The Missing Peace Presents : The Thought Trap

In this episode, I explore something subtle but deeply human — how psychology can quietly pull a fast one on us. Using a simple phone metaphor, I invite you to notice the difference between thoughts and feelings showing up… and who you are beneath them. 👉 Course - The Gentle Shift 5 day Audio Habit Course https://www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com/want-to-shift-a-habit 👉Join my mailing list 👉 htt...

I’m making January all about habits. Emotions and feelings are at the heart of how habits really work, so it felt like the right place to start. This episode opens a month of gentle conversations around habits — without willpower. 👉 Course - The Gentle Shift 5 day Audio Habit Course https://www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com/want-to-shift-a-habit 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.c...

“I’ve had lots of physical back pain and I’ve noticed how it always seems to flare at the most inconvenient times. I’ve done lots of physio work and my back is probably the best it’s been, but there’s still this constant worry in the background that it might come back. How do I stop living like that?” 👉 Course - The Gentle Shift 5 day Audio Habit Course https://www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com/wa...

This is a personal share episode. As we come to the end of 2025, I was invited to do something that hadn’t occurred to me to do. I’m so glad I did — and I couldn’t think of someone more perfect to do it with. 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME, my 1:1 space https://www.beccagardner.com/new-page-2 👉Follow me on instagram https://www.instagram.c...

It’s December, and it feels very on theme to talk about presents. Not the kind you wrap — something even better :). In this episode, I explore why Christmas can feel harder than it needs to, how we quietly disappear into our heads, and why trying to control or quiet the mind never really works. We look at where our attention goes at this time of year, why that makes such a difference, and what bec...

In this episode of The Thought Trap , I sit down with former certified change coach Juliet O'Rourke for an honest, refreshing conversation about ADHD—beyond the labels, beyond the noise, and deep into the lived experience. We talk about Juliet’s personal journey: the confusion, the clarity, and the unexpected ways she found relief and resilience. Rather than focusing on strategies or fixes, we exp...

This week is your December habit taster — a tiny bite of what habits really are before our big January 2026 deep dive. We look at why habits kick in before you even notice, how your brain thinks it’s helping, and why none of it is personal. All I want you to do is peep at your own loops with Christmas-Eve child like curiosity. Listening after January? Yey, you are in for a treat....head straight t...

“I work 9 to 5 but I think about work all the time. How do I stop?” In this month’s Trap Talk, we’re not trying to “switch off” or control the mind. Instead, we explore why the mind keeps talking about work when you’re not even at work — and what happens when we simply peep at thought rather than follow it. Not to fix thinking, but to see it as mechanical, impersonal, and not our responsibility to...

In this episode, I’m joined by special guest Missy Maiorano, a Certified Change Coach , for a gentle conversation about the parts of ourselves we tend to hide or push away. Together we explore why we innocently do this, how the “better version” idea is made up, and what opens up when we let all pieces of ourselves welcome. 👉Missy's Website https://www.missymaioranocoaching.com/ 👉Missy's Facebook...

Ever notice how thoughts pile on like jumpers on a mild autumn night? (Check out the episode to know what the heck I mean here). In The Extra Layer, I explore how the mind innocently adds weight to what’s already here — and how peace, clarity, and insight begin to show up when we see through that extra layer. 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME,...

In this episode, I’m joined by Jo Barker for a warm and honest conversation about self-expression — and how it’s become a powerful route out of old patterns for her. We talk about the shifts that have unfolded in the short time we’ve known each other, how our chats on local radio opened unexpected doors, and what can happen when you stop holding back and let your voice lead the way. Jo is an intui...

"I made a mistake, I feel so much regret, I wish I had done it differently" We all make mistakes — but what if they were never really mistakes at all? In this Trap Talk episode, I talk about what’s really happening when the mind replays the past, and what becomes possible when we start to see it differently. 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME,...

I’ve been noticing how many unspoken rules seem to run life — things like “I should always be useful” or “I shouldn’t upset anyone. ” In this episode, I talk about the invisible rulebook we all seem to carry, and what shifts when we stop treating those rules as facts. If you’d like to explore this kind of reflection more deeply, you can find me at www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com — my coaching pra...

