The Muse's Lab

By now, if you're on social media, you've heard about Megan Thee Stallion’s breakup. Adjacent to that, there's a lot of chatter about parasocial relationships (cause we always ride for Meg) and the risk of putting your relationship on display. In this adventure, I explore why so many of us were invested in Meg’s happiness, the infinite disdain of men playing in women's faces, and a reframe on lovi...

Welcome back to another adventure at The Muse's Lab Pod. This episode was inspired by two posts, one from Farha Khalidi and Elianne the @tiwtchy.witch who, in their own way, brought up key points about heauxism as a derogatory label and the push for modesty through the privatization of sex. Both posts highlight Queen Jezebel and led me down a path of exploration. In this podcast, you'll find refer...

Shout out to consistency! In this episode, I take a look at love, romance, and safety from the perspective of an ADHDer, who’s been out of the dating scene for some years. Inspired by ADHD content creator Brittany Elizabeth, I challenged the old adage of love feeling like “butterflies” and called flag on the play. Tying those butterflies to some of my most harmful experiences, I share my journey t...

I’m back, muses! In this episode, I share a bit of why I’ve been gone so long (TLDR; adulting is kicking my arse). The woes of corporate life once again, that still leave me overstimulated and under-creative. Life at peak adulting has left me touch-deprived, craving intimacy, and wrestling with how to date, socialize, and rebuild a social life after years of focusing on getting back into a stable...

And... we're... back! This week's episode covers a touchy subject: relationships and new age spirituality. I'ma be honest, it's effin' up your romantic relationships. Concepts like soulmates, twin flames, and soul ties, not only complicate relationships, but often lead to toxic dynamics, unrealistic expectations, and a lack of accountability. I also get into how these concepts and thinking may pre...

Here's another mini audio journal. As a caregiver, I've become contemplative about myself, my mental health, and how that impacts the future me. For National Minority Mental Health Month, I address the stigmas in the Black community, while also bringing some context to why we're here in the first place. I share my real time experience navigating mental health challenges with my elders and myself....

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Pod! I must say, it's been a while since I had an episode turned therapy session, but I've been quite reflective of my past dating experiences and wanted to talk through them. In this week's adventure, I dive into the complexities of dating, reflect on some of my past relationships, share the lessons I've learned along the way, as well as some chal...

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast! In this adventure, I unpack my feelings around community engagement, civic duty, and re-engaging with a community that has harmed me. While exploring this personal journey, I talk about the complexities of being a disruptor in a space that often resists change, as well as the importance of reciprocity in a space of activism and the exhaust...

Welcome back to another episode of The Muses Lab Podcast! In this episode, I share my return to home to pleasure-centric content and begin with exploring binary thinking of sex and pleasure through the lens of the Madonna-whore complex. Key themes include: sexual sovereignty, the importance of community in personal growth, and the importance of spectrum of in sexual expression. I offer some soluti...

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast. It's been a while since I've visited the topic of sex, but this time, I'm opening up about my personal experiences and the complexities with navigating sex from a 40-year old (40+ really) POV. A few key topics I touch on include: celibacy, the importance of sexual sovereignty, and the challenges of maintaining sexual desire and awareness t...

Welcome back to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast. This week, I explore the 'root' or 'fruit' archetype that we may or may not realize we engage and identify with as a social identity. Key points of emphasis include the importance of balance and harmony between these identities, integration, and remembering yourself as the "muse" to use your own experiences to cultivate both identities in...

I'm continuing my exploration of devotion as a praxis, and working through how it can be an alternative to discipline. This one is definitely for my ND babes who have challenges adopting and maintaining discipline. In this episode, I define what I believe devotion and discipline are and dive into how they intersect and differ. Amid the rigidness of discipline, I offer a shift towards a more pleasu...

Welcome back to your regularly weekly scheduled episodes! This week, I revisit an old post on Threads about navigating the dating pool with ADHD. I unpack the societal pressures of adulting and express my desire for deeper connections and understanding in relationships, while also addressing my fears and insecurities. I get transparent about my need for compassion, along with my boundaries for tho...

