The New Man

Do you have a gnawing feeling that you’re not “on track”? In this short video, I discuss the 3 step process that helps me and my coaching clients find clarity, alignment, and peace of mind. In this video: - Why so many folks feel lost - Why I was terrified after selling my first company - Why waiting for the perfect plan is a trap - How does money impact a purposeful life? - Why procrastination is...

Have you ever wondered why some folks call me ‘cat squeeze’? Probably not, but we’re doing to talk about it anyway. Today we discuss outgrowing old identities, finding our aliveness, and why our need to be more productive might be more about who we are vs how much we can do. In this short video: - My cat’s constipation and my role in relieving him - Constantly busy but never feeling like you’ve do...

Are you and your main squeeze lovers or just roommates? Is being lovers a priority or an afterthought? And what puts the brakes on your sex life? Today Alyson and I talk about the roles we play in our relationships — being roommates, business partners, co-parents, buddies — and how these roles kill our sex life. We also discuss ways to put our relationship problems into perspective so that we can...

Are you holding yourself back from the life and work you truly want? Do your fears of rejection or going broke keep you playing small? And would others think you were weird if they knew what truly lights you up? Today, my wife Alyson challenges me to go big. In this conversation, she pushes me to be more transparent about the work I feel called to do, we explore what keeps me playing small, and yo...

Are your goals too ambitious or are you holding yourself back? What is the opposite of imposter syndrome? And is there anyone in your life who challenges you to get out of your way? Optimize and Heroic founder, Brian Johnson returns for part 4 in our series that explores his growth process for launching a company aimed at changing the world. In today’s conversation we talk about ambition, assessin...

Are you lost or do you have a clear sense of purpose? Do you seek or avoid risk? And do you feel that you’re part of a group that you would die for? Sebastian Junger is no stranger to danger. As a war reporter, he experienced intense combat in Afghanistan and nearly lost his life in other parts of the globe. He’s documented his experiences in gripping films like Restrepo and Korengal as well as bo...

What if avoiding conflict was the thing killing your relationship and sex life? Are you being fake with your partner because you’re afraid to tell the truth? And is it possible to end a relationship with peace of mind? Relationship School founder Jayson Gaddis returns to discuss his new book Getting to Zero. Today he and I explore how conflict — especially avoiding conflict — is killing the relati...

Richard Schwartz introduced IFS or Internal Family Systems many years ago. Since then, the process has been used to heal, strengthen, and align the minds of many people — including myself. I use IFS daily in meditation as well as in my coaching practice to help clients confront their fears and get out of their own way. When it comes to being productive, I’ve found that IFS works much, much better...

When you tell her she’s being ‘hormonal’ why does it typically erupt in flames? Why do heated conversations have a tendency to spiral into infernos? And is it more important to win the fight or find a solution? It’s not always sunny in the Lanier household, and on this particular day, I stepped on a landmine. After the fire was brought under control, Alyson thought it might be helpful to turn on t...

Adrian Grenier (Vincent Chase from HBO’s Entourage). While Chase’s life was a fantasy, Adrian’s life behind the scenes had its share of ups and downs. Today we dive into his insatiable need to prove himself, the event that kicked his ass, and the way that he’s redefined himself since. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/08/adrian-grenier-investing You don't have to settle. Click here to learn th...

If you’re even remotely familiar with the world of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu then you know that Rickson Gracie is nothing short of a legend. He has a new book called “Breathe: A Life in Flow”. It’s a fantastic read not only because his life story is so interesting but also because it provides insights into what it means to be a spiritual warrior in our modern times. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021...

If you speak the truth could you lose your career? Is there more to life than striving for something we don’t already have? Dr. Zubin Damania aka ZDogg MD aka Doc Vader on breaking the mold, playfulness, and waking up. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/08/zdoggmd-zubin-damania-interview You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his co...

