The Kid Code Playground

Do you have a fifteen-minute drive you’re taking today? Have a listen to see if you can use some of these strategies like ‘the complaint fizzle’, making stories up while doing jobs to make jobs more fun, the solution oriented family conflab once a week meeting, calming down to communicate so we don’t teach that being upset is the way to be heard, and transition days techniques to help with shared...

There are simple ways to dissolve the idea that you will only be valued if you do, do, do. Reflection and self-care are the solutions to ending overwhelm and burnout. Once you do these few simple exercises you will feel like a new person and show up for your kids in the more clear, joyful way. Then you show up loving your life with time and energy for what matters: you and your kids. Show Notes St...

Nicer language might be: don’t be a nasty. Don’t be a nincompoop. Don’t be…you decide. Listen to find out how to make behavior modification into a game of sorts that everyone in the family can play. Winner gets to…well, you and your family can decide. Show Notes: Is This Woman Ever Going To Do Timed Show Notes Again? I don’t know. The podcasts are too short for that.   Hosted on Acast. S...

Go from nasty to nice by using a ‘checkmate for the misery-making mind’ strategy every time you have a negative thought that threatens your inner peace. You can still get your needs met or have a difficult conversation—you can just remain calmer and more rational which makes for more effective outcomes. Listen to find 13 ways to ‘turn down or turn off the volume’ when a negative thought tries to ‘...

Do a little experiment and see if should and shouldn’t statements subtly activate the fight, flight, freeze response inside of you. Should and shouldn’t tell us we’re not good enough and that can’t be true because we’re here on the planet—we must be good enough! How can you change your language when you notice that you are using should or shouldn’t on yourself or others? Listen for some ideas on m...

Don’t wait for a scary diagnosis or life altering event to change your life to the way you want it. My priority became love flooding when I was diagnosed with cancer—because everyone flooded me with love, and it changed my life. Since it’s true that everyone is dying, we just don’t know when, instead of spending so much time putting out fires with our kids, spend some time finding out what each pe...

It doesn’t feel like it in an upset with our kids or anyone else, but there are only two states to be in right after the upset arises: presence or pain. In the state of presence, we feel calm, centered and unbothered. Why do we feel unbothered in the state of presence? Because there is no past or future in the present. There are no old patterns, old emotions, old wrongs done to us, and there are n...

Listen to discover how to help yourself and kids every day with every kind of upset. Use the strategies you like best and if you need a reminder, they’re all in the book, The Kid Code. The Kid Code teachers have simple and short online classes that teach the codes to you, too at www. TheKidCode.ca A few reminders are: -When you come to the Y in the road, the moment of upset offers two opportunitie...

I’m not sure why we insist on being heard. Just say what you want to (and suffer the consequences without complaint). “What if I didn’t say anything, how would I feel inside?” Serene is how I felt when I stopped telling Blake where parking spots were that he could see all by his grown-up self! Sometimes we don’t need to be heard. Let this lesson help you become a more peaceful parent. Show Notes S...

Carlos Castaneda, an American writer said, “We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” Kids challenge us—a lot. We have a long list of buttons they push: they don’t clean their room or listen, they talk back… What if we put our energy to work to regulate ourselves back to our peaceful, calm, kind nature instead of wasting our energy putting it...

This podcast is dedicated to Dana, Cole, Ny and Eclipse (Ny’s companion working dog). Emotional pain can be left in the moment it happens! It doesn’t need to inform the next moment or ruin your day. When you say the words, “There, got through that one,” in a lighthearted way after any troubles with you or your kids is over, you reset yourself to your true and good nature. Okay this was a tiny bit...

The words "I’m willing," when they are felt as they are spoken can clear a lot of emotional baggage. Clearing that stuff can’t get simpler than that. Using this simple exercise not only seemed to have healed my foot, but also gave me relief from self-devaluation, a useless and painful emotion. Notice your upsetting parenting emotions and try this simple but powerful exercise. Show Notes: Still not...