*taps mic* Poppin' in the Lab to check-in and I invited Dr. Candice back on the podcast to talk about her now published book: Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation . Together we explore the importance of scientific research in understanding sexual wellness, particularly for Black women, and the concept of 'sexual seasonings,' the evolution of sexual tastes, a...

Welcome back, muses! In this episode, I chat it up with Sam Scharrer aka THEE Vibe Caster and we're talking archetypes and how they shape our personal journeys. We touch on the balance between being free-spirited and pragmatic, the impact of anxiety on decision-making, and the challenges faced in corporate environments, that ultimately lead to a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We al...

Who knew being happy would be a challenge, but here I am as the outlier. There's a lot of glow up happening for me, but I can't shake the feeling of fear to be happy for myself; so, I'm opening up and sharing my struggles with joy and how it impacts my nervous system. Also, I explore difference between managing emotions and embodying them, with an emphasis on being present and authenti...

Welcome to our second Astrology Talk of 2025! In this episode, Min. Kailyn Davillier discusses the astrological landscape for March with a focus on the retrogrades of Venus and Mercury, the impact of eclipses, and the significance of personal growth and collective justice. She explores how these cosmic events influence communication, skills, and boundaries, while emphasizing the interconnectedness...

Welcome to The Muse's Lab Podcast! In this episode, I unpack the complexities of loyalty from a Leo's lens and deep dive into the emotional vulnerabilities tied to loyalty, the desire for acknowledgment, and the potential detriment. It's been a while since I hit a story time, but get your tea and notepads together for some prompts to help bring us to self-awareness, boundary setting, and metrics t...

We're back with part 2 of our Astrology Talk with Min. Kailyn Davillier. Here, we talk a deeper dive into Saturn and Neptune, and discuss how to best work with these outer planets. We tackle the collective challenges faced by society, the importance of boundaries in personal growth, and the need for accountability in creative endeavors. While the astrology isn't always unicorns and sugar plum faer...

Welcome to the first of many Astrology Talks with our official resident astrologer—Kailyn Davillier. In part 1 of our talk, we begin to explore the soon to be Neptune and Saturn transit in Aries. Amid the Pluto in Aquarius conversations, these two transits are simply skipped over. We take a deep dive into how these planetary movements influence personal growth, collective challenges, along with th...

Welcome to another episode of The Muse's Lab Podcast! This one is for my Gen Xers and millennials, we're talking sexual health, sovereignty, and the benefits of "heauxing responsibly." While we know our body goes through changes once we hit perimenopause, what we don't realize is our lovely "pocketbook" experiences some wild changes of its own. Self-pleasure is no longer gluttonous or sinful, it's...

A new wave of spirituals are awakening and it's time to ahead of the game, before the "snake oil sellers" get their grubby hands on them. In this episode, I discuss the resurgence of spiritual gifts, particularly during the Pluto in Aquarius transit, with an emphasis on recognizing and navigating these gifts and finding supportive spiritual communities. In the right community, you'll learn that ap...

Welcome to another episode of The Muse's Lab Pod! Our muse for this week is Tanya Hayles—host of the Event Bestie Podcast and co-founder of Black Mom's Connection. In this episode, we explore being multifaceted beings as the key to unlocking joy, while tackling the importance of representation and community for Black mothers, the complexities of navigating spaces for Black voices, and the...

Welcome to 2025! We're back in the game and this time I explore the concept of world building, in the context of personal narratives and self-fulfilling prophecies. Using my own experience, I share my experiences with relationships, anxiety, and the narratives I create in my head that often lead to misunderstandings, isolation, and assumptions. While working through this complex system I creat...

For the all the single folks, particularly those who have experienced a celibacy journey or done shadow work, the process of completing the cycle through integration isn't discussed the way it needs. In this episode, I explore what it looks like to apply what you've learned and the importance of integration when returning to the dating scene. ____ For more information or to collab, email shavaughn...