The Loving Truth

When trust breaks down in a relationship - whether through gaslighting or financial secrecy - it leaves us feeling unsteady, unheard, and stuck. I’m coaching through two painful but common dynamics: what to do when your partner denies your reality, and how to move forward when you're being kept in the dark about finances that impact you both.  I walk through what it looks like to reclaim your...

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from your partner, you’re not alone—and it didn’t happen overnight. In this episode, I’m walking you through the subtle ways closeness fades over time and how to get it back. I’m sharing 15 specific, actionable ideas that will help you and your partner feel more emotionally connected again. Whether you pick one or try several, this is about creating moments of r...

Does it feel like you’re doing it all - managing the home, the kids, the emotional labor - and your partner is just along for the ride? I'm sharing real coaching from inside my membership where one woman asks whether she can ever regain respect for her husband after years of doing everything herself. We talk about what happens when we over-function in our marriages, how that invites our partn...

One of the most common frustrations I hear from women: “Why do I have to lead this?” If your marriage is struggling and you’re the one noticing the disconnect, it can feel unfair to also be the one doing the emotional heavy lifting. But someone has to take the lead—and that someone might need to be you. "If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem." I’m shari...

Have you ever wondered why the spark seems to fade over time? Desire doesn’t disappear because something’s wrong. It fades because everything is the same. I explain the science behind why familiarity suppresses desire and how we mistakenly attribute pleasure to the person (like a number three) rather than the physiological reaction in our own body. I also share what we can do to bring desire back...

“It’s not always about what’s missing in the marriage—it’s sometimes about what’s missing in the person.” In this deeply insightful episode of The Loving Truth , a listener asks why her husband betrayed her despite what seemed like a happy marriage. I explore why infidelity happens even in relationships that appear strong on the outside, uncover the emotional complexities, subconscious fears, and...

In this episode of Ask Sharon, I’m sharing real questions from women inside my membership program and the unfiltered coaching that followed. We talk candidly about the overuse of labels like "narcissist," what it's really like to be married to someone on the spectrum, and how to communicate with partners who default to defensiveness. Whether you're feeling stuck in diagnosis-mo...

What does it mean to ‘quietly quit’ your marriage? What are the implications of grieving a relationship without having the hard conversation(s) first? And why do we do it?  In this episode, I’ll explain ‘The Quiet Quit’ as it pertains to long-term relationships.  I’ll define the hard conversation(s) necessary for a marriage on the rocks—and the reasons we avoid them I’ll explain ‘The Quiet Quit’ a...

Real questions, real coaching, and real breakthroughs .  In this episode of Ask Sharon, I invite you inside my membership program for a deep-dive into transformational relationship coaching that happened on a previously recorded live coaching call. In this episode, one of my members details all the fear that’s coming up as she prepares to tell her husband that she’s ready for divorce . I walk her...

“My spouse is not going to allow for a peaceful divorce—no matter how much I want that.” Karen McMahon joins me for this special episode of the podcast to answer an important question: “ How do I navigate divorce with a high-conflict partner? ”  Karen is the Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce and the Host of The Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast . She has 14+ years of coaching experience guiding 650+...

“How do I know if I’m staying for the wrong reasons?”   This episode gives you an exclusive peek inside my membership program and a real-life coaching session with a client who says, “I love him, and we’re incredible roomates… but how can we possibly reconnect with all this resentment between us? How do I know if I’m staying for the wrong reasons? ” The thing about resentments is: We carry them wi...

When it’s time to have a difficult conversation with your partner (or frankly, with anyone you love) you can’t just ‘wing’ it. There must be conscious intentionality behind your words and your actions .  In this episode, I’ll give you 4 important reasons why you might need to have a difficult conversation, plus the most common reasons these conversations fail and what’s required for them to succee...

“I don’t want to let go of something that’s so important to me. But it’s not working anymore.” This is an emotional episode (because this is an emotional topic). Welcome to a recorded coaching session* with one of the members inside The Decision . This client has been married to her partner for more than a decade. They have two children together. Right now, they’re struggling with a circular argum...