 Resentment eats us alive. Louise Hay, founder of Hay House, teaches a simple way to forgive yourself and others so you don’t go on feeling the inner pain resentment causes. Listen now to hear the simplest, shortest, and most effective technique for forgiveness you will ever find! Louise says all you have to do is be willing to forgive and the Universe will take care of the rest. Freedom is o...

If you want your kids to listen, change the energy behind your words. Everyone will benefit. One way to change your energy is to notice how you feel when you speak with your kids. If you’re frustrated, angry, or are lecturing—the feeling of frustration, anger and being lectured is what the child registers and they don’t want to listen. If we speak from a calm place, the child registers that and is...

If you could let go of the upset around any problem that arises (your kids act out, the garbage spills all over the floor, someone gives you the you-know-what on the freeway because you accidentally cut them off…) would you let go of it? What would be strong enough to let you let go of the upsets? You are invited to let go of all problems and upsets as they arise because your peace matters more th...

My wise young granddaughter educated me the other day by saying we need to make more space for kids. She pointed out that we make physical space for them when they’re born but go on treating them like children and then expecting them to have adult responsibilities and emotions. What does it mean to you to give your kids space? Take three minutes to listen to this podcast to provide relief for ever...

Wouldn’t you love a strategy that keeps you stress-free when encountering difficult people (including your kids)? There is no gain in being difficult. Take three minutes to listen to this podcast to keep yourself calm and rational when others aren’t.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are out of our integrity if we don’t pursue what we want and get our own needs met. Kids know what their parents and their peers want for them, but they often don’t know what they want for themselves because they place too much value on seeking approval from one or the other. Decrease stress and increase connection with others in your life and want for others what they want for themselves. Take...

We wish we didn’t have to, but all of us, including our kids are going to go through tough times, climb what look to be insurmountable mountains and feel like we can’t handle what life is delivering. All of us, including our kids are going to have physical, mental, and emotional bumps in the road, so when they come, use the wise words from a dear cousin of mine to go from overwhelmed to solution o...

 When we look after our own mental and emotional wellbeing, we are teaching our kids to do the same. Show Notes: It’s one minute long, listen to the whole thing to see how to stop being owned by negativity! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can save a whole lot of trouble with a pause and this simple question, “What is this kid trying to teach me?” when they act out, act up and act like the wild little creatures they sometimes are! When they’re slow setting the table, sassing you, refusing to do homework or household chores, what to do? Listen—it’s only a couple of minutes—to find out how to find your inner Oracle and replace you...

The Mayo Clinic says being positive can reduce risk of death from a number of diseases, lower levels of depression, distress and pain and increase resistance to illness. I say being positive is your True Nature and raises your bliss barometer so that you can love your life. What to do? Collect coins as you stomp on your negative nut and set the record straight! https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-l...

t’s an inborn instinct to behave in ways that we think will help us survive. We can be conciliatory or domineering in an attempt to secure our position. The way to stop some of the sibling rivalry involves notes and pillows and mirrors. Have a two-minute listen to learn more. 1:17 Siblings rival to establish their security. 1:50 Assessing each child’s survival behaviors (conciliatory to avoid conf...

Do you feel like it’s too much, sometimes? Do you feel like something tips you over the edge of being ‘able to handle’ it? Except the reality is that you’ve lived through a lot and that proves it’s never actually been too much, even when it feels like it is! Listen to the simple lateral logic in this podcast, designed to disempower the belief: it’s too much—and bring your relief. Once you’ve gotte...

Remember the box we called The Past? Use it on each mistake you made over the holidays and then move on to using these practices that cause wellbeing. A simple practice is to give 100% of your attention to watching as you get upset: watch the impatience, watch the anger and what it does, watch the hollerer as it comes out of you, etc. They say it takes 10,000 hours of doing something to become a m...