The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast | Matrescence | Relationship after baby | Motherhood life

[ GET THE INTIMACY in 5 MINUTE GUIDE! ]   Ever said something totally harmless and watched your partner’s face fall like you just insulted their soul? You’re not alone.   This episode dives into the invisible gap between what we say and what our partner hears, especially when we’re tired, touched out, and trying to survive modern parenthood.    Because good intentions don’t always translate into c...

Have you ever wondered why communication tools sometimes don’t appear to work in relationships, even when you’re trying your best? Or why you and your partner keep having the same argument again and again? If you’ve been asking yourself, “how to fix emotional distance in a relationship,” or “why am I not feeling heard in my marriage,” this episode is for you. In today’s powerful conversation, I si...

GET THE INTIMACY in 5 MINUTE GUIDE!   If you’ve ever found yourself lying next to your partner at night feeling more like co-parents than lovers, wondering why you feel disconnected despite still loving each other then this episode is for you. In this week's episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we’re diving deep into the invisible force that could be draining your emotional closenes...

Have you ever felt like you're the one holding your relationship and family together — not just with tasks, but with emotional glue? Like you're the radar, the planner, the peacekeeper… and no one really notices? In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we name it: emotional labor. But not the oversimplified version you see in viral posts. We go deeper into the invisible roles w...

Have you ever sat next to your partner, not angry, not even distant on purpose, and still felt miles apart? This episode is for couples who love each other deeply… but no longer feel it.  We go beyond the usual communication advice and explore how emotional intimacy is often blocked not by a lack of love but by a nervous system that no longer feels safe. If you’re parenting, stretched thin, or jus...

So many parents I work with tell me the same thing: “I thought I’d be different.” We want to be gentle, connected, patient. But when the pressure builds… we feel hijacked by old patterns. This week, I sat down with trauma-informed parent coach Jaspreet Chopra Lewis to talk about why that happens — and what to do about it. We talked about inherited patterns like emotional invalidation, the exhausti...

What if healing isn’t something you have to do before parenting but something you do within it? In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we explore what healing really looks like when you’re not at a retreat, but in a home full of snack crumbs, emotional meltdowns, and endless to-do lists. This isn’t about becoming a brand new person. It’s about becoming a softer, braver, more p...

Have you ever caught yourself reacting to your child in a way that feels all too familiar, perhaps echoing your own parents' responses? These moments often reveal the invisible family patterns we've unconsciously inherited. In Episode 57 of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we explore how these unseen scripts shape our parenting styles and emotional responses. We'll discuss how to identify...

Have you ever surprised yourself with how intensely you reacted to your child? That flood of anger or shame? The moment where a small behavior felt so deeply personal?   This episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast dives into the tender truth that parenting often reawakens childhood wounds—and that’s not a flaw, it’s an invitation.  When our children act out, they're often unknowingly t...

Why do couples who love each other still drift apart after having children? Why do the very efforts meant to show love often miss the mark? In this heart-opening conversation, Marriage & Family Therapist Lodovica Guidarelli joins us to unpack why emotional disconnection happens even in committed marriages, and how love languages, unspoken expectations, co-leadership, and even undiagnosed neuro...

What if the problem isn’t your partner… but that you’re both trying to love each other in old ways that no longer fit? In this gentle and reflective episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we explore how relearning love is essential after parenthood — especially when the spark feels faint, but the love is still there. You may not be in crisis, but if you're feeling more like roommates...

You’re doing your best—making lunches, folding laundry, handling bedtime routines. Yet, something feels off. Your partner seems distant, and despite your efforts, the emotional connection is missing.​ In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we delve into the complexities of love languages in the context of parenting. As responsibilities increase, couples often find themselves e...

Have you ever thought, “Why doesn’t love feel the same anymore?” Maybe you used to love hugs, long talks, or sweet texts… but now, you just want someone to do the dishes or give you five minutes alone. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. In today’s episode, we talk about something a lot of people wonder but don’t always say out loud: "Why doesn’t my love language work anymore after having k...

