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No matter what we think, we will never find happiness by controlling others, even if it seems like if we control things, all will be right in the world. Find out how to dissolve the painful impulse to control with a few simple silent statements! Show Notes I wonder if I’ll ever do them again? Probably not when the podcasts are so short. Should I? Please let me know if they matter to you: brenda@th...

Dr. Jordan Peterson has a simple, respectful way to help you communicate with and understand your kids or anyone else, and—to help them learn to articulate—and that helps them to become clearer in their thinking. This is tremendously helpful in the world we live in today.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Isn’t it strange that we do things we don’t really want to—like react negatively towards our kids? This podcast helps us see that we can correct our own course with a simple question. Show Notes: Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness https://www.serene-hypnosis.com 403-498-8884 eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re talking about how to ask a few simple questions to go from making decisions that lead to some degree of destruction to making decisions that come from a place of collaboration—and way less internal stress. Show Notes Eliot’s contact info: Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness https://www.serene-hypnosis.com 403-498-8884 eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. Se...

We can take our instructions from a negative thought or ask ourselves a simple question or two to change course! That sounds too easy. Try it and see! Show Notes: Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness https://www.serene-hypnosis.com 403-498-8884 eliot@paramountlearning.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This simple secret is like taking a feel-good tranquilizer without the side effects when stress arises around the never ending ‘to-do’s’! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who are you grateful for? Why? How did that change you? How can you use that to help your kids and others? Contemplating how your life changed and how you can help others feel peaceful instead of panicky or paranoid is a good life-skill.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With this recap of our Kindness Series you are invited to take the joy-causing strategies into your future with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Princess, Lady Diana, and The Pauper, Mother Teresa both led lives that were blessed in some ways and impoverished in others—what they had in common—and spread around themselves, was kindness.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dedicate your day to kindness with a simple affirmation in the morning when your eyes pop open—and silently count how many times you can be kind to yourself and others each day—for the next week.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Were you born lovable?   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Regulate yourself out of unkindness and cruelty before the urge materializes—with one simple statement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that when, on autopilot, we judge another person, we are doing it to make ourselves feel superior, feel better? The cure for the unkindness of judging another human being is in providing ourselves with inner security. Listen to see how. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you (unconsciously) gain by not forgiving yourself? Are there any more good reasons you can find for not forgiving yourself? Can you see that it’s actually ludicrous to not forgive yourself? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Making a mistake is not a good enough reason to not forgive yourself, withhold love from yourself, be unkind to yourself. Making a mistake that’s not remedied causes guilt and that causes suffering. This simple strategy will guide you to the freedom of forgiving yourself! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A quick reminder and simplified version of ridding yourself of guilt over how you’ve treated your kids and others awaits! If we want to be truly free to naturally be kind, we have to dissolve the learned parts of ourselves that hold on to the idea that we’re bad and should feel guilt. Our job is to blossom ourselves, not devalue ourselves and if we’ve been mean to someone, it will store in the unc...

Self-honesty, a few minutes, and 6 simple steps to letting go of guilt and finally giving ourselves the kindness of forgiveness. This is one of the most helpful exercises I’ve ever done to dissolve guilt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What are the stumbling blocks to giving yourself kindness? You can’t hate yourself into being a better person, so that thinking needs to go. Believing that you’re not good enough, or believing you’re bad because bad things have happened to you isn’t a good reason to withhold kindness. We shouldn’t be forgiven because we’ve done bad things also isn’t a logical argument for not giving ourselves kind...

Take a couple of minutes to think about what kindness means to you when you demonstrate it to your kids and other people. Is it kind to show patience, compassion, playfulness (when your kids want to play, for example), etc. What else can you do to show kindness to the people in your life? Can you think of someone who is kind and see how and why you would like to live like that? Can you give that s...

There is a remarkable physical and mental phenomenon that happens when kindness is given and when it’s received. It can pull you out of an upset in an instant, and put you into a blissful state that overrides pain. Listen in to see how you can use this to your benefit and of course, for the benefit of your kids! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re feeling snappy and crappy, ask yourself, “Right now, is there a good reason not be kind to other people or to myself?” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Six minutes of ideas to find peace when your partner’s ex is a bee in your bonnet! No one is worth your peace—choose one or two of these ideas and use them every time you get stung! Show Notes Not yet. Maybe never. These are short, short podcasts with quick and effective ideas to self-regulate into joy. Go! xoBrenda www.thekidcode.ca Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is anybody or anything worth your peace? If you have 13 minutes to spare, you can gain insight into how to lead the charge out of protest against your ex and into peace for yourself, learn why people lash out, and discover 6 quick tips to dissolve your resentment and anger towards your ex. While you definitely won’t like all of these at first glance, if you do them, you’ll love the result and so w...

The subtitle says it all: I don’t like them, but I want them to like me. Why do we want the other to like us, approve of us, agree with us, fawn all over us? Why? To make us feel important, valued, needed, wanted, accepted, indispensable, and superior to name a few false gains from this way of living. Would you rather be peaceful, kind, and playful or important, valued, accepted, needed, wanted, i...

 Anyone can use this strategy, but you’ll have to hold on and wait for the wisdom of it to resonate with you. You will have to use it and have the personal experience of it helping you regulate yourself from protest into peace when your kids or your partners kids are acting out. Wanting what the other wants for themselves doesn’t mean we don’t have wants and needs that need to be met. It mean...