The Parenting Reframe

You can’t go back and redo your childhood. But you can stop unconsciously parenting the child inside of you instead of the child standing in front of you. In this solo episode, Albiona reframes the popular idea of “reparenting” into something more useful, more honest, and a lot more doable. This one gets personal. Albiona walks through real coaching examples — including a mom who kept over-giving...

Most parents know what they’re supposed to do in hard moments. Stay calm. Set the boundary. Don’t react. The problem isn’t knowing — it’s being able to access any of that when you’re already in the thick of it. That’s exactly what this episode is about. Albiona sits down with Dr. Elisha Goldstein — psychologist, mindfulness teacher, and author of Tiny Shifts — to talk about emotional regulation in...

If play feels like one more thing on your list, this episode is going to change that. Albiona sits down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen — registered play therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and author of Parenting Through Play — to talk about what play actually is, why parents have it backwards, and how a more playful approach leads to less defiance, fewer meltdowns, and a home that just fee...

Two things keep coming up in coaching sessions right now, in household after household, family after family: rewards and kids’ anxiety around trying new things. So Albiona brought it here. In this solo episode, she breaks down the real problem with how most parents use rewards (it’s not that you’re doing them — it’s how often), and reframes childhood anxiety in a way that actually gives you somewh...

Inside, she explores: →  Why a dysregulated parent can’t help a dysregulated child — and what actually has to happen first before any parenting strategy can work →  The two reasons most parents struggle to stay regulated in hard moments: not being able to access tools when it counts, and not having a plan to follow through on →  How the PAR method works in real time — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond,...

Inside, they explore: →  What matrescence actually is — the neurocognitive developmental phase of becoming a mother — and why understanding it as an identity shift (not a breakdown) is the reframe new moms need most →  The full picture of “mom brain”: why the forgetfulness is real, what the research actually shows about cognitive strengths postpartum, and why your brain deserves a lot more credit...

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same direction six times, voice rising, before your child finally moves — this episode is for you. The truth is, you don’t have a bad kid. And you’re not a bad parent. What you have is a defective pattern. And patterns can be changed. In this solo episode, Albiona revisits one of the most downloaded and shared episodes on the show — why kids don’t listen...

Inside, they explore: → The reframe that changes everything: stop saying you "lost" someone—they're not lost, they're on the other side of a very thin veil, still here, still sending signs (and once you start looking, you'll see them everywhere) → Why kids are naturally more connected to the other side than adults—and how honest conversations about death (even when we're crying and fumbling throug...

Inside, she explores:   → What stretching is—and why intentionally letting kids struggle through slightly uncomfortable situations builds resilience, frustration tolerance, and confidence (the opposite of helicopter parenting or overprotective parenting) → The critical question to ask when kids engage in undesired behavior (transition tantrums, meltdowns, refusal): what skill are they missing that...

Inside, she explores:   → What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling) → The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that...

Inside, they explore: → Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate → The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it) → Why connection is the foundation for good beh...

Inside, she explores: → The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body) → Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work → Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, mov...

Inside, they explore: → The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity → Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with) → The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a so...

Inside, Albiona explores: → Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love → The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway) → Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead → How resistance and fear are actually p...

Inside, they explore:   → The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been" → How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life → Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth → The sacred travel experience in Ireland t...

Inside, they explore: → Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work → The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself" → How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse")...

Inside, Albiona explores: → Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments → The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider → Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it) → How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yours...

Inside, Albiona explores: Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking What to say when your child spirals after a choice Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead What it looks like to guide without rescuing She also shares stories from her own classroom...

From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters. This conversation weaves through: What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm —and how HERO Diapers is leading t...

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking, “They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?” ...this episode is for you. Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It...

What You’ll Learn Why your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication. How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first. The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything. How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead. Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive. How t...

In this solo episode, Albiona explores one of the most common parenting struggles — reactivity. Whether you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or feeling guilty after the fact, this episode offers a powerful shift. Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more pres...

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe. You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even wh...

What You’ll Learn in This Episode The key differences between consequences and punishments Why kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundaries How punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulation The role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses) Why the boundary itself often is the consequence How to...

In this warm conversation Tembi and Albiona cover: How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. ( Simon & Schuster ) What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. ( People....