The Messy Part

Be where your feet are. Life circles back to familiar moments. When those moments are shared with the same community they become invitations to tell more thorough tales, ones that include triumphs as much as pitfalls. Sometimes it may feel scary to share an experience that you weren’t proud of, or one in which you didn't respond as you would have liked. What sharing offers, are people who can...

You can be over informed. In this episode, Adeline and Linda talk about data and how it makes them feel less than. Sometimes data about screen time, sleep habits or anything else just feels depleting. The data we receive encourages us, indirectly and directly, to optimize and constantly search for a perfect score even if it’s harmful to our well-being. Balance asks for equal attention. Harmony inv...

Levity is ours. In this episode, Adeline and Linda define levity; levity is proof of weightlessness, levity is learned, levity is ever present; levity is change. Levity is there if you reach for it; levity offers release; levity offers pause. Levity is a muscle; levity is an exhale; levity is the liminal space. Levity exists in the midst of things; levity is gentle; levity is kind; levity protects...

We can clearly talk to each other about anything. In this episode, Adeline and Linda find their way to intellectualizing boredom. They spend time exploring what holds their attention, only to discover how much passion their life is filled with. Their takeaway is that boredom is information to pivot and realign. Boredom asks you to reflect on how you spend your time and what fuels your energy. The...

People aren’t their worst moments. In this episode Adeline and Linda learn a new word together; equanimity: steadiness of the mind across circumstances. They spend the rest of the time grappling with what that looks like in practice, from the chaos of reality TV to a memoir they’re both reading. They learn there’s a distinction between finding the truth and telling the truth; verbalizing truth can...

You are not a robot. In this episode Adeline and Linda unravel their idea of discipline, disconnecting it from rigidity and control. Instead of something forced or performed they began to see discipline as a relationship, one that asks for attunement, honesty, and care. They spend time exploring their natural rhythms and flows, by asking themselves what discipline has looked like for them. They di...

The body knows, the body protects, the body is always a witness. In this episode, Adeline and Linda stop beating around the bush, and finally face their college experience.(Hint: The DRAMA) They have spent years building safety and trust in their friendship. As a result, they felt safe enough to lean in and untangle something intimate and violent. They explored all the ways that trauma changes you...

When we started this journey we committed to archiving our thinking and articulating what we were doing on and off -camera. The intention being to document the messy part of podcasting, relationships, friendships, and vulnerability. So far, we’ve learned: Ease is intuition. Iterate. Show Up. Stay in Conversation. Take a creative risk. Stay vulnerable. Be teachable. Choose and stay in your lane. St...

Anger is our fiercest protector, yet it is often misunderstood and underexplored. In this episode, Adeline and Linda define anger and peel back its many layers, recognizing the ways anger shows up quietly. It turns out they each have different relationships to angers long after an incident has passed. They realize they relate to anger in very different ways: for one, it feels final and contained;...

Care can be sustainable. On this episode, Adeline and Linda are still distinguishing the difference between caring and coping. They are learning to care for their communities in ways that feel supportive without consistently overextending themselves. This conversation is their persistent attempt to disrupt the endless cycle of showing up long past their capacity allows. They don’t want to turn int...

Repetition is a tool. We tend to forget that we see the world through our specific experiences and those memories color our present. In this episode, Adeline and Linda return to their roots. They spend the episode orienting themselves to each other by walking through their personal histories. In Cambridge and Coney Island, wealth and need lived side by side, classmates with abundance and neighbors...

You are what has come before you. In this episode, Adeline and Linda express a desire to start traditions of their own, while holding close to the ones that feel like second nature. They anchor themselves in the question, “what do we want to hold on to?” and spend the episode exploring traditions: the mundane ones, the unintentional ones, the sacred ones. They think deeply about what they want to...

Hair is care. Hair is community. It breaks and forgives. It teaches every lesson about self care and the consequences of not tending to yourself. It is something we take care of our entire lives. It demands our attention, discipline, compassion, admiration, and exploration. Our hair is not a third party. It is a living and breathing example of our health, our wellness, our desire to play, and our...

