The Liberated Life - When Did You Last Feel Free?

You have probably said it, or thought it. They just aren't meeting my needs. And then come to some version of a conclusion about what that means. That they don't care. That you're incompatible. That you will never get what you need from anyone. In this episode, Lucy unpacks something that has nothing to do with whether your needs are valid, because they are, and everything to do with how often we...

A woman almost left a relationship a year and a half ago because it felt too intense, too hard, too uncomfortable to be right. She is getting married this year. In this episode, Lucy unpicks one of the most damaging myths we carry about love. The idea that if someone is right for you, it will feel easy. You will find out why discomfort in a healthy relationship is not a signal to leave, and why al...

You have the impressive job, you check off your workouts, you can name your attachment style and still you find yourself on a Sunday evening with absolutely no idea who you are when the title comes off. In this episode, Lucy talks to psychotherapist Tracey Kiernan, a former corporate lawyer who left law after years of high-functioning anxiety, about what is actually happening underneath the perfor...

You have tried the holidays. The nice restaurant. The new bag. The weekend away. And somehow the low-level meh, the disconnection, the loneliness in the middle of a full life, is still there. In this episode, Lucy comes back from the retreat with something she cannot stop thinking about. The gap. The gap between the character you built to survive the world and the actual version of you underneath...

You can talk about your struggles for hours. You can share your shame, your fears, your failures, the parts of yourself you are still working on. That part is easy. But ask you to spend three minutes bragging about what you are genuinely brilliant at, and something tightens. Something goes quiet. Something finds a reason to say I don't really know where to start. In this episode, Lucy comes back f...

You have been told to calm down. You have told yourself to calm down. And it has never once worked. In this episode, Lucy sits down with somatic practitioner Stephanie Nelson to talk about why that advice is not just unhelpful but actually works against the very thing you are trying to do. You will understand what is really happening in your body when you cannot stop yourself doing the thing you k...

You have felt it before. A close friend meets someone, or falls pregnant, or gets the thing you have quietly been waiting for. And you feel happy for her, you genuinely do, and also something else entirely. Something that does not have a polite name. Something you push down because you are not supposed to feel it. In this episode, Lucy and her close friend Tessa sit down to dissect, in real time,...

You have built your entire identity around being excellent at things. And for a long time, that worked. The grades, the career, the reputation. There was always somewhere to point to and say, look, I am doing well. But there are parts of your life that have been sitting quietly in the corner for years, underdeveloped, untouched, a little frozen in time. Intimate relationships. Play. Creativity. Em...

There is a version of you that got very good at living inside the rules. The career, the calendar, the careful performance of having it together. And somewhere underneath all of that, something else entirely has been waiting. In this episode, Lucy sits down with Camille Akass, a woman who went from burnout coach navigating the corporate world to dancing twelve hours a day at festivals and crying o...

You know the version of you that finds magic in small things, that feels possibility rather than dread, that wakes up and actually wants to be alive in her life. And you know the other one. The one that turns up when you are depleted, when you have been pushing too long without a real break, when the normal human challenges that you usually carry with ease start to feel enormous. The one that whis...

There is a version of self-development that takes you further from yourself with every step. More frameworks. More identities to perform. More evidence that the answer is somewhere out there, in the next programme, the next coach, the next approach. And there is another kind entirely. The kind that brings you back. In this episode, Lucy joins Louise on the Your Way podcast for a conversation about...

At some point, probably more than once, you have asked yourself what you actually want from your life. And if you are honest, the answer has been some version of I don't really know. Not because you are not intelligent enough to figure it out. Not because you haven't tried. But because for most of your life, you have been so well trained in reading what everyone else wants that your own signal has...

You have been to the weddings. All of them. You have stood in the wings of what feels like everyone else's life, smiling genuinely and also, privately, wondering when yours actually starts. You have told yourself you are fine with being single, and sometimes that has been true. You have also told yourself that the reason you are single must be something fundamentally wrong with you, and that has p...

You are not broken. You are not ungrateful. But there is a good chance that somewhere along the way, in the pursuit of the next level, the next salary, the next thing to get right, you quietly lost access to delight. Not in a dramatic way. Just a slow, almost imperceptible compression of your experience of life until you can stand somewhere genuinely beautiful and feel almost nothing. In this epis...

You might have started small. A question you weren't ready to ask a friend. Something you needed to process at 11pm when calling someone felt like too much. A thought you were a little embarrassed about and needed to say somewhere without consequence. It felt fine. Maybe even helpful. But there is something happening underneath that that is worth paying attention to before it quietly costs you mor...

You have done everything right. The impressive job, the serious career, the identity built around being the person who gets things done. And somewhere along the way, the parts of you that were creative, curious, maybe even a little bit magic, got quietly filed away under things other people get to do. In this episode, you'll get to hear from someone who was global head of strategy at an advertisin...

You know how to hold it together in a room full of strangers. You know how to come across well, how to say the right things, how to make sure people see the version of you that has it sorted. You've probably been doing it so long you don't even notice it anymore. It just feels like personality. In this episode, you'll hear what it actually costs to live like that, and what becomes possible the mom...

In this week’s episode of The Liberated Life, we explore the quiet fantasy so many of us carry that if we could just change the right external thing, life would finally feel better - a different job, a different partner, a different city, a different version of ourselves. This episode unpacks why changing the outside rarely creates the fulfilment we hope it will, and why the same sense of “meh” ca...

You know the version of you that has an opinion but doesn't say it. That has a desire but talks herself out of it. That works incredibly hard, gives generously, and quietly makes herself smaller so no one feels uncomfortable. You probably don't call it the good girl. You just call it being professional. Being considerate. Being realistic. In this episode, you'll find out why that patte...

There is a word you say so automatically you don't even notice you're saying it anymore. Someone asks how you are and before you've even checked, before you've taken a single breath, it's already out of your mouth. Fine. And here's the thing about fine. It's not neutral. It's not just a social nicety. Every time you say it, you are training yourself that your actual...

You have read the books, listened to the podcasts, done the therapy, absorbed the frameworks. You know your attachment style, you understand your nervous system, you can articulate your patterns in impressive detail. And somehow, despite all of that, something still feels off. Stuck. Foggy. Like you're doing everything right and yet the thing you're actually looking for keeps not arriving....

You have probably heard the word psychedelics and felt something. Curiosity, maybe. Fear, possibly. A quiet sense that there might be something there worth understanding, but you haven't quite known where to start or who to trust with the question. This episode is for you. In this conversation, you'll find out what psychedelics actually do in the body and brain, and why the experience is s...

You have been told it will just happen when it happens. And for a while, you believed it. You went on the dates, you did the work, you read the books, you know your attachment style inside out. And yet here you are, still getting anxious with the ones who like you, still getting bored with the ones who are actually good for you, still watching everyone around you pair off while quietly wondering w...

You've done enough personal work to know your patterns. You've read about attachment styles, you know your triggers, you've probably even done the therapy. And still, something keeps happening. The ones who feel electric tend to disappear. The ones who are actually available somehow feel wrong. Off. Too easy. Maybe even boring. In this episode, you'll find out why that is, and it&#...

You have probably dated an avoidant man. Maybe you are in a relationship with one right now. Maybe you have been told, or have quietly suspected, that you have some avoidance of your own. And yet almost everything out there about avoidant attachment is written from the outside looking in, which means you understand the pattern but you still have no real idea what is happening on the inside of it....