The Love Movement

Waiting for someone to text back so you can finally feel okay? That's not about them — that's about you. In this episode, Lama breaks down why you keep outsourcing your worth to other people's actions, how to identify the thoughts behind the anxiety, and how to shift into a confidence that no one can take from you. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and eve...

Having doubts about someone doesn't mean they're the wrong person — it means your brain is doing exactly what it's supposed to do. In this episode, Lama breaks down why doubt is a normal part of getting to know someone, what to do when the "what ifs" feel overwhelming, and how to tell the difference between real deal breakers and your brain just trying to keep you safe. Ready to go deeper? Visit h...

Detachment doesn't mean giving up — it means stop letting marriage determine your worth. In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to detach from the outcome, why needing marriage so badly is the very thing pushing it away, and how to go after what you want from a place of peace instead of panic. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everyth...

Everyone is carrying a secret pain that no one else will ever fully understand — even the people who look like they have it all together. In this episode, Lama talks about why that loneliness exists, why getting married won't make it go away, and how channeling that pain to Allah is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching...

If you're constantly struggling to find someone attractive or connect with anyone, it might not be about them — it might be the fear of getting stuck. In this episode, Lama breaks down how the fear of settling is quietly blocking you from actually connecting with anyone, what settling really means, and why finding someone you want to struggle with is the whole point. Ready to go deeper? Visit http...

Still struggling to feel physically attracted to someone who checks every other box? This episode picks up where part one left off. In this episode, Lama breaks down why nitpicking on someone's looks is usually about your own insecurities — and how learning to see yourself as worthy, flaws and all, is what actually opens you up to real attraction. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr...

Physical attraction is important — but your mind might be blocking you from seeing it clearly. In this episode, Lama breaks down why your standards of attractiveness are often rooted in insecurity and outside noise, how to tell the difference between genuine incompatibility and self-sabotage, and when it's okay to simply let someone go. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1...

Before you can find the right person, you need to understand what's actually driving your search....and for most people, it's a wound, not a desire. In this episode, Lama breaks down the three things every human needs to feel — loved, safe, and significant — and why looking for a spouse to fill those voids is what's keeping you stuck in the first place. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaab...

There's a lot of noise out there about a "marriage crisis", and it's making things worse, not better. In this episode, Lama gets real about why fear and scarcity thinking are the biggest things blocking you from getting married, and why the only foundation that actually works is faith in Allah's power over your own logic. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching...

Most people think they know what they want in a spouse, But do they really? In this episode, Lama breaks down how to figure out what you're actually looking for, the difference between being picky and being intentional, and how to stop letting ego-driven standards block you from finding the right one. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you ne...

If you don't know what you value, you'll let anyone into your life, and wonder why it never works out. In this episode, Lama breaks down why understanding your values is the most powerful screening tool you have, and how building a life you actually love is what attracts the right person into it. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to...

The biggest difference between people who get married and people who don't isn't luck, looks, or circumstances It's a decision. In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to decide you're getting married, why that one shift changes everything, and how to stop letting fear and self-doubt talk you out of something Allah already wants for you. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaa...

"We just weren't compatible." But what does that actually mean? In this episode, Lama breaks down what compatibility really is, why most people are focused on the wrong things, and how to figure out what actually matters in a marriage before you get there. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for. Watc...

Everyone's talking about manifesting, but most people are using it in a way that has nothing to do with Islam. So what does it actually mean to manifest your spouse the right way? In this episode, Lama breaks down the Islamic perspective on manifestation, why your dua loses power when you've mentally already given up, and how true submission to Allah is what actually moves things forward. Ready to...

The marriage process is already a journey, but most people are making it so much harder than it needs to be without even realising it. In this episode, Lama breaks down the hidden thoughts and stories that are weighing you down and keeping you stuck, and how cleaning them up can make the whole process feel lighter, clearer, and a lot less painful. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr...

Whatever you expect in relationships, your brain will find a way to make it your reality.......good or bad. In this episode, Lama breaks down how your expectations of the opposite gender are quietly shaping how you show up, who you attract, and why the same patterns keep repeating, and what to do to finally change it. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and...

Ever wonder why some people seem to find a spouse effortlessly, while others keep hitting the same wall? It's not luck.....it's identity. In this episode, Lama breaks down the real difference between people who get married and people who don't, and it has everything to do with how you see yourself, not how hard you're trying. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coach...

Every failed attempt at a relationship can quietly chip away at how you see yourself, and without realising it, that becomes the very thing keeping you stuck. In this episode, Lama breaks down why your self-concept is the foundation of everything when it comes to finding a spouse, and how the way you see yourself is exactly what you'll keep attracting.....until you change it. Ready to go deeper? V...

Think of finding a spouse like going to the mall. If you walk in desperate and convinced you'll never find what you want, the whole experience feels exhausting. But if you walk in grounded, curious, and knowing you'll be okay either way… everything changes. In this episode, Lama breaks down why the process feels so draining for most people and how to approach it from a calm, logical place — so you...

If you've had a few failed experiences and started thinking "maybe marriage just isn't written for me," this episode is going to change how you see that. Because the moment you decide it's not written for you, you start making that your reality. Lama breaks down why that thought is keeping you stuck, what to replace it with, and how to actually show up on your search with conviction — because what...

If the search for a spouse feels exhausting and emotional, you're probably approaching it the wrong way. In this episode, Lama breaks down the one mindset shift that changes everything , every person you meet is either your person or they're not. Full stop. No more taking rejections personally, no more trying to force connections that aren't there. Just a clear, grounded approach to finding the ri...