reflect on why this episode felt so deeply moving, tender, and necessary. What unfolds is less about rivalry and more about safety, repair, and what it means to finally come hom...

Lauren and Trey dive into the global sensation that is Heated Rivalry, HBO’s hit hockey romance that has captured hearts and sparked important cultural conversations. The series follows rival pro hockey players Shane Hollander and Ilya Rozanov whose public feud masks a deeply charged, secret romance. It is a story that brilliantly captures the tension between attraction and obstacle that fuels des...

Lauren and Trey begin 2026 with a nuanced dialogue about willing and wanting in long-term partnership. In this 30-minute episode, they unpack a recent real-life conversation where Trey shares that he feels “willing” is a tier below “wanting,” while Lauren challenges that framework. Drawing from Kai Cheng Thom’s Spectrum of Consent and Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, they explore whether willi...

In this final episode of 2025, Lauren and Trey continue their conversation on admiration and its role in sustaining desire in long-term partnership. They share how writing notes of admiration on their refrigerator whiteboard has become a simple, meaningful daily practice. Lauren reflects on how admiration fuels her desire and why it matters to feel known as a woman of worth to Trey rather than a c...

What actually keeps desire alive in long-term partnerships? According to Emily Nagoski, PhD, it’s not relentless passion—it’s admiration. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast , Lauren and Trey explore why liking, respecting, and admiring your partner may be one of the most powerful (and under-practiced) ingredients in sustaining erotic connection over time. Quoting Nagoski’s book Come Togeth...

What happens when old relationship patterns collide with real-time growth? Lauren and Trey start this episode with a wild night out that sparks a raw conversation about ex partner behavior, accountability, and emotional maturity. After witnessing prank calls and performative attempts to re-enter an ex’s orbit while they were on a date, Lauren names the behavior clearly. At best, it’s childish. At...

In this intimate, grounded conversation, Lauren and Trey explore the truth about women dating shorter men, what culture tells us, what we internalize, and how couples can rewrite the scripts they’ve inherited. Lauren is about an inch taller than Trey without heels, and she often wears heels at his request. Their dynamic opens the door to a deeper look at how lived experiences, early messages, ego,...

In this candid and intimate episode, Lauren and Trey explore the idea of sexual currency and how consistent deposits into a partner's sexual bank account can transform intimacy in long-term relationships. They share the story of a magical sexual encounter they had the night before and talk about why it was only possible because Trey had been investing in Lauren's sexual bank account for th...

In this episode, Lauren and Trey explore what it really looks like to shadowbox through conflict instead of slipping into fusion, isolation, or the old patterns their bodies once relied on. They discuss Jessica Fern’s Distancer–Pursuer dance, celebrating the one who reaches for connection under stress and the one who pulls toward autonomy. Lauren then brings up their recent train ride back from NY...

Lauren and Trey dive into Season 2 of Netflix’s Nobody Wants This, and yes, there are definitely spoilers. The first third of the episode is pure chaos in the best way: the two of them can’t stop laughing, Lauren’s in a short skirt and tights, and Trey keeps telling listeners to go watch the video version because “you really need to see her outfit and hair today.” Things heat up even more when Tre...

In this raw and relatable episode, Trey kicks things off by admitting he’s craving sex — and it’s been a while. Lauren affirms that it’s good to want while sharing that she’s in a deeply introspective phase of her menstrual cycle, shedding an old version of herself and leaning into rest. She offers a brief teaching on hormonal cycles — how men move through a 24-hour rhythm, while people with uteru...

After two weeks of travel — and every waking moment side by side — Lauren and Trey return from vacation to unpack what it’s really like to be together for 14 straight days. Trey opens the episode with a listening turn, reflecting on why he absolutely loved spending the entire trip with Lauren… and why, the moment they got home, he needed space. Around minute 10, Lauren takes her own listening turn...

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of attempted suicide, verbal abuse, and non-consensual labor. Please listen with care. In this deeply somber and storytelling episode of The Partnership Podcast , Trey opens up about the recent death of his mother and the complicated emotions that have surfaced in its wake. He shares raw stories of his childhood—verbal abuse, forced labor, and...

When your partner’s body changes — whether from weight gain, shifting eating habits, or perimenopause — it can bring up some of the trickiest conversations in long-term relationships. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast , Lauren and Trey share a vulnerable look at how they navigate these sensitive moments with honesty, compassion, and growth. Trey tells the story of skipping Lauren’s favori...

On this episode of The Partnership Podcast , Trey asks Lauren about the career-focused women she works with—are they struggling to find partners, and why? Lauren’s answer may surprise you (and you’ll have to listen to see if she chose the unfiltered or the compassionate version). Together, Trey and Lauren explore the dating challenges ambitious women face, why many men resist accountability, and h...

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast , Lauren and Trey break down two of the most unhelpful questions partners ask: “Are you OK?” and “What’s wrong?” Right before recording, Lauren asked Trey, “Are you OK?” —and it sparked a powerful conversation. These questions often come from hypervigilance in our own nervous systems, not from genuine curiosity about our partner’s well-being. Trey shares...

We’re picking up right where we left off in last week’s episode! Trey kicks things off with a scene where Lauren asks him not to masturbate because she’s craving his pursuit. What follows is a hilarious and eye‑opening exchange about dating each other inside a long‑term relationship. From there, Lauren dives deep into spontaneous vs. responsive desire —and she doesn’t hold back about how frustrati...

In this candid episode of The Partnership Podcast , Lauren and Trey dive into the messy, beautiful, and often misunderstood topic of masturbation within long-term relationships —the good, the bad, and the ugly. They open up about real moments in their own sex life, from Lauren recently asking Trey to “hold your cum for me” to their conversations about “tingle time” and what it really means to have...

In this episode, Lauren and Trey pick up where they left off—exploring the inner work men need to do so they can connect authentically with the women they truly desire. Trey opens up about how his experience as a Human Design Projector means running on a finite battery. Lauren, as a Generator , offers steady energy and support within the relationship. Trey shares how their conversation sparked a r...

What do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be. Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho H...

In this short but powerful episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off. Lauren invites Trey to share what he’s been exploring around his source wound, and he opens up about a childhood memory from 1994 — sitting in a car, hearing Adam Sandler’s “The Chanukah Song,” and feeling an intense response in his 10-year-old body. With the help of a meditative pract...

In this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton. They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the ter...

Can you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal? In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns. At minute 18:23, tune in t...

After Lauren’s standing-room-only Soho House event, she and Trey pull back the curtain on what happened behind the scenes—and why big wins can sometimes bring up big shadows. Lauren introduces her inner "Sissy," the part of her that believes she's only lovable if she's working hard, never celebrating. She opens up about the shame spiral that followed her success and how it led to...

“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.” In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over. Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electric...