The New Man

Today Alyson and I explore how the positive desire to fix and change can turn us into what scientists call The Personal Growth Junkie. Whether it’s fixing your marriage, optimizing your health, or dialing in your productivity we explore what’s really driving that need — and what it might be costing you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/fix-your-life   COACHING   → To learn...

Whether it’s urinating yourself in public, surviving horrendous gas during a date, or just having spinach in your teeth during a zoom call, today Alyson and I share some true, embarrassing stories. We explore the importance of laughing at ourselves, how humor is a love language, and why our sense of humor tells us how tough we really are.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/humor-makes...

Alyson and I dig into the notion that being a successful woman is unattractive to quality men. We talk about why the drive that gets professional results can unintentionally kill attraction, the role of armoring, and why creating connection is just another skill to learn.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/06/men-successful-women   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with...

David Deida discusses how The Man of Zero differs from The Superior Man, why there’s more to life than purpose, and how meaningless is the doorway to something truly fulfilling.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/05/david-deida-man-of-zero   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier...

Is burnout killing your life force? Are you afraid changing things up will blow things up? And could burnout be driven by emotions we’re trying to avoid? In 2012, Jon Rose appeared on The New Man. At that time, he had stepped away from professional surfing and found his calling as a humanitarian. Everything seemed to be on track, except that the experiences in disaster and war zones were creating...

Are you worn out by the circus of uncertainty and anxiety? Do you find yourself wanting to check out, numb out, or just give up? And is it possible that all of this craziness is an opportunity to go deeper into what makes life truly meaningful? Philosopher and CEO Brian Johnson returns to discuss how we can break free from the forces distorting our thinking and draining our reality. We talk about...

Are you tired of fear, scarcity, and anxiety being a normal part of your life? Do you think trauma only comes from combat or some crazy intense experience? And if you’ve got some emotional challenges, will doing magic mushrooms with a backyard shaman make them go away? Will Van Derveer MD on healing anxiety, trauma, and what actually works.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/psychedel...

Why do so many capable people struggle to get things done? Learn to identify the roadblocks that hold us back and the necessary ingredients for getting things done.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/get-stuff-done   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonL...

Do you feel like your life is supposed to be bigger than it is? What would it mean if you weren’t exceptional? And why do so many successful folks still feel like they aren’t enough? Today Alyson and I explore why some people feel pressured to reach their full potential. We discuss the expectation to be exceptional, how fixating on the future kills our satisfaction, and why having what we truly wa...

Are you tired of being the one who just handles everything? Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I shouldn’t have to ask for help”? Or are you on the other side feeling like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Today Alyson and I discuss what’s really happening when things don’t feel fair in a relationship. We explore why score-keeping poisons a partnership, how doing whatever they want make...

Is it clear that something has to change, but you’re afraid to make a move? How do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel? And how does “hope” fuel anxiety and keep us stuck? Whether it’s our business, a relationship, or whatever, we tend to stay stuck in a painful place because we don’t want to do the hard thing. Today, Alyson and I discuss why we avoid reality, how we can reclaim our powe...

Whether it’s your looks, your job, or whatever — do you feel a lot of pressure to get it right? Do you ever beat the hell out of yourself for making a mistake? And if we all know that no one’s perfect, then why do so many of us think we should be? Today Alyson and I dig into perfectionism: how we get wired for it, why we let it abuse us, and why striving to get it right makes it harder for us to h...

Do you know what you really want in life or are you just reacting to whatever comes your way? Do you do things because they actually strengthen you or because some guy on a podcast said you should do them? And how can we get out of autopilot to begin the process of forging our own path? Today we dig into a question that scares a lot of people: What do you want? So many of us are firefighting, reac...

Do you care more about the relationship than your partner does? Does it seem like something else is getting their attention? And are your efforts to create time together actually pushing them away? Today Alyson and I talk about what it means when one partner is always busy or distracted. We explore why pushing for more connection can actually drive them away and why choosing to be busy may sometim...

Are the holidays a source of stress and dread for you? Do you feel boxed in by family obligations? And does the thought of doing things differently feel like it would blow up the whole season? Today Alyson and I dig into the pressure, guilt, and expectations that show up this time of year. We talk about why it’s so hard to break old patterns, what drives the “I have to…” mindset, and how to start...

Are you afraid of being trapped in a sexless marriage? Does your partner treat sex like it’s just another chore? And what are the ways you’re killing your sex life without even knowing it? Today Alyson and I discuss sex — or the lack of sex — in long term relationships. We identify some of the ways we unconsciously kill attraction, what might truly be in the way, and why avoiding the issue just ma...

Why does talking about money with your partner feel so loaded? Why can financial conversations turn into full-blown fights? And what if the real issue isn’t money at all? In this episode, Alyson and I explore why finances are one of the biggest sources of stress — and even breakups — in relationships. We talk about how money has tested our own marriage, the hidden meanings we attach to it, and wha...

Why do so many women chase the jerk but overlook the nice guy? Do you ever lose yourself once you’re in a relationship? And what does it mean when a man’s powerful at work but neutered in the bedroom? Today, Alyson and I dig into why so many guys struggle with relationships, power, and emotions. We breakdown what it means to be a modern integrated male as well as the ideal balance of brains, heart...

Why does trying to be a “real man” scream insecurity? Why do so many guys turn into neutered, “yes dear” pushovers? And could all this talk about masculine and feminine energy be a big distraction? Today Alyson and I break it down. What do people really mean when they talk about masculine and feminine energy? Why do some swear it’s the secret to passion, polarity, and purpose? And what if the whol...

Do you know what needs to be done but fail to follow through? Does life constantly feel like there’s just too much to do? And are you waiting for everything to be done before you can really enjoy your life? Today Alyson and I share a simple way to look at our mindset and understand why we make life harder than it needs to be. Whether it’s our inner visionary, manager, or soldier, chances are if yo...

Do you have someone in your life that, no matter what you do, it’s always your fault? Do you often walk on eggshells, worried the next thing you say will set them off? And at what point does “difficult” cross the line into a personality disorder? Today, Alyson and I dive into one of the toughest, most confusing topics in relationships: personality disorders. Borderline, narcissistic, and other dis...

Have you ever hit a big win…and felt nothing? Have you chased success, only to realize it was shallow or meaningless? And what happens when we finally start living in alignment with our soul instead of our ego? Today, Alyson and I dive into success, comparisons, and the art of getting over yourself. We talk about who we are underneath the urge to protect, please, and prove, and why it’s actually a...

Do you have a voice in your head telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? Why does this “tyranny of should” drain our aliveness, passion, and connection? And how might your life change if you weren’t afraid to be who you truly are? Today, Alyson and I talk about how we all “should” on ourselves and each other. We explore how this can leave us feeling trapped and emotionally constipated—and wh...

Do you treat the pizza delivery guy with more kindness than your partner? Do you frequently bicker or cut each other down with biting humor? And how is this disrespectful behavior killing your aliveness, connection, and sexual spontaneity? Today Alyson and I discuss the all too common problem of disrespect, resentment, and contempt in relationships. We explore how we can ditch the sniping and bick...

Do you feel like you keep getting stuck in the same old arguments? What drains our aliveness more than work? And what if the thing killing your sex life had nothing to do with sex? Today Alyson and I reveal one of — if not the — biggest killers of aliveness, intimacy, and trust. It’s the drama triangle. We explore what it truly is, how it keeps us from finding solutions, and what you can do to pul...