The Loving Truth

If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better!  Most relationship issues can be traced back to problems with communication, right? There might be a lack of communication, a handful of miscommunications, a lack of understanding… the list goes on.  But here’s what I want you and your partner BOTH to consider: Are you as interested in what your partne...

How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information should I share with my kids about our divorce? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who are stuck at an impasse and struggling to move forward. Together we’ll get clear about what’s necessary to make a change and how to...

When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges…  In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to explore neurodivergent marriage and more! Now, you don’t need a diagnosis of ADHD, OCD, autism, etc. to enjoy this episode… rather, Dayna explains how learning to communicate better with your partner is actually about understanding them (and yourself!) bette...

Feeling a loss of attraction and desire for your partner is very common… even when you’re recovering your marriage to a healthy place.  Many of us think that a “spicy” marriage (or an intimate connection) is what’s lost to our youthful naivety or the “magic” of something new. But it’s actually about biology .  In this episode, I’m going to get a little nerdy and talk about healthy hormones, PLUS 4...

When’s the last time you felt truly heard by your partner? When’s the last time you enjoyed a serious conversation together… or agreed on a solution after an argument?  Errors in communication are the most common problem I see with unhappy couples - because men and women communicate differently! And we often communicate for very different reasons.  In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’l...

How do I know if my spouse is genuinely changing or not? Can I trust his new good behavior will last? What can we do if my husband wants to open our marriage and I’m not sure? How do I move forward after my husband’s emotional affair with a coworker?  In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who want to understand how to encourage positive changes to make a marri...

Men and women communicate very differently and for very different reasons. And if you don’t understand how and why, it’ll cause problems that strain your relationship. So what do you need to know and do differently to communicate better in your marriage In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about why men and women communicate differently, why it can cause issues, and the brain...

You know how each person can see something different when looking at the same piece of art? Perspective is the same way. Your perspective is uniquely yours, and it’s built through belief which is shaped in the first few years of your life by multiple things like your environment and the people in it. In that way, your beliefs are also like art, bringing together multiple elements to create the big...

Feeling frustrated by the same interactions and experiences with your partner? Perhaps you and your spouse are having the same arguments over and over again, or you’re still not affectionate with each other. How will your life look and feel a year from now, though, if you do nothing different? You might think you know the answer, but you’ll only be partly right. In this episode of The Loving Truth...

If you need to end a relationship, you want to try to do it in the most loving and peaceful way possible. This is something I say often, but there’s one problem with it: not everyone wants to be loving and peaceful about separating. One of my clients, parent coach Julie Zivah, finds herself in a highly contentious divorce with her husband of 22 years. Yet she has found a way to keep her peace whil...

Are you avoiding spending time alone with your partner? Do you feel like you’ve lost momentum on going forward with your divorce decision after talking about it with your spouse? I answered a couple of questions from Tiffany and another caller who found themselves in these situations. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about how you get to a place of disconnection in your mar...

So you’ve decided to end your relationship in divorce. What’s the first thing you should do next? The answer might surprise you. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about a much more productive first step you can take instead of the one that most likely immediately comes to mind. I’ll also teach you why it helps you commit to your decision to end your marriage. 1:19 - Your fi...

You feel like you’re at the end of your rope when it comes to your marriage. Divorce looks like the inevitable next step...but is it? What if there was another way? What if there was the possibility of still saving your relationship by evolving it into a newer, better version? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast , you’ll learn about the divorce alternative that many of my clients have used...

“What other people think of you doesn’t matter.” You can hear that a thousand times. You can even tell it to yourself over and over until you’re blue in the face. And while a select few may not be rattled by it, most of us feel the effects of someone else’s judgment. But you can bounce back instead of letting it affect you for weeks, months, or a lifetime. In this episode of The Loving Truth podca...

Want to move forward with decisions in your life and marriage? That’s what my monthly Q&As are designed to help you do! And today, it’s time to answer questions from three more listeners for November. Sherry is on the verge of going to a divorce lawyer and is afraid. Amanda has a stressful situation that has caused her husband to separate from her and use her as an emotional punching bag. And...

Do you trust your partner? Even when we say no, we often don’t consider exactly what it is we don’t trust about them. This goes beyond cheating, by the way, which is what most people automatically think of when it comes to trust in a marriage. Having a lack of trust anywhere in a relationship creates disappointment, disconnection, and a lack of intimacy with your spouse. What areas of your marriag...

You’d think if our society failed at something 40-50% of the time, we’d probably be doing everything we could to solve the problem... Yet, we don’t do that with the institution of marriage, which sees that rate of divorce among first-timers (it’s even worse for second and third marriages). Instead, we assume our partner is the problem; therefore, the solution is just getting out of the relationshi...

You’ll find stuff that scares the crap out of you as a parent, if you search Google on the impact of divorce on kids. And while it’s not wrong, it’s not the full story either. There’s something missing from statistics that show the effects of parents divorcing on their children. How you and your husband go through the process is really what’s critical to their emotional well-being. In this episode...

Do you cringe at the thought of sex with your husband? Do you even recoil from his intimate touch? After helping sooo many women in my work, I can count on one hand the number of women contemplating divorce who still enjoy sex with their spouse. But how do we get from “til death do us part” and the honeymoon night to moving away when he reaches for you for some intimacy? While there are several re...

Infidelity involving a husband and his wife’s sisters, a hesitation to leave Mr. (Fake) Nice Guy behind, and a curious question about vibrators, oh my! These are the circumstances involved in the relationship questions I answer on today’s show. You’ll hear from Sylvia, Sarah, and Kim in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast. You’ll learn about moving forward after a triple betrayal involving si...

Are you trying to remain in your relationship after an affair but fear that it’s going to happen again? Whether it was you who cheated on your partner or vice versa, you need to understand the reasons behind it. Otherwise, the relationship will never heal, the trust will remain eroded, and you might just find yourself back in the same situation. So in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’...

Things were different then. When you first met your spouse, you were looking for a certain something. Now that you’re years (perhaps even decades) into your marriage, that search has evolved into something else. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how what you’ve sought from your relationship has changed since its beginning. I’ll also teach you why this unfolding proces...

In the coaching world, some ideas can seem a little out there. For example, the idea of creating a conscious relationship may feel a little airy fairy to you. I mean, it sounds like a good idea. But what exactly does it mean? What does a more conscious relationship look like, and how do you create one? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn what it takes to create a more conscio...

It’s that time again! In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I’m doing another Q&A about your greatest relationship challenges. And today, you’ll hear my answers to the following voicemail questions from an anonymous caller and Jennifer: Is it normal to want to know all the details of my husband’s affair in order to process and get over it? Am I wrong to want to leave my husband of 23 ye...

Are your conversations with your husband stale, awkward, or practically non-existent these days? Maybe you talk about the same things over and over because it’s “safe,” or you’ve just gotten stuck in a routine. Regardless, you no longer feel as close to him as you used to. So, how do you get back to having normal, interesting discussions after work, on the couch, around the dinner table...or on a...