The Motyv Podcast

For men who feel stuck: here’s how to tell if you’re actually growing. How do you know if you’re actually making progress—especially when it doesn’t feel like it? In this episode, Shaden breaks down the difference between real growth and emotional noise, and gives you practical ways to measure progress without spiraling into shame. We talk about why progress often feels slow, what to track (and wh...

Men dealing with lust and p*rn are busy and stressed. Time is hard to find, and therapy is hard to afford. The same men also feel numb, infuriated with relapse, and go through an endless cycle of pain and shame. They need tools, but don’t know where to get them. This episode is a deep explanation of the entire Liberate course, built to solve all those problems.

In this powerful episode, men’s mental health expert, Shayden Bertagnolli, explores the profound impact of gratitude on men's mental health. Drawing from personal experiences, biblical insights, and the inspiring story of Holocaust survivor Eddie Jocko, he reveals how focusing on what we have—rather than what we lack—can heal bitterness, strengthen faith, and lead to personal wholeness. The episod...

In this episode Shayden Explains a core struggle so many men face — feeling like love has to be earned. That belief creates shame, emotional isolation, and can lead to addiction and self-destruction. But there’s a way back. My mission is simple: Help men rediscover who they are, heal what’s been hidden, and walk in real freedom. If you’ve felt stuck, numb, overwhelmed, ashamed, or unsure who you’r...

This episode of the Motyv podcast features Shayden Bertagnolli discussing a therapy session he had with a client named Joe who opened up about his struggles with mental health. Shayden shares Joe's lengthy list of negative and self-defeating thoughts to illustrate how writing them down and vocalizing them can be incredibly liberating. The hosts discuss common issues men face in seeking help, the i...

This podcast discusses how understanding opposites can help overcome problems like anxiety, shame, and a lack of belonging. The hosts explore how the true opposite of anxiety is trust in God, and how vulnerability can help men overcome shame instead of constantly seeking approval. They discuss the importance of vertical principles like belonging to God rather than horizontal fitting in. The hosts...

Shayden interviews his friend Eric Thompson about his experience living with ALS. Eric discusses how his diagnosis has changed his perspective, making him more compassionate towards himself and others. He shares his struggles with loss of independence and maintaining hope in the face of ongoing suffering. Eric emphasizes the importance of living in the present moment and finding gratitude for what...

In this episode, the speakers discuss their daily routines and the importance of small disciplines in building structure and focus over time. They explore the relationship between busyness, worry, and avoidance, emphasizing the need for self-care, rejuvenation, and downtime. The speakers share personal strategies for prioritizing family, work, and rest while maintaining boundaries. They encourage...

Shayden and Blake sit down and talk about the new direction of the Motyv Men program.

 In this episode, Shayden Bertagnolli sits down with his friend Erik Thompson to have an open and honest conversation about Erik's experience living with ALS. Erik shares powerful insights he has gained about finding meaning through hardship by focusing on gratitude, acceptance and living in the present moment. He discusses the lessons he has learned about relationships, toughness and embracing li...

In this episode, licensed therapist Shayden Bertagnolli delves deeply into the nuances of shame and how it can hold men captive. He discusses shame as an emotion, a state of being, and a thought process ("shaming") used to falsely atone. Shayden offers insight on how shame becomes a lens through which many men view themselves and the world. He challenges listeners to become aware of shame and sham...

In this episode, hosts Shayden Bertagnolli and Blake discuss how resentment and blame can hold people captive in unfulfilling relationship patterns. They guide listeners through an exercise of identifying the benefits of resentment and the disadvantages of accountability and empathy. Their goal is to help listeners gain insight into their own resentments so they can be liberated from those unhelpf...

In this episode, Shayden shares lessons from a men's group discussion about trusting God's timing for healing past wounds. He encourages listeners to slow down and experience God's love and presence now rather than waiting for full healing. Shayden challenges people to thank God for miracles not yet received and to consider what differences their lives would show if miracles occurred.

Shayden Bertagnolli hosts a discussion on betrayal trauma with Sadie and Phyllis. They discuss the impact of betrayal such as infidelity or pornography use on relationships from the perspective of women. Key topics include common feelings and messages women internalize after betrayal, the difference between simple and complex trauma, rebuilding trust over time, and finding hope through focusing on...

Shayden leads a discussion about gratitude with Sadie, Steve, and Jordan. They discuss how gratitude is not merely appreciation, but something that possesses you. Questions such as “how do you know if you have enough gratitude?” and “how to facilitate deeper gratitude?” are focused on. It’s a quick and to the point, so you can get on with your holiday preparations! 

How things are said and defined really matters. You need to know the differences between, attraction and lust, depression and sadness, and niceness and kindness. They matter and most people don’t know the difference. Listen as Shayden, Jordan, and Blake discuss these important dichotomies.

Shayden and Blake talk about how sometimes we forget to thank God for ourselves. They also talk about the Power of Christ to heal mental health struggles, and the importance of having something positive to put our focus on.

Playfulness is more than just laughing and having a good time. Most men lose their natural playfulness for various reasons. The playful consequences in relationships, parenting, and individual life are discussed. Shayden, Blake, and Steve discuss these reasons and propose why men and the women in their lives need and want to see more playfulness. 

Shayden, Blake, Steve, and Sadie reflect on their own experiences as parents and therapists, shedding light on how a balance between support and autonomy is crucial for a child's growth. They discuss the impact of over-rescuing and enabling kids, as well as the importance of allowing them to tackle challenges on their own.

From milking it shamelessly to searching for that precious moment of vulnerability, Shaydon and Sadie delve into the deeper emotional and psychological aspects at play. Discover the delicate balance between needing a break, feeling shame, and the desire for mercy. They offer insights into how the "Man Cold" can be an opportunity for men to let go of their constant performance pressure and for wome...

In this podcast, you'll delve into the concept of burnout, which affects many of us at different points in our lives. The hosts offer a refreshing take on the distinction between burnout and exhaustion, shedding light on the vital role of recognizing our values and living a life that aligns with them. By sharing their own experiences and insights, they guide you through the process of reorienting...

The hosts offer practical advice on how to work through the internal struggle of maintaining a balance between our light and dark selves. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, focusing on becoming the person you want to be, and offering the benefit of the doubt to others.

In this episode, Shayden and Blake discuss the importance of understanding behavioral patterns and core beliefs in overcoming struggles like pornography. They explain how to map out a pattern and identify the core beliefs that drive problematic behaviors. They emphasize the role of connection and compassion in breaking unhelpful patterns and beliefs.

Is your mind running you or are you running your mind? Did you know you aren’t your mind? The knowledge in this episode will blow your mind! Pun intended. The challenge and announcement at the end is a must hear.

Shayden and Blake talk about staying tough while still being able to express your emotions, compastion vs acceptance, and learning how to deal with emotions like sadness and boredom.