We did the best we could, with the year we were given. On this episode, Adeline and Linda, forgot what 2025 felt like and dug deep to remember. (Yay! Disassociation) They considered their highs and reaffirmed the things they are certain of. They spent some time centering wins because we’re programmed to focus on what falls apart. They know the shoe will drop, the anxiety will come. They practiced...

Not knowing is okay. On this episode Adeline and Linda practice learning in real time. Often not knowing something can feel embarrassing. They accept the challenge of learning in public. This episode is a testament to their commitment. They set out to have a serious conversation deciphering something hard and end up somewhere messy and playful. It was a good reminder to hold on to levity and laugh...

Rest is worthwhile and stillness is as necessary as movement. Even if we do not recognize it, our bodies know how to rest. It is one of those gifts we take for granted and something we have learned to deprioritize. In this episode, Adeline and Linda take a breath and ask themselves, 'Who would we be if we were well-rested?' They accept that moving their bodies prepares them for stillness....

When women don’t speak, we suffer. Research shows that 80% of women are more likely to develop autoimmune diseases when we suppress our rage and silence ourselves. In this episode, Adeline and Linda reflect on the stories they’ve inherited about womanhood, and how often they are unlearning and (learning) what women endure. Being a woman is complicated, beautiful, filled with pain, joy, community,...

Nothing that is worthwhile is done alone, we need each other. In this episode, Adeline and Linda reflect on what it means to practice relational and personal repair. If we are learning not to give up on people too quickly, perhaps we must also learn not to give up on people too soon. They talk through what skills they need to be in relationship. We owe ourselves a life of authenticity and the labo...

We are taught to focus on what needs to improve instead of cherishing what feels good. On the season opener, Adeline and Linda decide that celebration lives in the small moments. They sit with how awkward it can feel to be seen and honored by themselves and their communities. They grapple with that discomfort, and determine that it’s still worthwhile to learn how they want to be celebrated. Gratit...

It is important to name the things that cause us pain. In this episode, Adeline and Linda wrap up season two. They talk about grief, easy joys, and how you can always get to know someone in new ways no matter how long you’ve known them. And isn’t friendship meeting ourselves over and over again? They ask each other five questions: to share two truths and a lie, what they are currently grieving, wh...

Shhh: Our poverty is showing. Sadly, Adeline & Linda are not perfect but at least they recognize when their thinking has to change? On this episode, they work to disentangle their worth from their relationship to money and poverty. They acknowledge their scarcity mindset and wonder what abundance could look like. They talk about learning to align their rates with how much effort they’ve put in...

What happens when your community sees you bigger than you see yourself? In this episode Adeline and Linda, show some respect for how far they’ve come in this life (almost 3 decades woah) They talk about what is currently bringing them joy. They lean into a new lesson: being seen for who they are becoming, which means coming up against their insecurities. Messy Mantra #18: kindness is a tool worth...

We make mistakes so you don’t have to—case in point: burning out (you’re welcome!). In this episode, Adeline and Linda realize that burnout is a state of being, and they’re now choosing a different experience. They ask: how many times can someone be burnt out and not even know it? Because burnout sucks the fun out of everything. This conversation is a perfect example of them processing something i...

We tolerate more pain and abuse for ourselves than we would accept for our friends. (Huge deep breath) On this episode, Adeline and Linda finally talk about the relationships that made them resilient. They walk back down a path intentionally avoided and process their experiences, traumas, and lessons learned from unhealthy relationships. People have done some shitty things and Adeline and Linda ha...

You have to put energy towards things you’ve never seen. On this episode, Adeline and Linda are unsurprised that the world is shit AND find silver linings in the midst of it. They are fierce about holding onto stories of hope and healing. They consider how much their activism has transformed as they step into new chapters of adulthood. They grapple with questions around intention setting and the r...