The Loving Truth

In any controlling relationship, there are two contributors, whether you realize it or not - the controller and the receiver. Most of us wouldn’t admit to being controlling, but almost everyone has controlling tendencies. Think about it - we all want to feel safe. And in order to diminish our fear, we often resort to controlling our partner. But do you truly want to control your spouse, or would y...

If your marriage has become disconnected and lonely, you may yearn for “a return to fine,” even knowing, deep down, that isn’t enough. Even when pain is pushing you toward a place of transformation in your relationship, it may feel easier to simply let it all go, releasing that tension. But is that truly what you want? In this episode, I will share with you how fear factors into our relationship h...

When you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go in a loveless marriage, fear can be paralyzing - fear that you’ll hurt your husband, fear that you’ll end up in an even more painful situation, fear that you’ll make the wrong decision and regret it. In this episode, I teach you how to get the missing information you need to make the right decision about your marriage - one you’re completely confi...

In many cases, it’s not until the husband is faced with divorce that he’ll begin making the changes his wife has requested for years. But as the wife, how can you tell whether these changes are genuine? Is it safe to assume this is your “new normal,” or will he revert back to his old ways as soon as you take divorce off the table? In this episode, I explain why this phenomenon is so common in marr...

Making the decision to end your marriage is a journey of its own… but breaching the subject to your spouse is a whole different story. How do you tell your husband - someone you likely still care deeply for, the father of your children, whose life has been intertwined with yours for years or decades - that it’s over? In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to have this difficult conversation w...

When women reach out to me about their affair, they’re often experiencing a whirlwind of emotions: adoration for their new partner, guilt over their spouse’s feelings, and, above all else, utter confusion about how to move forward. For reasons unbeknownst to them, they can’t bring themselves to let go of their marriage, yet ending the affair feels impossible - and maybe they’ve even tried and fail...

Until the 1970s, women couldn’t file for divorce without hard evidence of abuse or infidelity. Today, divorce rates are skyrocketing - and it’s the women who are leaving in droves. In this episode, I explain what’s caused this massive shift in modern relationship dynamics. I also explore the biological differences between men and women and what causes imbalanced marriage satisfaction over the year...

You might’ve thought that 20 years into your marriage, you’d have it all figured out… but that’s rarely the case. In fact, the divorce rate for couples aged 50+ is skyrocketing, and it’s the women who are serving the papers. In this episode, I explore why that is and what makes relationships falter after decades spent together. You’ll learn about new challenges to anticipate in a mature marriage a...

Most couples acknowledge the concept of “emotional infidelity,” but what does it actually mean? Flirting? Exchanging provocative photos? Sharing intimate life details that create deeper feelings? In this episode, I’ll show you two ways to define emotional infidelity so you and your partner are both crystal clear on expectations. I also explore why emotional affairs happen (even to people who never...

It’s well known that first marriages end at a rate of 40-50%. But why do second marriages end at a rate of 67% and third marriages at 73% - despite the extra relationship experience accumulated? In this episode, I explore what we take with us from relationship to relationship and how responsibility is shared in divorce. I also share ways to heal yourself and shift your “background music behaviors”...

In times of desperation, it’s something we ask everyone around us - friends, family, even the internet… “Is my marriage over?” Unfortunately, as you may have found, getting outside opinions on your marriage will never lead to your own answer. In this episode, I’ll share the one path that will consistently bring you to a place of clarity so you can determine whether it’s time to reinvest in your ma...

When their concerns are brushed off, women often give up trying to fix the marriage, leaving them dissatisfied for years on end… and leaving men completely blindsided when faced with divorce papers. The truth is, in most relationships, both parties could be doing more to give the marriage a fair shot. And if we don’t make critical changes sooner rather than later, the decision of whether to stay o...

Are you and your partner living like roommates? Do you have love for your spouse, but you’re not IN love with him? Do all of your interactions revolve around logistics - kids, running a household, work, etc.? Like anything worth having, marriages will suffer from disrepair over time if we neglect them. And if we don’t make quick moves to change things, we could lose our chance to restore the conne...

Society will tell you that marriage is the finish line… but in reality, it’s just the beginning. Too many of today’s marriages suffer from neglect (and, in turn, disconnection) because we place our marriages on a shelf, expecting them to last through the ages without proper attention and care. In this episode, I share some of my best practices for regular relationship “upkeep” to repair and mainta...