The Marriage Jam

Self courage is often the hardest part in relationships. It requires you to be honest with yourself about what's been missing, what areas in your life need improvement... and most importantly what will make you feel like you have lived thoroughly. You've seen us put ourselves out there every week... and in return we've witnessed how courageous each of you are. Today we are being courageous togethe...

Joint bank accounts sound simple… until real life gets involved. In this episode of The Marriage Jam, Red & Shay answer a listener write-in about the stress, resentment, and emotional pressure that can come with combining finances in marriage. From feeling controlled by spending habits to trying to balance teamwork with independence, we talk honestly about why money conversations can become re...

In this episode of The Marriage Jam, we sit down to talk about something that comes up more often than people admit—feeling disconnected in a relationship and trying to find your way back to each other. We read a listener dilemma that really hit close to home. It’s about that slow drift that can happen when life gets busy, conversations get shorter, and you start feeling more like roommates than p...

What happens when we spend so much time worrying about tomorrow that we miss the life happening right in front of us? In this episode of The Marriage Jam , Red & Shay sit down for a real, down-to-earth conversation about learning to slow down, be present, and stop letting future stress steal today’s joy. Join a married couple keeping it honest about love, life, and the work it takes to grow to...

What happens when your mind is always five steps ahead of your life? In this episode of The Marriage Jam , Red & Shay get real about “Living In The Future” — and how constantly worrying about what’s next can quietly damage your relationship, your peace, and your ability to be present with the person you love. With their signature mix of humor, honesty, and heart, they share how this mindset sh...

What’s really holding your relationship back… the present moment, or the past you keep carrying into it? In this episode of The Marriage Jam , Red & Shay get real about how unresolved hurt, old arguments, and past versions of each other can quietly shape the way you love today. After 18+ years together, they share honest stories, hard lessons, and practical ways to stop reliving yesterday so y...

In this episode of The Marriage Jam , we’re talking about one of the hardest (and most freeing) things you can do in a relationship—letting go of what you can’t control. From your partner’s reactions to the outcome of tough conversations, we explore how holding on too tightly can create distance, and how surrendering control can actually bring you closer. Through real-life experiences and honest c...

What does starting a band have in common with starting a relationship? More than you think. 🎸❤️In this episode of The Marriage Jam , we explore the surprising parallels between building a band and building a lasting romantic relationship—from finding your rhythm and learning to communicate to handling conflict, trust, and growing together. Tune in for a heartfelt, relatable conversation about lov...

Have you & your partner gotten stuck in the 'frenemy" zone before? That stage where you're together... but there's been some stuff built up. And now instead of your partner it feels like things have changed? We've been there too. And the great news is you don't have to stay there! Let's jam!

Everyone has access to different sides of themselves and different energies come into play everyday based on what situation you're in. But do you easily shift back to your neutral self afterwards? And how does staying in one type of energy too long affect your home and your partner? Let's jam!

How do you keep going? Even when it's hard... Even when your tanks are low, and the environment isn't helping. How do you build momentum in the face of everyday life? Whether you're in a relationship or not, this applies to everyone! Let's jam!

Do you end up arguing over the same stuff on repeat? Do you leave your disagreements feeling better or worse? Today we're talking tips to help make your fights more productive! Ready? Set? Let's jam! Here's the link for Step Into Your Story with Carla Goldberg! https://open.spotify.com/show/6q3l3MDisBBADOsp9rzh3C?si=72cd3aac53a247ea

Last week we covered the first half of The Marriage Jam Tanks! If you've been leaving your tanks empty it really stresses your relationship. This week we are breaking down the last 5, let's jam!

Awwww yeahhhh!! It's remix time!! This is a special edition to our original Tanks episode which was audio only. We are breaking it up into 2 parts, Tanks 1-5 are ready for your attention!!

No one can be right 100% of the time. We're all human, we make mistakes and we grow. So how important is it to right your wrongs with your partner? Let's Jam!

It seems so simple but we all struggle with this in our relationships. Whyyyyy??? Let's jam!!

Just like those first sweet sips from your favorite bubbly drink... in time, your relationship can lose its fizz. Join us for a special Valentines Day edition to TMJ where we discuss how to get that fizz back for yourself & with your partner! Let's Jam!

This week we are talking about the safety that can either grow or diminish between you and your partner. How do you make repairs when you start to lose that feeling of safety? Let's Jam!

Ever wish you said something different? Well that happens to us too. And as we say, we aren't afraid to have the tough talks on this podcast. So pull up a chair and joins us as we remix our first ever episode New Beginnings, let's jam!

We all seem to have some pretty lofty ideas about "True Love" and what that actually means, way before we get into relationships. Let's jam!

It's Friday, so you know what that means... time for another episode of TMJ!! Today we're discussing cross training. A term you've probably heard plenty of times in a work setting, but have you ever applied it to your household & relationship? Let's Jam!

If you've been working on your New Year's resolutions, it's only fair that we talk about the confidence it's gonna take to help you keep it going throughout the year! We are breaking down confidence and how it affects relationships, let's jam!

Welcome to 2026 and the new and improved Marriage Jam!! We are here to kick off your new year with some fresh takes on New Year's resolutions!

Last week we discussed communication, this week watch your step as we navigate the dark side with emotional stuffers and emotional barf!

Why is it so hard to just talk sometimes? Or when you do... nothing comes out right. Today we are taking a deep dive into communication. Let's Jam!