The Modern Phoenix

In this soulful December episode, Gervase pulls back the curtain on her decision to shift The Modern Phoenix Podcast to a monthly publishing schedule and the deeper question underneath it: When will it be enough? From business to motherhood to Black Friday shopping spirals, she explores how capitalism and patriarchy train women to measure our value by how much we do, produce, and perform—and why i...

What if you planned your day around what lights you up—on purpose? In this raw solo, Gervase shares how a rooftop birthday party became a masterclass in scheduling for joy instead of obligation. From proactively blocking her calendar and rescheduling a client to delegating kid pickup and coaching a friend out of "show face" energy, she models what it looks like to let inner knowing lead. Expect gr...

When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me is a raw solo where Gervase shares two real-life vignettes—a Zoom with a master lawyer taken from a Costco aisle and a mama-bear moment about her child's bully—to show exactly how she moves from rumination to inner knowing. You'll hear her NPR framework (Notice–Pause–Resource), the shift from outside eyes to inside eyes, and the embodied practice of tak...

What if "retreat" isn't a luxury—but spiritual hygiene? In this raw solo, Gervase shares what happened on her Peru retreat in the Sacred Valley: the fire ceremony that helped her release an undercurrent of fear (10% at a time), how she anchored the steadiness of her inner mountain in her body, and why healing in circle, not solo, changes everything. Expect real talk on motherhood, anxious attachme...

What if the reason you feel so exhausted isn't because you're "not strong enough," but because you've been conditioned to believe you should do it all by yourself? In this raw solo episode, Gervase dismantles the myth of hyper-independence and shares why leaning back—literally and metaphorically—is the medicine women need to restore balance. From nervous system regulation to generational imprints,...

What if the real story of your trauma isn't the one you keep telling yourself in your head — but the one your body has been holding all along? In this solo episode, G shares how trauma patterns show up in our daily lives (especially as mothers, makers, and women holding it all), and why breaking cycles requires more than mindset work. Drawing on focalizing training and the wisdom of teacher Nick W...

What if the chaos in your life wasn't the problem—but the pressure you pile on top of it? In this raw and personal episode, Gervase shares the story of her unexpected home renovation, how it pushed her to the edge of her money stories and nervous system's capacity, and the surprising lessons it taught her about money, motherhood, and meeting upper limits. Instead of grinding harder, she discovered...

What if that voice telling you to "be more productive" isn't your inner wisdom but internalized capitalism? Most of us are living with constant pressure to optimize, monetize, and harvest every moment of our lives, and we don't even realize it. In this raw episode, Gervase shares a vulnerable moment from her own life that perfectly illustrates how capitalism has trained us to believe we don't get...

What if the reason you constantly feel drained isn't because you're doing too much, but because you're doing things in a way that goes against your natural design? Most of us are running on empty, trying to force ourselves into systems and rhythms that work for other people—but not for us. This week, I sat down with human design expert and best-selling author Erin Claire Jones to explore how under...

Let's be real: the world doesn't need another "put-together" woman who's mastered pretending. It needs you—whole, honest, luminous, messy, intuitive, powerful-as-hell you. That's why we're bringing back this special episode -- straight from the Vault! G goes all in—sharing raw personal stories and client transformations to show you the sacred evidence of what's possible when you stop hiding parts...

What if the reason you struggle to speak from your heart isn't because you don't know what to say, but because you've forgotten how to connect with yourself first? Most of us want deeper connection, but we're so stuck in our heads, running on adrenaline instead of presence. This week, Gervase sits down with best-selling author and international consultant Katie Hendricks to explore how to make the...

What if you came to Earth with a divine design and a map of your life already written in the stars? This week, Gervase sits down with Carol Allen, a Vedic astrologer with 34 years of experience to explore how this ancient system can offer profound insights into your life's purpose, relationships, and spiritual path. This isn't your typical horoscope chat. Carol shares how Vedic astrology—practiced...

What if every challenging experience in your life—the difficult relationships, the heartbreak, the family drama—wasn't happening TO you, but was actually teaching you where you still needed to grow? This week, Gervase shares the spiritual psychology framework that has helped her reframe triggers, move through some of life's most traumatic events, and no longer be affected by other people's percept...

What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you're overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn't willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up. This isn't about numbing out or pushing through. It's about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out...

For this week's podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we c...

Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achiev...

Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you're liked? Or so you don't make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week's episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to "perform" and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You'll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from thi...

The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn't you… but the unrealistic expectations you've internalized? In this week's episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment. She'll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom...

Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or  feel paralyzed by indecision. You know you're triggered, but you're not so sure what to do next. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intelle...

Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isn't working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume you must be the problem? That there's something wrong with you, that you're not trying hard enough, that if you were just different, everything would fall into place? This episode of The Modern Phoenix is a wake-up call. Gervase shares a raw and powe...

How often do you hold back, soften your words, or twist yourself into knots just to make sure no one gets upset? Whether it's navigating a tough conversation with your partner, setting boundaries with your kids, or simply taking time for yourself without guilt, many of us have been conditioned to prioritize other people's comfort over our own truth. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase i...

Have you ever been told that you're too emotional? Or do you avoid crying at all costs because you don't want to look weak? In this week's episode, Gervase flips this narrative upside down, offering a powerful reframe that reveals why crying is actually a profound act of healing, as well as an opportunity for connection and growth. Listen in as she breaks down the societal indoctrinations and pers...

When it's deeper than talk therapy, it needs a mind-body-soul approach. This week on the Modern Phoenix, Gervase shares insights from her mental health journey turned full-blown personal evolution. Listen in as she opens up about how transitioning from mind-based therapy to soul and body-centered practices like focalizing, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation opened new paths to healing...

The transition into motherhood reshapes not just our roles, but our very beings. In this episode, Gervase Kolmos sits down with Jessi Harold, author of Mothershift, to explore the transformative journey known as matrescence. Jessi shares her insights on how becoming a mother can be both a radical shift and a rite of passage filled with growth, challenges, and deep self-discovery. Together, they di...

Navigate the demands of the new year with greater ease, intention, and authenticity. In this week's grounding episode, Gervase invites you to reflect, reset, and reconnect with the cycles of nature around (and within) you. She explores the effect of the Winter Solstice, our changing assignments for this season, and discusses how aligning with nature's rhythm can help us navigate the demands of mod...