The Love Movement

The people who handle relationships the best aren't the ones with no flaws — they're the ones who've stopped running from theirs. In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to be mentally strong, why facing the parts of yourself you're most afraid of is what makes you unshakeable, and how accepting that you're both good and bad at the same time sets you free. Read...

Stressing about your future spouse won't make it come any sooner — just like watching brownies bake doesn't make them cook faster. In this episode, Lama uses a simple analogy to break down what detachment actually means, why focusing on the lack of what you don't have is robbing you of the blessings in front of you right now, and how trusting that your dua is already "in the oven&...

When you're not happy with your life, anyone who shows up and says the right things feels like the one. That's not love — that's infatuation. In this episode, Lama breaks down why infatuation hits so hard when your self-worth is low, how to stop your brain from making someone into something they're not, and the practical guardrails that keep you clear-headed while getting to know s...

Getting married won't fix your loneliness — and if you go into marriage trying to fix it, it'll only get worse. In this episode, Lama breaks down where loneliness actually comes from, why it's not the problem you think it is, and how befriending it instead of running from it is what actually opens you up to love. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and every...

Understanding why you show up the way you do in relationships is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. In this episode, Lama breaks down the three attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, and secure — what each one looks like in real life, and how identifying where you fall on the spectrum is the first step to getting yourself to a healthier place. Ready to go deeper? Visit https:...

If you've been in the talking stage for months with nothing to show for it, this episode is for you. In this episode, Lama breaks down how dating culture has quietly crept into the way Muslims approach getting to know someone, why becoming someone's unofficial girlfriend is costing you time and clarity, and how to show up as an observer looking for a fit rather than someone trying to make it work....

You don't need to earn love. You never did. In this episode, Lama breaks down why the thought "I don't deserve this" is quietly blocking you from receiving what Allah is trying to give you — and how practicing gratitude for the small things is what opens you up to the big ones. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse yo...

You don't have to wait for a spouse to start feeling happy. The joy you're looking for is already available to you right now. In this episode, Lama breaks down why gratitude and happiness are actually the same thing, what's quietly blocking you from feeling it, and how to start accessing it today — before anything in your life changes. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-...

A healthy marriage isn't two perfect people — it's two messy humans who choose each other anyway. In this episode, Lama breaks down what healthy intimacy actually looks like, why the idea that you need to be fully healed before getting married is keeping you stuck, and how real love is built not in the perfect moments but in how you come back after the hard ones. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://...

Marriage isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience—it’s shaped by the values and agreement of the two people involved. In this episode, Lama explores different marriage dynamics, from traditional roles to equal partnerships and companionship-focused marriages, and why none of them are universally right or wrong. She explains why clarity on your own expectations is key when choosing a partner, and how f...

The reason you keep catching feelings for the wrong person may have less to do with them—and more to do with the beliefs you're carrying about yourself. In this episode, Lama explores why we become attached to people who aren't right for us, how situationships begin, and how the need for validation can quietly influence who we choose and what we find attractive. Ready to go deeper? Visit h...

They're a good person, their values align, everything checks out — but you're just not physically attracted. Sound familiar? In this episode, Lama breaks down why instant attraction isn't the standard, how social media has completely warped what we think we should find attractive, and why learning to stay curious instead of dismissing someone too quickly might be the shift that changes everything....

After everything, the mindset work, the values, the talking stages, it all comes down to this. In this episode, Lama closes out the series with the most important reminder of all: none of the practical work matters without conviction in Allah's power. Your dua, your submission, your trust — that is the final step. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and...

What if the problem isn't that no one checks the boxes — but that you don't know how to open up once they do? In this episode, Lama breaks down the skill of actually learning to love another human being, why the "boring" consistent ones are often the right ones, and how getting curious instead of dismissive is what creates a real bond. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaab...

You might be getting in your own way without even realising it. In this episode, Lama breaks down the most common self-sabotaging patterns — from anxious people chasing the wrong ones to avoidants running from the right ones — and how to catch yourself in the moment before you ruin something good. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need t...

There's a big difference between needing marriage and wanting it — and that difference changes everything about how you show up. In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually looks like to come from a place of desire instead of desperation, and why getting to that sweet spot is what makes the whole process feel lighter and leads to better decisions. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.l...

You can't find your person if you're not putting yourself out there — but how you show up matters just as much as where. In this episode, Lama breaks down how to use the apps the right way, how building a genuine community creates the conditions for Allah to send your person, and why showing up as your best self is the most powerful thing you can do. Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.l...

This journey is going to have high moments and really low ones — and knowing how to navigate both is what keeps you from giving up before you get there. In this episode, Lama talks about how to grieve the expectations that didn't come true, why letting yourself feel the lows is actually what opens you up to the highs, and how to keep making dua with conviction even when nothing seems to be mov...

Why are you attracted to the ones who barely text back — and bored by the ones who actually show up? That's not chemistry. That's your attachment style running the show. In this episode, Lama breaks down anxious and avoidant attachment, how each one shows up when you're getting to know someone, and why understanding your patterns is what finally helps you stop sabotaging the good ones....

There are two ways you can show up when getting to know someone — from your authentic self or from your ego. And the difference determines everything. In this episode, Lama breaks down how to tell which one is driving you, why the ego makes the whole process harder than it needs to be, and how to get back to your most grounded self so you can actually see clearly whether someone is right for you o...

You've spent 90 days getting to know someone — now comes the hardest part. Do you say yes or no? In this episode, Lama breaks down how to make the decision to move forward with someone without the fear of getting it wrong, what settling actually looks like versus normal human imperfection, and how to say no quickly and respectfully when you know it's not right. Ready to go deeper? Visit ht...

You've matched with someone — now what? Most people either rush in emotionally or drag things out indefinitely. This episode gives you the actual plan. In this episode, Lama breaks down how to approach the talking stage with intention, why the 90-day process works, and how to stay focused on finding your person instead of getting lost in whether they like you. Ready to go deeper? Visit https:/...

You've been putting the pressure of every single want and need onto one person — and that's part of why the search feels so impossible. In this episode, Lama breaks down what a "want match" actually is, how to get clear on what your spouse genuinely needs to have versus what you can build into your life another way, and why spreading out your needs is what makes you actually read...

You can't find the right person if you don't know what you actually value — and most people are searching based on surface-level checklists that have nothing to do with what actually makes a marriage work. In this episode, Lama breaks down how to identify your core values, why living those values is the best screening tool you have, and how to look past how things show up to find what actu...

The reason you keep showing up the same way in relationships isn't bad luck — it's the story you've been telling yourself without even realising it. In this episode, Lama breaks down the three categories of beliefs that are quietly running the show — what you think of yourself, what you think of the opposite gender, and what you believe Allah can do for you — and how identifying and ch...