Ever feel like it’s you against the world? Does imposter syndrome give you the sense that at any moment it’s all gonna come crashing down? And how does this pressure to perform put us in a version of hell? Today we talk about pressure, perfectionism, and why we need to tune into our bigger selves to pull us out of hell. In this video: Dealing with pressure, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome Alw...

Are you focused on what’s important or just trying to put out fires? Do you ever get overwhelmed by all of the ideas in books and podcasts? And what does it mean to be ruthless? Optimize force of nature and CEO Brian Johnson and I catch up after his new venture, Heroic made history by becoming the first company to raise $5 million through crowdfunding. Today, we discuss dealing with pressure, dist...

Are you trying to achieve the impossible or just get through the week? What are the necessary keys for turning your work into play? And is grinding yourself to a pulp really the best way to accomplish a big goal? Best selling author and Flow Research Collective guru, Steven Kotler returns to discuss his new book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer. Today we explore the basics of peak...

Are you fixated on who you should be or who you truly are? Are you exhausted from trying to control so many things that seem out of your control? And what if your goals are really just lies rooted in fears and wounds? Kute Blackson returns to discuss his latest book, The Magic of Surrender. Today we dive into the crazy belief that it’s us against the universe, and we’ll learn why the key to puttin...

Does your partner give you a hard time because you want more sex? Do you blame your work or family for getting in the way of what has you feel alive? And what do power and pleasure have to do with us becoming grumpy old men? Shana James has coached many guys over the years through the intersection between owning our power and having the experiences we most want. She’s got a new book called Power a...

If you were wearing blinders, how would you know? What if your perspective on the world — instead of the world itself — was the thing truly holding you back? And why do some psychedelics have such a profound, lasting impact when combined with certain types of therapy? Dr. Will Van Derveer returns to discuss the pros and cons of psychedelic-assisted therapy as well as the possibilities for those of...

Is it dangerous to believe in god or something bigger than yourself? What do Mars colonization, cults, and the pursuit of heavenly salvation have in common? And why are so many of us feeling spiritually lost? Jamie Wheal is the co-author of Stealing Fire and the executive director of the Flow Genome Project. He’s returned to discuss his latest book, Recapture the Rapture. Today we talk about the w...

Tired of feeling uninspired or “meh?” Tired of hearing yourself bitch and complain? And why do we choose to “cover our ass, kiss ass, or prove we’re not an ass?” In this short video, we explore a simple process to use our mood to our advantage. In this episode: Why do moods matter? What causes our moods? Why are we giving up our power? The 3 step process to shift a lousy mood into empowering actio...

What if your normal level of stress, anxiety, or depression didn’t have to be normal? Do you feel like you’re using work, alcohol, or something else to outrun the uncomfortable thoughts in your head? And how can we use our stress and darkness to help us live a more full, rewarding life? Before Keith Kurlander became a founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Center, he struggled with serious mental h...

Do you struggle to follow through on the stuff you know you need to be doing? Do you get “shiny object syndrome” and change course too often? And do you fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others or putting folks on a pedestal? In this video, I share the story of a coaching client who used his business to transform his mindset and become more confident in the process. In this video: Lackin...

Are you following the herd or taking the lead? What’s driving your chronic dissatisfaction and frustration? And how can rubbing people the wrong way be an indicator that you’re on the right track? Heroic Public Benefit Corporation founder, Brian Johnson returns for part 2 in our series. Today we talk about trolls, anger, and using our deep fear of being misunderstood for a greater good. When we se...

Make the most of your competitive mindset without turning life into a pissing match. Tips for dealing with the fear of missing out, losing, and that time I got diarrhea from the FSU vs Miami football game. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/03/more-to-life-than-winning-losing You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clien...

Do you worry that you’re on the wrong path in life? Are you focused on goals and outcomes or doing what you actually enjoy? And what if there’s more to life than chasing money or the need to be important? Before Doc G became a writer and host of the Earn and Invest podcast, he was like many doctors. But after years spent chasing outcomes, money and building an ideal version of himself, he realized...