This episode is all about anticipation — that familiar spiral the mind goes into before a big change or event. My guest, Laura Bernann, shares a touching and honest story about her daughter heading off to college, and how easily our thoughts can race ahead, create stories, and stir up all sorts of emotions. It’s a beautifully human glimpse into how the mind tries to manage what hasn’t even happene...

This episode is a special one — I was honoured to have the lovely Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD , join me on The Thought Trap . We got up close and personal with thought and explored what becomes possible when we start to see what lies beyond it. In my personal journey and in my coaching, Amy has been fundamental. I hope you enjoy this exploration as much as I did. 👉Dr Amy's Silent Retreats and website ht...

A heartfelt moment with Alan Watts’ words that landed not just in my ears but in my whole body — an invitation to drop the Thought Trap and feel that YOU are already enough. 👉 Alan Watts - You Are Already Enough ://youtu.be/_ZPBGv2BG6U?si=-LbgCSVmvmj_6Mr3 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME, my 1:1 space https://www.beccagardner.com/new-page-2...

“I feel full of panic, worry, and anxiety 24/7.” If you’ve ever felt trapped in that storm, this Trap Talk is for you. Instead of trying to solve anxiety with more thinking, I point you toward something SO much simpler — dropping into the body, feeling the raw sensations, and discovering the calm that’s always here. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain: being back in life. 👉Join my ma...

When life feels loud and your mind is ramped up, the wisest move might be… doing nothing. Discover how resistance and restlessness can be signals to pause, slow down, and let clarity return. Do you have any questions, comments or curious about one to one private coaching work? 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME, my 1:1 space https://www.beccaga...

In this episode, I’m joined by two wonderful guests as we toss spirituality onto the table for some real, openhearted and honest conversation. In the spirit of “explore” from my PEEP approach, we broke down the stigma, looked at spirituality from three different perspectives, and gave it space to breathe. No rules, no right answers—just an invitation to see what lands for you and what looks true i...

This week’s episode has a different vibe. I’m sharing a short story I published last year, The Big Blue Boat . It follows Billy and his Grandad on a trip to the lake, offering a gentle reminder about resilience, emotions, and the calm that comes from seeing their passing nature. Join me for this story-time episode, and let’s discover together how even the smallest adventures can remind us of deepe...

How is it possible that I can be okay if I have an unwanted, unhelpful habit that won’t go away? In this Trap Talk, we look at the innocent trap of believing we need change before we can be okay. The truth is, you’re already okay. See what space opens up within you as I invite you into this week’s episode. 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME, my...

The mind shouts, wisdom whispers. This episode is about learning to notice the quiet guidance that’s already built into you. "The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life" 👉Join my mailing list 👉 https://www.beccagardner.com/free-audio 👉 Find out about HOME, my 1:1 space https://www.beccagardner.com/new-page-2 👉Follow...

Fear can look like it’s coming from the flight, the spider, the stage, or whatever your “thing” is. But when you look closer, it’s always the same pattern: a feeling in the body with a hitchhiker story attached. In this episode, we PEEP (Play, Explore, Experiment, Play) beneath the noise and see how fear is generated from the inside out — and how, once you see that, it gets a whole lot less convin...

In this episode, I’m joined by fellow Certified Change Coach Jess Smith for an honest, gentle exploration of fear — what it is, what it isn’t, and why it often feels so convincing. We talk about the sneaky ways fear shows up, how it can trap us in overthinking or hesitation, and how simply seeing it for what it is can shift everything. This isn’t about fighting fear or fixing it. It’s about gettin...

Ever find yourself thinking, “I should be further along by now”? Like you missed some invisible deadline and now you’re stuck in the wrong chapter? In this episode of Trap Talk, we unpack the sneaky mind chatter that you’re "behind" in life — and why that feeling is more about conditioning than truth. This isn’t about fixing the thought or powering through it. It’s about softening into what’s actu...