“I thought if I could just fix myself… my marriage problems would resolve.”  –Rachel Hollis On the podcast this week, we have a very special guest… Welcome RACHEL HOLLIS to The Loving Truth podcast! Rachel is a two-time #1 New York Times bestselling author whose work has impacted millions of people worldwide. You probably know her from her wildly popular books: Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop...

“Everything in life changes. Sometimes you grow together. Sometimes you grow apart. This is the nature of life.”  – Sharon Pope on The Loving Truth podcast Take a sneak peek into what happens inside my membership program in this special episode of The Loving Truth podcast.  You’ll hear a real-life coaching session with one of my clients who asks -  Will my kids think I’ve tried hard enough to save...

Soooo many women ask me this question: Can I really be married… and free?  By now you know what I think about this: Freedom is a requirement for a happy, healthy, loving marriage! But I know it’s not so simple when you feel trapped by your relationship and imprisoned by your commitment to another person.  In this episode, I want to challenge what you believe about relationships—and the ways you de...

They were living like roommates. Then she had an affair . Is this marriage salvageable? (Does she want it to be?) In this episode of Ask Sharon, I’m taking you inside my membership program with a real-live conversation with my client, Elsa*. We talk about -  How to ask the ‘right’ questions to make better decisions The difference between money problems… and drama What to do if you’re financially d...

This falls into the category of “Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me” (before I got married!) If you’ve reached midlife and you’re married or divorced: You probably didn’t think about any of this either.  It’s easy to ‘lose’ yourself within your relationship—especially if you’re a woman. But it doesn’t have to be like this! (In fact, it shouldn’t be like this.) In this episode, I’ll give you the rem...

Too many women find themselves overfunctioning in relationships—particularly in midlife.  You’re doing the heavy lifting of the emotional and mental load for your entire household: The logistics of family activities, the caretaking for your kids and spouse… all of it.  But while you’re busy meeting everyone else’s needs, you’re also abandoning your own. In today’s episode, I’ll share 3 powerful co...

There’s one key similarity with all the couples I see in unhappy marriages…  In this episode, I’ll share the #1 reason people remain dissatisfied and stuck in these relationships, plus the real price you have to pay to build a healthy marriage.  “Temporary discomfort is the price of freedom.” - Dr. Joe Dispenza Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about fi...

Building a healthy marriage is not rocket science… so why don’t we do it better?    Today’s episode is dedicated to the men in our lives: These are the ingredients for a good, healthy marriage! I’ll talk about what it means to pay attention to your partner, how to avoid driving your marriage into a ditch, and how to course-correct when things aren’t working well in your relationship. Listen in for...

What will make your marriage feel ‘good’ again… beyond comfortable companionship?  Women are often MORE unhappy in marriage than men. In this episode, I’ll give you 3 reasons why. I’ll talk about the different expectations we have, how men and women define ‘success’ in life, and why marriage has always been a better deal for men than women. This episode is especially for you if your marriage is ‘g...

You know the ‘right’ thing to do. You know the ‘logical’ decision. So why is it so hard to end your affair relationship?  In this episode, I’ll give you 5 reasons why you’re struggling to end an affair—and I’ll start with a hint… you’re not making this decision with logic! That’s not how you started the affair, and it’s not how you’re trying to end it.  Listen in for another “loving truth” about t...

If “decision paralysis” has stalled your next steps forward, this episode is for YOU! I’ll explain why an endless loop of “possibilities” keeps you in limbo and how to narrow your pool of options to finally make decisions with a little more ease. I’ll introduce you to my client Faith* who feels lost in a cycle of “Should I Stay Or Go?” and give you the only real question you need to ask yourself. ...

In my experience working with women in unhappy marriages, the topic of their partner’s addiction has become increasingly common.  In this episode, I tell the story of my client Shelley* whose partner struggles with an addiction to alcohol—but in fact, that’s not the whole story. There’s something else going on. You’ll hear the possible wounds beneath addictive behavior and how we might take action...