There’s a version of you that no one sees anymore—not because she’s gone, but because life got so loud and she got so quiet. In today’s episode, we sit down with that forgotten part of you and whisper: “I still see you.” Through real listener questions, I explore the hidden emotional terrain so many parents walk silently: from grieving lost freedom, to watching your partner thrive while you unrave...

Have you ever wondered if your back pain, discomfort during intimacy, or even that nagging feeling that “something’s just off” might be rooted in your birth experience — even if it happened years ago? In today’s powerful conversation, I’m joined by Lynn Schulte, a pelvic health physical therapist with over 30 years of experience and a pioneer in recognizing what she calls the “open birthing patter...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Who even am I anymore?”   Between sleepless nights, endless responsibilities, and taking care of everyone else, you may feel like you got lost somewhere along the way. That feeling of identity loss after kids and losing yourself in motherhood /fatherhood is more common than you think—but what if the goal isn’t to go back to who you were before? What if inst...

Have you ever felt lonely even with your partner sitting across from you or your child snuggled in your arms? Parenthood changes everything—including how connected you feel in your relationships. Many parents silently experience emotional disconnection, wondering why they feel distant from their partner or why friendships have faded. This episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast dives de...

You know that moment—you’re cleaning up after your kids, scrolling on your phone, and suddenly it hits you: “Who even am I anymore?” Maybe you used to have hobbies, dreams, and interests. But now, your whole identity seems wrapped up in being a parent. You love your kids, but… where did YOU go? If you’ve ever felt that way, you’re not alone. This parenthood identity crisis is more common than we t...

Parenting can push even the strongest marriages to their limits. In this deeply moving episode, Andrea Smith opens up about navigating parenthood stress while facing family challenges that tested her marriage connection. She shares the raw truth of what happens when one parent carries the emotional load alone—and the powerful shift that helped her and her husband reconnect. If you’ve ever felt dis...

In this episode, we explore the drastic changes in parenting styles over the years. The shift from the tough love approach of past generations to today's hyper-aware and overly-involved parenting has left many feeling emotionally drained and constantly questioning their adequacy as parents. The episode examines how to find a middle ground that allows for both parental and child development without...

We all want to do our best as parents, but perfect parenting might not be the gift we think it is. In fact, striving to be a perfect mother or a perfect father can actually create struggles for our kids later in life. This episode dives into why perfect parent syndrome leads to emotional dependence, low frustration tolerance, and unrealistic relationship expectations. So, what is good parenting? R...

Feeling distant from your partner after having a baby? You’re not alone. Many couples struggle with communication breakdowns after becoming parents, leaving them feeling disconnected, unheard, and even questioning their relationship. In this episode, we’ll dive into: ✔️ Why couples stop talking after kids (it’s not just sleep deprivation!) ✔️ The hidden reasons behind emotional distance in parenth...

Motherhood can be beautiful, but it can also bring unexpected challenges like postpartum rage—a raw and often unspoken aspect of the matrescence journey. In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the emotional layers of being an overwhelmed mom and why some moms experience feelings of anger and frustration in the early stages of motherhood. Through Sami's deeply personal story, we explore the i...

Postpartum anxiety affects 1 in 5 mothers, yet many don’t realize what’s happening. You’re not alone, and you’re not failing. Anxiety in new parenthood can feel like an unrelenting fire alarm, keeping you on edge and stealing the joy from those precious first months. This episode unpacks the emotional and physical toll postpartum anxiety takes and how societal pressures can make it worse. But ther...

Are you worried that your relationship is drifting apart after becoming parents? You’re not alone. Parenthood changes everything, including the way we connect with our partners. In this episode, I dive into the subtle yet powerful signs of emotional distance in relationships, especially for couples navigating the demands of parenthood. Using my 6-step framework, I’ll guide you through how to bridg...