The New Man

What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction? Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster? And is there more to life than protecting our egos? If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all...

If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation? Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off? And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation? In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situa...

Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives? Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others? And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships? Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and...

Are you with someone because you really want them or because you’re more afraid to be alone? Are you settling for junk food relationships that never satisfy and leave you feeling empty? And how does loneliness drive us to choose lousy partners? Relationships are hard and the only way to learn is to get in the mix. Today Alyson and I find some friction when it comes to dating and playing the field....

Is the purpose of therapy to just dig up junk from your past? We talk about why many folks — including therapists we know and love — find the conventional form of therapy to be limiting. Is there another possibility? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/frustrated-with-therapy COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about w...

Can a nerd become a stud? Alyson and Tripp react to a movie called The Hitman and the topic of reinventing ourselves. This leads us to discuss pickup artists, neutered men, and handling our inner critic. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/reinvent-yourself COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson...

Do you trust your gut when making decisions? Author, entrepreneur, and former Navy SEAL commander Mark Divine (Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life) discusses the power of embracing our emotions, intuition, and spirituality. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/mark-divine-uncommon COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com →...

What’s going to happen to you after you die? Is death something you ignore or something you use to enjoy your days more? And are near death experiences proof of an after life or just the brain going apeshit because it’s losing oxygen? Sebastian Junger is no stranger to death. As a war correspondent he survived an IED attack on his vehicle and spent a grueling stint in the treacherous Korengal Vall...

Do you feel pressured to get married because you’ve been with someone a long time? Are you and your partner kicking the can down the road so you don’t have to face the reality of your challenges? And how much longer can you tolerate your relationship if it doesn’t change for the better? Today’s question comes from someone whose relationship is stuck in a rut. Their sex life is boring. They avoid d...

Is FOMO driving you to constantly be busy, busy, busy? Is it scary to admit that the hustle and grind is killing your motivation? And when is our resistance trying to help us? Today Alyson and I discuss motivation, resistance, and the cult of success. We talk about how it’s necessary to learn how to thrive in the world, but ultimately we have to stop jumping through hoops, forge our own path, and...

Do you ever feel like something is just not quite right with your life? Do you have most of what you could want but still feel like something’s missing? And who are you underneath that ambition to succeed and avoid failure? Today Alyson and I talk about why so many folks feel empty inside even though they have amazing lives on the outside. We discuss what it means to find our gold, to reveal our e...

Does your BS meter keep you from having a spiritual life? Are mystical experiences just our brain chemicals fooling us to believe we have a connection with God? And is spirituality something you can cultivate on your own or should you depend on a tradition or guru? Today my wife Alyson and I talk about religion, spirituality, and just how common it is to wrestle with this stuff. I share a bit abou...

Is marriage a death sentence for the part of you that is wild? Alyson and I dive into the topic of domestication. We explore how responsibilities and structure are necessary, but they don’t have to kill what makes us feel alive and free. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/04/marriage-domestication COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn...

Is watching porn the same as cheating on your partner? Alyson and I try to help someone who is at odds with his partner about porn. Instead of debating who is right or wrong, what if we understood what’s driving us to seek porn in the first place? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/04/porn-cheating What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit http...

Navy SEAL Jeff Boss struggled to find his way as a civilian. Self-medicating with booze and women, he believed healing was for the weak -- until he couldn’t take it anymore. Today he helps those who struggle with the demons that plague us all. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/03/jeff-boss-healing-warriors What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. V...

Do you believe in soul mates or is that just some rom com BS? And what relationship advice would have helped your younger self avoid a huge headache? Tripp and Alyson discuss past relationship failures and what it may really mean to have a soul mate. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/03/soul-mate What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https...

Alyson and Tripp discuss trying to improve ourselves by going to war with ourselves. What really helps us attain the emotional peace we hope that victory will bring? Plus, embarrassing stories about Tripp's many blind spots. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/02/at-war-with-yourself What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www. TrippLa...

Do you have an amazing collection of books but suck at taking action? Today’s call is with a personal growth junkie. He can easily spend hours pouring through books and podcasts, but when it comes to taking action it’s like pulling teeth. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/taking-action What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www....

Commitment Issues: What would make you excited to commit to a relationship? In today’s coffee date, Alyson and Tripp Lanier talk about radical honesty early on and why being out of alignment on the big stuff dooms us to struggle with the small stuff. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/commitment-issues-2 What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. V...

Do you wish you could change something about your partner? Alyson and I flounder through a conversation about commitment, refusing to be the bad guy, and why it’s so important to keep your side of the street clean. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/changing-your-partner What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www. TrippLanier.com...

Is meditation just a way to escape the discomfort and uncertainty of life? Today my wife Alyson talk about what drew me into decades of spiritual practice. There’s the good and the not so good. So why do I keep doing it after all these years? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2023/12/meditation-2 What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://ww...

Alyson and Tripp Lanier share a coffee and discuss Tripp’s spiritual path, making sense of science and spirituality, and white guys with dreadlocks. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2023/12/science-spirituality What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www. TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for m...

What truly motivates us to be more successful? An emotional call with a guy who has a checkered past plus damage to repair with his family. We start off talking about making money but quickly reveal what’s driving his need for success. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2023/11/approval-of-others What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www...

Ever feel like you’re playing the wrong game in life? Heroic CEO Brian Johnson on his new book Areté: Activate Your Heroic Potential plus a challenge that nearly sank his business — and millions of dollars — days before the product launch. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2023/11/brian-johnson-arete What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https:...

How to Beat Procrastination. Today’s call is with a guy who’s sick of allowing procrastination to get the best of him. He sets tons of goals but doesn’t follow through. We look at his mindset, his excuses, and punch through his resistance. Immediately. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2023/10/procrastination-action What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course n...