The Loving Truth

One of the top fears of women considering divorce is: What if I’m alone forever?  In this episode, I’ll share the story of one of my clients stuck in limbo because of her fear of being alone. I’ll explain why you can’t solve this problem logically and offer five benefits of being alone that you probably haven’t considered before.  (Listen in for my personal experience with the fear of loneliness,...

“Anger gives us courage… but courage is not the same thing as clarity.” – Sharon Pope The renowned sociologist and life coach Martha Beck taught me to ask a very important question when I’m feeling unclear about my next steps.  In this episode, I’ll share the question, the brain science, and the first step to take if you feel unclear about a decision in your relationship. I’ll also talk about the...

You’ve just told your partner how you’re feeling disconnected and unhappy… and they respond, “Oh, we’re just fine!” Why do we invalidate our partner’s feelings like this? (Why do we accept invalidation as enough?) In this episode, I’ll explain how to face this communication challenge head-on. “When one of us isn’t fine, we’re not fine as a couple.” – Sharon Pope Struggling to decide whether to sta...

How can two opposing viewpoints both remain “true”? We often think in binaries: “ Everything is all good or all bad. I’m right, so you’re wrong.” But this isn’t reality: Human relationships are complex. So how can we allow for the nuance of holding two truths at the same time?  In this episode, I use my difficult relationship with my dad as an example for how we might expand our thinking to envelo...

Are the men in your life a “life-long project?”  In this episode, I’m talking about why it seems your husband is a “man-child” and what you can do to change this. I’ll dig into topics of co-dependency, the different expectations we have for men and women, and how this impacts our sons and daughters, too. Mentioned In This Episode Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’...

Too many women never leave their partners solely because they’re afraid of being alone later in life. In this episode, I’ve invited fellow Relationship Coach and the Chief Love Officer of Last First Date , Sandy Weiner, to break down the myth that “late love” is anything less than True Love. Sandy details both the challenges and opportunities of finding love later in life (or post-divorce) from li...

“You can always find your way back to each other… should you both want that.” - Sharon Pope Your marriage will evolve through several important stages of relationship, and this episode we examine each one.  You’ll learn why you can’t think straight before you get married (and why you find your partner annoying soon after), the major neurological change that happens to women who have kids, and whic...

If you have any kind of relationship at all, you and your partner will surely argue… but will you repair your relationship afterwards? In this episode, I’m explaining why it’s important to repair the connection with your partner after you’ve had an argument or disagreement, plus 6 ways to get started (even if your partner doesn’t have any “relationship tools”). You’ll also hear me explain the 70/3...

We look for safety and security at the beginning of our relationships… so why do we end up resenting these same things in our marriages? Let’s get curious about this 180° turnaround with a real-life example from one of my clients.  Vicki built her life around feeling secure, but then she started to feel restless and even oppressed by the predictability of her marriage. She started wondering -  “Wh...

Jennifer discovered that her husband has been cheating for two years - and bringing his affair partner to their home. She’s struggling to reconnect (with herself and her husband) when she knows that his betrayal happened in the space they share.  In this episode, I offer some advice to help Jennifer prioritize her own healing and avoid the re-traumatization of her husband’s affair. To anyone who’s...

How do you know if you’re in a “semi-happy” marriage? What’s the solution to a marriage that’s just “fine”? In this episode, I explain what you need to know about “low conflict, low passion” relationships, how to escape “the comfort zone” of a semi-happy marriage, and why you can’t wait for your partner to ignite your passion.  Mentioned in This Episode Struggling to decide whether to stay or go i...

Sometimes it’s the simplest advice that makes the biggest difference in our lives. In this episode, I’m sharing the advice that’s made the biggest difference for me (much of which came from unlikely sources - people I didn’t know or even like!) You’ll hear some advice that’s taken me years to unpack, a powerful moment with my inner-self during my separation and divorce - plus the hard part about “...

In this episode of The Loving Truth , I dive deep into the dynamics of blame in relationships. I pose the question: why do we so readily reach for blame, and how does it impact our marriages? I explore the emotional drivers behind blame, the consequences of outsourcing our lives to others, and how to take back our power by taking responsibility for our own choices. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the...

In this episode, I explore the powerful and often misunderstood role of guilt in relationships, especially when considering a major decision like ending a marriage. I discuss how guilt, while sometimes a healthy indicator of empathy and self-awareness, can cross into codependency. I explain how taking responsibility for others' emotions often leads to self-abandonment and living a life that’s...

In this milestone 100th episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I reflect on my journey in podcasting and deliver a powerful, practical guide to saving marriages. I dive into the top ten habits that silently destroy relationships, providing insights into how we unknowingly harm our marriages through technology, complaints, and passive behavior. I challenge listeners to consider their role in building...

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I address the deeply painful issue of serial cheating. Inspired by a listener's story of repeated betrayal in her marriage, I delve into why some people may repeatedly break trust. I explain how inner conflicts, addiction to novelty, and a lack of self-awareness can lead to ongoing infidelity. Finally, I offer compassionate advice on how listeners...

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I dive into the complexities of love and safety in relationships. I discuss how, despite our desire for security, love inherently involves risk. I share personal insights about how seeking "safe" partners can sometimes lead to boredom in long-term relationships and I explore why people choose predictable love for comfort, yet crave excitement...

In this episode of The Loving Truth , I tackle a topic I never expected to cover: navigating political differences within a marriage. I explore how political disagreements can add strain to an already complex relationship and share practical tools to maintain respect and connection, even when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on politics. I emphasize the importance of curiosity, critical t...

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I talk about the impact of technology on relationships, particularly in long-term committed marriages. While technology provides us with more ways to connect and access information than ever before, it has also introduced challenges that can make it harder to nurture close, intimate relationships. I explore both the positives and negatives of technology’s ro...

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of going through a 'gray divorce'—divorce after the age of 50. Divorce is never easy, but divorcing later in life comes with its own set of complexities, from financial considerations to emotional shifts. I share valuable insights, statistics, and advice for those navigating this stage of life and r...

In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I address the complex and often painful decision of leaving a good man. Many women find themselves in a situation where they are married to someone who is genuinely kind, caring, and stable—yet they feel unfulfilled or disconnected. I share my personal experience and explore the challenges of holding two truths at once: loving and caring for a good person wh...

“Will my partner ever change? Because I really want him to.” What a great question - and it’s one I hear all the time.  Let me start with this: Yes, people can change. And I can say this with deep humility… the person I was in my first marriage is NOT the person I am now.  In this episode, I talk about the ways I’ve changed in my own relationships (and the reasons why), plus what we really have co...

Do you want your marriage… or do you just WANT to want it? This is an important distinction (and something I teach inside my membership program: The Decision ).  In this episode of the podcast, I share the story of Sue: She’s got the “perfect” marriage… but she’s unhappy with it. I talk about why this might be, plus how she can take steps to fix the problem.  Whether or not you relate to Sue’s pro...

Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want… but what about you?  If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, you know a fair number of things you can do differently. But listening to new information is only part of the equation.  What’s your next step ? In this episode, I’ll explain why it might be time to embody the tools you’re learning (plus, how to get...

Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation… even though we’ve all been told to expect less sex the longer we’re married.  So… what exactly happens to intimacy the longer we stay in committed partnerships? In this episode, I’ll explain why desire wanes the longer we’re married and what to do to prioritize YOUR pleasure. Because the proble...